I rarely post on here but I do lurk now and then, but I need to vent. I'd ask for advice but I don't really know if there is anything I can do at this point.
Basically, one of my 'friends' has been with her boyfriend a little over a year and wants to get married on our wedding date (9/20/08) because it will be their 2 year dating anniversary. We got engaged January 07 (when they had been dating just a few months) and knew we wanted to have a September wedding. Our hall was only available on certain dates, so we picked the one that worked best for us.
We didn't think it would be an issue at all, and to be honest we didn't even know that was their dating anniversary. I'm not trying to be mean but this girl has a new boyfriend every few months so we weren't expecting anything to last.
Now, THEY ARE NOT ENGAGED YET but she seems to think they will be soon (her birthday is coming up). She also wants our date and is fuming that we would get married on their anniversary. I don't know that they are going to get engaged and that they will have time to plan a September 08 wedding, but it's too late for us to really change anything. Our vendors are booked, etc.
I'm afraid she's going to get engaged and then set her date the same as ours. We have a lot of mutual friends. She's also making me feel horrible because she said even if they dont do a September 08 wedding I'm stealing her special day and their anniv will always remind them of our wedding and not themselves.
I never expected this to spiral out of control this way. Am I wrong here?
Saram
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wow this post just pissed me off..lol...tell your friend to get a life seriously...that is not a true friend of your if she is honestly going to say such ridiculous things to you...i would tell her she should do some growing up before she plans on getting married.
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My parents got my married on my aunts bday---still not a problem!
this is deff something not worth stressing over-- your friend has a lot of nerve saying that to you!!!!
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Your friend is really being selfish. It's not like that date is a huge deal for her, she really needs to get over herself. I could understand lets say that day is the anniversary of a relative's death, and she would have a really hard time that day, but it's not. I would say something to her...
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you are not wrong at all!!!! I understand that she is upset, but you booked your wedding that day....not knowing it was her dating anniversary. She is going to split up all your friends. She is the one who can switch the date.
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This is the most ridiculous thing I've ever heard! How can anyone get mad about that??? They've only been dating A YEAR? Give me a break! That's such an immature attitude to have. No matter what date you chose is going to be somebody's SOMETHING- whether it's a birthday, anniversary, whatever... she needs to get over herself and I think you should set her straight!!!
Seriously. My wedding date is my best friend's bday. It wasn't our first choice of date, but what could we do? She isn't bitter about it and I told her I'd put candles in my wedding cake
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thats just selfish, do not change ur day if she doesnt want to go to your wedding then shes not much of a friend at all, thats crazy
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That's more than a little bit ridiculous!
Plus, the fact that September is a popular wedding month and finding a hall in March for a certain date in Sep 08 would be VERY difficult! You definitely wouldn't have a good choice for hall or vendors!
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ITA with the others in that your friend is acting nutty. People don't 'own' dates. Yikes!
I'd still invite her, though. Be the bigger person. Hopefully, she'll come to her senses and realize that she was wrong.
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That's the craziest thing I ever heard!!
jessicaNmike2008
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Thank you again everyone
I talked to my MOHs and our mutual friend bridesmaids and finally told them what was going on. Most of them felt the same way you did. One of my bridesmaids (who is good friends with the girl too) said she'd be pissed too and it probably wasn't the best choice to pick that date but it's too late now and I shouldn't change it.
I wasn't planning on changing my date, I think I just needed some validation that I wasn't a horrible person for allowing this to happen.
At this point I'm still planning to invite my 'friend' but I will see what happens, if she gets engaged, and what she does and go from there. My bridal party promised they wont ditch me for her wedding if she plans it the same day.
thank you for your FMs and replies
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Posted by jessicaNmike2008
Thank you again everyone
I talked to my MOHs and our mutual friend bridesmaids and finally told them what was going on. Most of them felt the same way you did. One of my bridesmaids (who is good friends with the girl too) said she'd be pissed too and it probably wasn't the best choice to pick that date but it's too late now and I shouldn't change it.
I wasn't planning on changing my date, I think I just needed some validation that I wasn't a horrible person for allowing this to happen.
At this point I'm still planning to invite my 'friend' but I will see what happens, if she gets engaged, and what she does and go from there. My bridal party promised they wont ditch me for her wedding if she plans it the same day.
thank you for your FMs and replies
that sounds like a good idea.... keep us updated. I want to know if she ends up getting engaged
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Posted by bemyyoko
i think your friend is being a selfish brat.
put perfectly.
you are engaged. she's not. she's being insanely obnoxious.
Princess Cut Bride
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You are soooo NOT wrong. Your 'so called' friend is the one who is totally out of line. How dare she even think to ask you to change your date. You have been engaged for over a year...now with less than 7 months to go she would expect you to change your plans! HELLLL NO! Selfish people like this get me soooo pissed off!
I hope things work out for you. I'm sure they will...don't worry about your mutual friends...they have known that you were getting married for over a year....your friend isn't even engaged yet!
bluegreen08
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bump...
glad to hear she didnt get
GtBride
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OMG...are you kidding me?
Sorry, but your friend is not even engaged yet. YOU HAVE EVERY RIGHT TO GO AND GET MARRIED ON ANY DAY YOU WANT! She is acting like a big baby.
I am getting married on the day after my sister's bday. At first she was upset but then she understood we wanted to get married on our 5 yr anniversary. I am sorry but you can't please everyone do what is right for you and FH. GL
