I have told my mom on several occasions that i dont want a bridal party. The close friends i did have moved out of the country and are not able to make it back to the states. My fsil showed that she does have any interest in the wedding or being in the wedding and i am not close to any of my cousins. My FH's bestfriend also did not show any interest in being in the wedding neither. So we decided not to have a bridal party. So my mom has been nagging me that i should have one or else i will look lonely walking down the aisle . But i really dont want one i dont have close friends, FH and i are loners. So today she calls me while im at work to say that i should have a bridal party and all this nonsense..like wth how many times must i say i dont want one!!!
Sorry guys just venting..ugh!!!
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in all honesty i understand where your mother is coming from BUTTTT it is YOUR wedding and you should do what you and FH decide ... even if it is not what your mother wants. stick to your guns ... she'll get over it
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I agree. . why should you ask someone to pay money on a dress, have to buy them a gift, etc, etc if you have no real connection with them. .. . maybe you could each ask one person. . but if you dont want to I dont see why you should. .. if she is really worried about you walking down the aisle alone. . then you could have a few family members walk down more as part of the procession as opposed to early seating but I think you're FINE. . it's your wedding - do what makes you and FH happy !!!!!!
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I wish it wasnt this way but i have no one that i am close to so why bother with the wedding party. I hope she does get over it..., because i am not changing my mind..Thanks for listening to my rant lol
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I completely understand you... it must be frustrating to retell the same explanation over and over.
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I agree. . why should you ask someone to pay money on a dress, have to buy them a gift, etc, etc if you have no real connection with them. .. . maybe you could each ask one person. . but if you dont want to I dont see why you should. .. if she is really worried about you walking down the aisle alone. . then you could have a few family members walk down more as part of the procession as opposed to early seating but I think you're FINE. . it's your wedding - do what makes you and FH happy !!!!!!
Exactly why bother asking someone if they dont really care about the wedding. I had asked FH's sister and she showed she didnt care so we decided then screw it we won't have anyone. My FH's bestfriend hasn't even bothered returning his phonecalls.How mean!!I was thinking of having my godmother and godfather walk down the aisle and then my mom walk me down the aisle.
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I completely understand you... it must be frustrating to retell the same explanation over and over.
OMG i want to scream already!! lol..Even my FH explained to her why we are not having a bridal party and it went in one ear and out the other.
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If you're having a small or informal wedding then I definitely don't think it's necessary. If it's more formal or larger, I can see her point BUT like so many of the girls have said it's YOUR day. Normally I believe that the day is about your family too, but there's a fine line between including your family and being dictated by your family. If you really don't want one, she should leave you alone about it. It's not like you're not inviting ppl that are important to her, you just don't want a big processional. So what? When my mom annoys me w/stuff like this I just tell her the most ridiculous thing I can think of. Like if she nagged me about this I would just tell her that I'm narcissistic and don't want to share the lime light with anyone. What can you say to that? LOL.
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lmfaoo @ sharing the limelight...thats a good one i like that lol..Im having around 65 guests so its a fairly small wedding and i will probably have around 20 guests come to the actual ceremony.I've invited people that i dont speak to but since they are close to her they have been invited so i have been more than accomodating to her wants. She just cant understand that i dont want a bridal party because im just not that close to anyone. I have friends but i have only known them for a short time and dont want to include them because i dont want to regret later on that i put someone in my bridal party and i dont talk to them anymore.
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I'm not having a BP. I'm walking halfway and my FH will meet me and we will walk the rest together.
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I think it's awesome you're not having one. If that's what you want, then that's fine! I don't think you'll look lonely- as a matter of fact, I really don't think many people would even notice!
I think a large wedding party is great, if you're friends with all of those people. I recently went to a wedding where the bride had 8 people on her side of the party, and she barely knew any of them. All of the girls were from work- she even asked me, and she had known me for only 9 months.
I said no.
And it's not like it's bad to have all girls from work- if you're friends with them. That was not the case. It was not pleasant. For the life of me, I don't know why they didn't say no, except that it is really uncomfortable saying no sometimes. This girl just wanted a big wedding party. Hey, if that's your thing, great. Just like if NOT having one is your thing, that's great, too. Good luck!
The day is all about YOU and FH, not anyone else.
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I think it's awesome you're not having one. If that's what you want, then that's fine! I don't think you'll look lonely- as a matter of fact, I really don't think many people would even notice!
I think a large wedding party is great, if you're friends with all of those people. I recently went to a wedding where the bride had 8 people on her side of the party, and she barely knew any of them. All of the girls were from work- she even asked me, and she had known me for only 9 months.
I said no.
And it's not like it's bad to have all girls from work- if you're friends with them. That was not the case. It was not pleasant. For the life of me, I don't know why they didn't say no, except that it is really uncomfortable saying no sometimes. This girl just wanted a big wedding party. Hey, if that's your thing, great. Just like if NOT having one is your thing, that's great, too. Good luck!
The day is all about YOU and FH, not anyone else.
Thanks !! See i dont want that, because who knows if a year from now she will even know these ppl. I dont want ppl in my pictures that i may say eww i cant stand her. I rather have no one its better for me at least..lol.
