so PISSED at FH right now... VENT!

i literally just had a cryfest @ work on the phone with him....

he still doesn't understand what he did wrong. unbelievable.

he understood exactly what he was doing.

he was grasping at straws trying to come up with excuses and when i broke it down for him he had nothing to say because he knows i asked him to go first. and he doesn't know why i'm crying on the phone.
i'm sorry, my feelings get hurt easy and he knows this and he totally made me feel rejected.

then he tells me, i didn't want to go because i didn't want to pay for tix. but your paying for them now, idiot! so why are you still going!

I would absolutely be upset. But my feelings get hurt very easily also lol actually only when it pertains to FH haha honestly sometimes people don't think. I'm sure he feels really bad right now and knows he made a mistake and upset you.

I asked him to go with me on April 3rd. he told me no. he didn't want to go at all this year.

Hi co-worker asked him on April 5th.

So i asked first.

and i asked him why he would go with him and not me when we always go together. he says i didn't know if you would want to go. we go together every year and I asked YOU to go, not the other way around. So why would you think that?

then he says he didn't want to pay for the tickets. i told him i would have happily paid. then he said but i didn't want to go. so then why are you going with your co-worker when you don't really want to go but AND you have to pay for a ticket!

Awww I'm sorry. Like I said I would totally be upset right now also. This is what I have learned in situations like this....you can't change what happened and your feelings are hurt. But I am sure he will never do anything like this again now that he sees how upset you are. Its a beautiful day when you get out of work go enjoy yourself or make plans with a friend to do something so you aren't thinking about what he is doing and how you aren't there.

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Posted by ElovesJ117

Awww I'm sorry. Like I said I would totally be upset right now also. This is what I have learned in situations like this....you can't change what happened and your feelings are hurt. But I am sure he will never do anything like this again now that he sees how upset you are. Its a beautiful day when you get out of work go enjoy yourself or make plans with a friend to do something so you aren't thinking about what he is doing and how you aren't there.

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I agree!!

I don't think I would be too upset - maybe he wanted to make it a guys thing this year. Like FH and I go to baseball and football games together - but sometimes he wants to go with another guy.

I would be a bit perturbed if he was sneaking around and not telling you directly that he had already committed to go with someone else...

I personally would only be pissed if he had already made the plans before I asked him and did not tell me

Otherwise, I am not that interested in going to a car show but if FH asked I would otherwise I would leave him with the guys

Sorry your so upset though

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Posted by Moonmist09

I asked him to go with me on April 3rd. he told me no. he didn't want to go at all this year.

Hi co-worker asked him on April 5th.

So i asked first.

and i asked him why he would go with him and not me when we always go together. he says i didn't know if you would want to go. we go together every year and I asked YOU to go, not the other way around. So why would you think that?

then he says he didn't want to pay for the tickets. i told him i would have happily paid. then he said but i didn't want to go. so then why are you going with your co-worker when you don't really want to go but AND you have to pay for a ticket!

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My FH does stuff like this ALL THE TIME. and It is so frustrating. What's worse is that he doesn't understand why I get upset.

I think that maybe he said yes to hiw co-worker because maybe he felt bad saying no... or maybe he wants to get along with and become friends with him, or he wants to impress him or something. Honestly, I get so upset when I ask FH to do things and he says no. And then the next minute he's making plans with a friend or a co-worker. Very similar situations, and then he makes me feel like I am crazy when I get upset about it!

Try not to let it get to you, I think that most men (I hate to generalize and justify but I hear so many people complain about the same things) make decisions and do things without really thinking about them, or the consequences. To him it's probably not a big deal, that's why he doesn't see where you are coming from when you get upset!

Tell him that he better make it up to you!!!! have a date night just the 2 of you and let it go this time... and next time if it happens again he will hopefully understand where you are coming from!

