I rarely post on here but I do lurk now and then, but I need to vent. I'd ask for advice but I don't really know if there is anything I can do at this point.
Basically, one of my 'friends' has been with her boyfriend a little over a year and wants to get married on our wedding date (9/20/08) because it will be their 2 year dating anniversary. We got engaged January 07 (when they had been dating just a few months) and knew we wanted to have a September wedding. Our hall was only available on certain dates, so we picked the one that worked best for us.
We didn't think it would be an issue at all, and to be honest we didn't even know that was their dating anniversary. I'm not trying to be mean but this girl has a new boyfriend every few months so we weren't expecting anything to last.
Now, THEY ARE NOT ENGAGED YET but she seems to think they will be soon (her birthday is coming up). She also wants our date and is fuming that we would get married on their anniversary. I don't know that they are going to get engaged and that they will have time to plan a September 08 wedding, but it's too late for us to really change anything. Our vendors are booked, etc.
I'm afraid she's going to get engaged and then set her date the same as ours. We have a lot of mutual friends. She's also making me feel horrible because she said even if they dont do a September 08 wedding I'm stealing her special day and their anniv will always remind them of our wedding and not themselves.
I never expected this to spiral out of control this way. Am I wrong here?
catsgirl
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sounds to me like she is jealous, you keep your date, stand your ground, she will get over it... and if she dont then it is her problem. smile girl your gettn married in sept of '08'
jgl
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screw her
she is a biotch.. and if she is acting like this.. she is not a friend. she needs to grow the f up
jessicaNmike2008
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do you think we should still invite her? she isn't in the bridal party but i had considered her a pretty good friend. we already sent out STDs which is what set off this madness
i mean, i could always tell her if she wants her anniv to herself that badly she can just not come, but i'm afraid that would end our friendship
MikeandJess
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this girl sounds like she's a few french fries short of a happy meal. Don't worry about it, you were engaged first, you picked your date first, who in their right mind (unless they were stalking her) would even think they shouldn't get married on a particular date because it is her DATING anniversary? Who cares?! She might be committed before she actually gets married, I wouldn't be worried.
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I am having my wedding that day too. She doesn't sound much like a friend. I was first married 15 yrs ago. My ex and I were married on one of his good friend's wedding anniversary. Their answer was that they were so glad to come and that it was a great day to pick. For the next 5 or so yrs later, the 4 of us went out for our anniversary dinners. This is the time you learn who your true friends are. They are the supportive, caring people that do whatever it takes to make your day perfect. You have enough stress, it is time to ditch the 'friend' before she ruins your day even more. She won't be better on your wedding. you need to set the date that works for you.
alissa5517
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She is being ridiculous!!! I'm sorry to say this but a true friend would be happy to share! There is nothing for you to do. You have no way to change the date and you should not even think of it. If she is that selfish as to book hers the same day then anyone that goes to hers instead of yours is an idiot!
Butterfly123
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Wow! I dont even know what to say about this girl. She is so selfish. And she's not even engaged yet. Sounds like she's very jealous. Dont you dare change your date and give her that satisfaction. Its not like you did it intentionally. Thats ridiculous. For that matter, you should send out a memo to all your guests making sure they dont have any special events going on as to not interfere. Gimme a break!
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Whoa-oh-ohhhhh....are you kidding me? That is the most outrageous, selfish and craziest thing I've ever heard of! To NOT even be engaged and demand 'HER' date.....she's nuts! I'd tell her that that will now be your anniversary date to and if that's the date they get then enjoy their wedding day. I mean, you planned already and have vendors...your invites would go out WAY before theirs, so you'd get the yesses anyway. If she still flips a $hit I'd tell her, 'Listen....when you get engaged GOOD LUCK getting that date, let alone booking THIS year. Let her know that she caused you drama and don't even want her at your wedding when HERS doesn't work out...ugh, some people are out there!
AugustBridein09
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I'm glad you wrote the word friend in quotation marks b/c she seems like a completely selfish, bratty, immature, *itch! Some of the things she said are RIDICULOUS!
hwolf812
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OH MAN!!! what a fuc*ing a$$hole. im sorry but who the hell does this girl think she is? shes not even engaged yet??? what a big time loser for making you feel this way. i wouldnt even talk to her any more. give me her phone number and i will set ther straight...
TheFutureMrsM
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Your friend has lost her mind....she isnt even engaged yet, our wedding date is other peoples anniversarys, birthdays etc....You should just ignore her, she is being irrational!!
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Posted by hwolf812
OH MAN!!! what a fuc*ing a$$hole. im sorry but who the hell does this girl think she is? shes not even engaged yet??? what a big time loser for making you feel this way. i wouldnt even talk to her any more. give me her phone number and i will set ther straight...
very tempting!
angl2001
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she is out of her mind...and anyway...your friends know you were engaged first so i would think they would go to yours over her. I am so sorry its horrible that she is doing this!!! That girl has some nerve
i wanna kick her in the head!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
bluekat16
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She sounds like a selfish little b*tch. I wouldn't change anything to accomdate her. My wedding date is my MOH's anniversary and a close friends b-day and they're more than happy that I'm getting married on that date.
Get rid of this friend...she's not a true friend.
freda83
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I don't think you should worry about it. That is the say you picked and that is fine. If i asked every guest i was inviting to my wedding what days are important so i don't have it on those days, i wouldn't be getting married. Now i don't know your friend but maybe she is just jealous that you are getting married first. Weddings make people act crazy. JMO
tiff940
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Dont sweat it...she probably wont even end up getting married this year if engaged at all. Shes not even engaged yet...how the heck is she going to get married in a few months? Unless shes super rich or her parents have a whole bunch of money just sitting around how is she going to pay for a wedding by September?
Soon2beAlberti
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ok dude...your friend needs to grow up and stop being a jealous baby. She's only been with him for a little over a yr. obviously you've been with your man longer...not that it matters. I HATE WHEN GIRLS START PLANNING & FANTASIZING ABOUT THERE OWN WEDDING DAY TO THE POINT WHERE THEY GET JEALOUS OF YOURS....GET OVER IT!
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OMG that is f**king ridiculous!! i can't believe a friend would do that. she can't be that good of a friend, i'm sorry to say. that is just rude and selfish. i'm sure that is upsetting, but i wouldn't worry about her!!!
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I think your friend is being a little ridiculous. You should plan your wedding around another couple on the chance that they get engaged in time to plan a Set 08 wedding? W T . F?
You did NOTHING wrong. Tell this chick to get a grip.
babieblueeyez96
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If she is not engaged yet she has no right to plan her wedding, thats JMO, if this 'friend' is getting mad at you for something like that, then she isnt a very good friend at all. There are only 365 days in a year, one person can not claim an entire day just for them, if everyone did that there would not be nearly enough days for everyone, if she plans her wedding for the same day (which to me seems insane if they arent even engaged yet, i dont know how they would plan an entire wedding in 6 months, but you never know) then people will have to choose between them, hopefully they will choose yours bc you told them about yours first, hopefully you wont even have to worry about that, but i would def NOT change your date
