She Hates Me!

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Posted by curliegirl

I would have the other one enlarged and have DH give it to her and say, your DIL is now a part of this family, so here's your family photo.......eat that!

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I agree with this wholeheartedly. I would also explain that when you have kids, they will be half yours, and since you aren't welcome, then your kids won't be welcome either, so she can kiss any relationship that she was thinking of with them right out the window!

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Posted by Taken2005

When I told my husband, he flipped out and called her to see if maybe she made a mistake (I did not want him too, but he was way upset). She said 'no, I didnt make a mistake. I just want a photo of my family'.

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That is the cruelest thing I have ever heard. I am so sorry.

She needs to understand that from now on, you are jer family.

I am so sorry.....but happy that your DH stuck by you...it's really so sad to not feel loved by in-laws...

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Posted by curliegirl

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Posted by nov04LIbride

My mom had one blown up of her, my brother, me, her mother, and my uncle, no DH. She has other smaller ones with all of us, but I think she just wanted to have one of her family, and I know DH is a part of that now, but it isn't the same. They have a great relationship, and he didn't care. I blew one up for my MIL of just her children, without me. I know I am a part of their family, but I would understand her wanting one with her children.

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I am sorry, but I completely disagree. This is about your wedding, not just another family get together. And would it be such a big deal to have them in the picture? Use another picture to blow up from another event, not the wedding and then leave the bride or groom out!!!

That's just wrong!!!!

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That is exactly what I thought too. The weddind day photos should have the bride in them too!!

I had something similar happen to me. We gave my MIL the option of picking some photos to frame from our wedding. She picked a 5x7 of me and DH and all the rest (about 5-6 photos in 4x6 size) were of her, DH and the rest of the family - without me.

My MIL also sent us a check for Christmas and addressed it to DH only and told him 'HE (not we) should buy xxx with the money.' She also writes him letters all the time and they are only addressed to him.

Now, my MIL and I have a cordial relationship. We'll never be best friends, but we get along. But one thing I know - DH is her ABSOLUTE FAVORITE CHILD (she has 4), and he was the last to get married (at 38 yrs old), so she has been used to having him all to herself, so to speak. So I think all of these problems stem from her NOT BEING ABLE TO HANDLE THAT HE HAS A NEW WOMAN IN HIS LIFE.

Kind of sick, isn't it? But I think a lot of moms have this issue. I am sorry you have to deal with his mom's issues. Hang in there.

I don't know what to say to this! I can send lots of hugs! Just know that you and FH are family and that's all that matters at moments like these!

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Posted by Taken2005

I WOULD NEVER SPEND TIME WITH THAT WOMAN UNLESS I HAD TOO.. it was Mother's Day..had to go.. but I am learning to be busy from now on when it comes to her..

Please I am throwing my husband a surprise 30th bday in 3 weeks, she is invited of course, she has not asked me once if I need anything, or called to see how plans were going, i just HATE HER!

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Hang Tough... You know she will have nothing but terrible, negative things to say about the party. Your situation sounds so much like someone else I know from this site, that I had to check your 'name', info twice. Just realize you aren't alone with this sort of horrid BS. She is a miserable woman who can't help but get off on making everyone else equally miserable.

Ug. I hate stuff like this!!!!!!!!!!!!

OMG, all I can say is I am so sorry.