(sorry that was so long! ahh)

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Posted by FutureMcBride

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Posted by Moonmist09

I asked him to go with me on April 3rd. he told me no. he didn't want to go at all this year.

Hi co-worker asked him on April 5th.

So i asked first.

and i asked him why he would go with him and not me when we always go together. he says i didn't know if you would want to go. we go together every year and I asked YOU to go, not the other way around. So why would you think that?

then he says he didn't want to pay for the tickets. i told him i would have happily paid. then he said but i didn't want to go. so then why are you going with your co-worker when you don't really want to go but AND you have to pay for a ticket!

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My FH does stuff like this ALL THE TIME. and It is so frustrating. What's worse is that he doesn't understand why I get upset.

I think that maybe he said yes to hiw co-worker because maybe he felt bad saying no... or maybe he wants to get along with and become friends with him, or he wants to impress him or something. Honestly, I get so upset when I ask FH to do things and he says no. And then the next minute he's making plans with a friend or a co-worker. Very similar situations, and then he makes me feel like I am crazy when I get upset about it!

Try not to let it get to you, I think that most men (I hate to generalize and justify but I hear so many people complain about the same things) make decisions and do things without really thinking about them, or the consequences. To him it's probably not a big deal, that's why he doesn't see where you are coming from when you get upset!

Tell him that he better make it up to you!!!! have a date night just the 2 of you and let it go this time... and next time if it happens again he will hopefully understand where you are coming from!

(sorry that was so long! ahh)

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thank you so much for writing! you hit the nail right on the head! he didn't think it was a big deal at all! men really must be wired differently!

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Posted by Moonmist09

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Posted by FutureMcBride

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Posted by Moonmist09

I asked him to go with me on April 3rd. he told me no. he didn't want to go at all this year.

Hi co-worker asked him on April 5th.

So i asked first.

and i asked him why he would go with him and not me when we always go together. he says i didn't know if you would want to go. we go together every year and I asked YOU to go, not the other way around. So why would you think that?

then he says he didn't want to pay for the tickets. i told him i would have happily paid. then he said but i didn't want to go. so then why are you going with your co-worker when you don't really want to go but AND you have to pay for a ticket!

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My FH does stuff like this ALL THE TIME. and It is so frustrating. What's worse is that he doesn't understand why I get upset.

I think that maybe he said yes to hiw co-worker because maybe he felt bad saying no... or maybe he wants to get along with and become friends with him, or he wants to impress him or something. Honestly, I get so upset when I ask FH to do things and he says no. And then the next minute he's making plans with a friend or a co-worker. Very similar situations, and then he makes me feel like I am crazy when I get upset about it!

Try not to let it get to you, I think that most men (I hate to generalize and justify but I hear so many people complain about the same things) make decisions and do things without really thinking about them, or the consequences. To him it's probably not a big deal, that's why he doesn't see where you are coming from when you get upset!

Tell him that he better make it up to you!!!! have a date night just the 2 of you and let it go this time... and next time if it happens again he will hopefully understand where you are coming from!

(sorry that was so long! ahh)

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thank you so much for writing! you hit the nail right on the head! he didn't think it was a big deal at all! men really must be wired differently!

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of course!! I hear you, trust me. It's so annoying. I am actually dealing with something similar at this very moment! I have to just tell him that we see things differently and he has to at least listen to me and consider the fact that I get upset sometimes by the things he does.

Communication is key, if you can make him see where you are coming from, then hopefully he will understand. I hope you were able to work it out!

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Posted by ElovesJ117

Awww I'm sorry. Like I said I would totally be upset right now also. This is what I have learned in situations like this....you can't change what happened and your feelings are hurt. But I am sure he will never do anything like this again now that he sees how upset you are. Its a beautiful day when you get out of work go enjoy yourself or make plans with a friend to do something so you aren't thinking about what he is doing and how you aren't there.

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I agree!!

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Ditto... And if you want, we (2011) can all meet up and have a GTG. We got your back!