So my husband and I are getting separated

Original post by aliciahelene

Mar 25, 2005 08:46 PM

We had problems before the marriage, I should have trusted my gut and got out then, but I thought I had a bad case of wedding jitters..now its still here and it turns out he never wanted these boys. I feel like Im going to throw up. Ive thought long and hard about it and I am still getting those boys. Ive done all of the work, all of the communicating with them,,Ive paid every dime towards this adoption..they are my children, and although I had hoped to give them a nice happy home with a loving father, Im glad I found this out NOW before they got here. I am not asking for anyones advice..my mind is made up ..I have thought this through COMPLETLY, but I could use alot of hugs!!! Please

Happybride2005 Posted: Mar 25, 2005 08:58 PM

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cocoa Posted: Mar 25, 2005 08:58 PM

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omg, alicia...i'm so sorry! i wish you so much luck with all of this.

please disregard my fm. i sent it before i read this

aliciahelene Posted: Mar 25, 2005 09:00 PM

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Mrs E rod..I needed to hear that!!! Im terrified...Ive always just been single or married..never a single mom to two boys. I cant turn back now, my heart is in it sooooo deeply..if anything..I was supposed to be in this mess so that I could adopt those boys!!! I believe everything happens for a reason. Thanks so much everyone for your support.....I love you guys!!!!

Helene718 Posted: Mar 25, 2005 09:05 PM

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I am so sorry.

Stacey1403 Posted: Mar 25, 2005 09:06 PM

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I am so sorry you have to go throught this. Those boys are so lucky that they are going to a loving and caring mother.

Danielle Posted: Mar 25, 2005 09:07 PM

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Posted by aliciahelene

Mrs E rod..I needed to hear that!!! Im terrified...Ive always just been single or married..never a single mom to two boys. I cant turn back now, my heart is in it sooooo deeply..if anything..I was supposed to be in this mess so that I could adopt those boys!!! I believe everything happens for a reason. Thanks so much everyone for your support.....I love you guys!!!!

You are not alone--you have your family, your friends, and your LIW friends as well.

What an amazingly strong person you are. the world should have more people like you. Soon, you will have Biruk and Paolos (sp?) in your arms and they will surround you with love.

kpny622 Posted: Mar 25, 2005 09:08 PM

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You have shown so much love for those boys in your posts that there is no way you can fail as a mother and you will be one of the best. Best of luck to you.

aliciahelene Posted: Mar 25, 2005 09:09 PM

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Thank you!!!! How I am going to take care of them I havent quite figured out yet..but I'll find a way..Im looking for full time jobs now..so hopefully something will turn up! Im scared... There are plenty of single moms out there..someohow Ill manage!

MrsERod Posted: Mar 25, 2005 09:10 PM

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Posted by aliciahelene

Mrs E rod..I needed to hear that!!! Im terrified...Ive always just been single or married..never a single mom to two boys. I cant turn back now, my heart is in it sooooo deeply..if anything..I was supposed to be in this mess so that I could adopt those boys!!! I believe everything happens for a reason. Thanks so much everyone for your support.....I love you guys!!!!

wish I could be right next to you to give you these!!!!!!

aliciahelene Posted: Mar 25, 2005 09:11 PM

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I couldnt NOT adopt them. I am so in love with those boys..it would KILL me, rip me up inside..its just something I wont do..I thought long and hard about it..I can still give them a great life..I have wonderful guy friends who can act as role models..and I will love them more than they can imagine!

aliciahelene Posted: Mar 25, 2005 09:12 PM

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Thank you for all the hugs...you guys are making me cry even more than I already am!!!

trnity44 Posted: Mar 25, 2005 09:13 PM

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I am so sorry!

luvsbob4603 Posted: Mar 25, 2005 09:15 PM

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alicia i am soo sorry to hear that i was thinking about you!

boosh78201 Posted: Mar 25, 2005 09:17 PM

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I am so sorry to hear this!!!!

regi Posted: Mar 25, 2005 09:18 PM

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you have pm

wood2be Posted: Mar 25, 2005 09:22 PM

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I wish I had the words to comfort you!
Here are some hugs from me

Jax430 Posted: Mar 25, 2005 09:25 PM

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Alicia, I am so sorry that you are going through this. I know you will be a wonderful mother to Biruk and Paulos. Sending you lots of love and strength.