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Am I the only bride who is getting married after sunset and not having any pics of FH and I together during the day? Is that really that big of a deal?

ETA: I've posted several times about trying to time pictures so that I can do it. But I still feel so uneasy about it. I thought I was okay with it, but obviously not. I was planning on just having pics of my girls and I, his guys and him, and families during day, but outside no pics of us will be able to be taken. As our ceremony is at 5 pm during the fall!Even if I wanted to change my ceremony time to 330, I'd still only have 30 minutes for pics outside, and that's too close considering I would be compromising the attendance of a lot of guests if I pushed it that early on during a weekday. UGH. This is the ONLY thing I am uneasy about.

No, I'm in the same boat. My ceremony isn't until 9:30PM.

I'll be taking my pictures probably about 5:30, 6:00.

By the time the ceremony starts, I'll be ready for sleep. LOL!!

No - you aren't the only one at all.

You could see eachother before the ceremony and take pics, or you could take night shots - Ive seen some really dramatic looking ones.

You could always get engagement shots during the day to make up for it.

Oh and a friend of mine took pictures after the wedding... no joke! It poured on her day, so a photographer friend of hers took pics. of her and her DH on the beach. Those are the shots she has on her desk.
ETA - I'm cutting it close around my time of year too - turns out the priest talked me out of a full mass, so we actually have more time to take pics

Night-time pictures here as well!!

I was actually bummed about it at first, so I can't lie, but it was important for me to see FH for the first time walking down the aisle. SO I had to put my priorities in order. To me, that first moment of him seeing me in the dress, at church, was the part I've dreamed about forever. So the pictures had to take a slight backseat....and I've gotten over it.

Don't know if I've even made you feel better....

I could see him before, but that was something else I was very skeptical about. I feel like I made up my mind, NOT to see him. However, with listening to all the brides on this site talk about it and how great it was, I always keep it as an option. I'm driving myself crazy everytime I think about it. I didn't want to see him before the ceremony. See the problem.

ETA: jennandrob: definitely made me feel better. And I did take my engagemnet pics during the most beautiful day in the fall! Soo, it's slowly working, keep them coming.

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Posted by RVCBride

Am I the only bride who is getting married after sunset and not having any pics of FH and I together during the day? Is that really that big of a deal?

ETA: I've posted several times about trying to time pictures so that I can do it. But I still feel so uneasy about it. I thought I was okay with it, but obviously not. I was planning on just having pics of my girls and I, his guys and him, and families during day, but outside no pics of us will be able to be taken. As our ceremony is at 5 pm during the fall!Even if I wanted to change my ceremony time to 330, I'd still only have 30 minutes for pics outside, and that's too close considering I would be compromising the attendance of a lot of guests if I pushed it that early on during a weekday. UGH. This is the ONLY thing I am uneasy about.

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Melissa:
If this really bothers you, why not move up your pics and do some during the day in an amazing place -0- like some of the girls have done the arboretum, city girls have done grand central. Or are you having him see you first time on aisle?

Well, I can only share what was my experience in deciding. I realized that certain things just matter more for me like having great pictures to show my kids and grandkids -- and no matter what, the best 'spontaneous pictures' often are the result of planning. No joke. I mean photojournalism is great, but even more so when you put yourselves and a gifted photog in a setting that is well lit and beautiful. THat is why I have decided we will get together beforehand to do pix and go to interesting sites.
I do underrstand the tradition of seeing you for the first time but after a lot of wrangling I realized
1. Fi will see me coming down the aisle and it will certainly be special because it is our day.
2. THe moment we see each other for the first time will be VERY well documented. Indeed, more perfectly so because there will be no constraints of being under the aisle with all the people.
3. You will be less stressed about pix knowing they are done and able to just enjoy -- which makes for more great pix!

Either way, you should do what makes you happy. But this is what I thought of and I hope it helps.

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