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I'm not having a BP. I'm walking halfway and my FH will meet me and we will walk the rest together.
Thats a great idea too
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I'm having a MOH and a Best Man only. All because I didn't want the drama and stress of a BP.
I totally understand!
MrsGRod09
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I was also dreading the stress with the dress fittings and the tuxedos so im happy that i wont have to deal with it
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lmfaoo @ sharing the limelight...thats a good one i like that lol..Im having around 65 guests so its a fairly small wedding and i will probably have around 20 guests come to the actual ceremony.I've invited people that i dont speak to but since they are close to her they have been invited so i have been more than accomodating to her wants. She just cant understand that i dont want a bridal party because im just not that close to anyone. I have friends but i have only known them for a short time and dont want to include them because i dont want to regret later on that i put someone in my bridal party and i dont talk to them anymore.
That's a pretty small wedding and you can definitely get away w/not having a BP and it'll look just fine!! ESPECIALLY since you're only having 25ppl to the ceremony. I'm not even sure it would look right. I would seriously just tell her silly stuff every time she brings it up. Tell her stuff like 'mom, everytime you bring this up one of your friends gets axed from the invite list'. Or 'mom, not only do I not want a BP, but now I'm only going to allow me to the alter and my FH & priest will have to say their part from their seats b/c I want all eyes on me.' When my mom keeps persisting I just tell her if she wants 'xyz' to happen at the wedding then she can do it when SHE gets married again.
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lmfaoo @ sharing the limelight...thats a good one i like that lol..Im having around 65 guests so its a fairly small wedding and i will probably have around 20 guests come to the actual ceremony.I've invited people that i dont speak to but since they are close to her they have been invited so i have been more than accomodating to her wants. She just cant understand that i dont want a bridal party because im just not that close to anyone. I have friends but i have only known them for a short time and dont want to include them because i dont want to regret later on that i put someone in my bridal party and i dont talk to them anymore.
That's a pretty small wedding and you can definitely get away w/not having a BP and it'll look just fine!! ESPECIALLY since you're only having 25ppl to the ceremony. I'm not even sure it would look right. I would seriously just tell her silly stuff every time she brings it up. Tell her stuff like 'mom, everytime you bring this up one of your friends gets axed from the invite list'. Or 'mom, not only do I not want a BP, but now I'm only going to allow me to the alter and my FH & priest will have to say their part from their seats b/c I want all eyes on me.' When my mom keeps persisting I just tell her if she wants 'xyz' to happen at the wedding then she can do it when SHE gets married again.
Exactly and i have seen other brides not have a bridal party and it looks great. I would just have a flower girl and thats it. I guess she just doesnt ppl to talk that it looks bad but i could care less..lol..That would be hilarious if i told her that if she keeps harassing me i will delete someone off the guestlist
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That's a pretty small wedding and you can definitely get away w/not having a BP and it'll look just fine!! ESPECIALLY since you're only having 25ppl to the ceremony. I'm not even sure it would look right. I would seriously just tell her silly stuff every time she brings it up. Tell her stuff like 'mom, everytime you bring this up one of your friends gets axed from the invite list'. Or 'mom, not only do I not want a BP, but now I'm only going to allow me to the alter and my FH & priest will have to say their part from their seats b/c I want all eyes on me.' When my mom keeps persisting I just tell her if she wants 'xyz' to happen at the wedding then she can do it when SHE gets married again.
Exactly and i have seen other brides not have a bridal party and it looks great. I would just have a flower girl and thats it. I guess she just doesnt ppl to talk that it looks bad but i could care less..lol..That would be hilarious if i told her that if she keeps harassing me i will delete someone off the guestlist
Yeah, I can be a pretty evil child at times. LOL
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That's a pretty small wedding and you can definitely get away w/not having a BP and it'll look just fine!! ESPECIALLY since you're only having 25ppl to the ceremony. I'm not even sure it would look right. I would seriously just tell her silly stuff every time she brings it up. Tell her stuff like 'mom, everytime you bring this up one of your friends gets axed from the invite list'. Or 'mom, not only do I not want a BP, but now I'm only going to allow me to the alter and my FH & priest will have to say their part from their seats b/c I want all eyes on me.' When my mom keeps persisting I just tell her if she wants 'xyz' to happen at the wedding then she can do it when SHE gets married again.
Exactly and i have seen other brides not have a bridal party and it looks great. I would just have a flower girl and thats it. I guess she just doesnt ppl to talk that it looks bad but i could care less..lol..That would be hilarious if i told her that if she keeps harassing me i will delete someone off the guestlist
Yeah, I can be a pretty evil child at times. LOL
Its okay i am too lol
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I completely understand you... it must be frustrating to retell the same explanation over and over.
OMG i want to scream already!! lol..Even my FH explained to her why we are not having a bridal party and it went in one ear and out the other.
dont worry about everyone else! u do not NEED a bridal party! u just need to do what will make u happy. Its ur day, not ur mothers, not anyone elses but u and FH! do what makes u happy.
PS, u wont look lonely walking down the aisle alone! u will have all eyes on u, and thats the way it should be!
