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Well I crashed in the 2013 board and read something that had me thinking. This bride to be had posted that she had checked out this hall but wrote 'it was old and rundown' however this other bride to be got upset bc she was getting married there....( the bride to be then apologized ) however this other lady comes and write ' you don't have to apologize about your opinion'
( why certain women are full of drama? Or trying to create drama -_-)


After reading this convo I realized that I need to be careful about talking negatively about a venue or someone's vendor, last thing i want is for someone's feeling to get hurt! Unfornately I've gone thru this :/ a lot of ppl don't really like my venue (Stuart Thomas manor) bc its old and rundown...and its ok for them not to like it....but the extra details kinda make me feel bad...

Well my point with this is...each of us has different styles and views about certain things and I hope we all get along and respect eachother...:)

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I think you raise a very good point! When I think of my venue - I think of how I immediately fell in love with it and instantly pictured my wedding day there. I sometimes get teary-eyed just thinking about it because I love it so much :) I also realize that it isn't everyone's ideal too - but at the same time, I would hate to hear someone talk down about it, because it would make me feel bad. I know these are public forums and we are all entitled to our opinions - but there is a huge difference between ignorant and hurtful statements, and someone posting their opinion. I would never say something negative about a venue unless specifically asked - and even if I did have something to say that wasn't great, I would at least have the decency to do it privately, and in a way that is considerate to that bride's feelings. I think we all need to remember that EVERY venue is someone's dream wedding - it's just a bit heartless to trash talk without even thinking about how it will make that bride feel. 'IMO' isn't always right - it's just an opinion, and unfortunately, some people (here and in life in general) just don't know how to be considerate towards others feelings. Let's just all agree that we are all here bc we are so excited about our weddings, and we can all share in that - no matter what our personal tastes are

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agreed!!! :) some people wouldn't like the fact that my wedding is in a green house with a koi pond smack in the middle of it....but everyone has different tastes and deserves their dream wedding!!!!

I like some pretty unique stuff and i'm sure with 90% of the wedding stuff I have in my head someone would say to me your wedding looks like a bunch of stuff tossed together! in my head everything goes perfectly and will be perfect! we all have a dream day!

and btw- your wedding is as nice as you make it!!! there are beautiful weddings in the basement of the church i work for and you would never know you are in a basement with the way some people decorate! :)

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I completely agree! My friend is getting married at a place that I personally consider to be a 'wedding factory'. It is not my taste nor is it my style. BUT... I do think her venue is beautiful!

Everyone has their own opinion but they have to take into consideration that an opinion can still hurt someone's feelings.


I happen to LOVE my venue because I was looking for something different. I can't tell you EXACTLY what I wanted different.. but I just knew it had to be DIFFERENT.


I also didn't want somewhere that my friends had already been. Like Thatched Cottage... GORGEOUS venue... one of my favorites... but I had a friend get married there in 2010... and I have one getting married there in 2013... so like... 2/3 of my guest list will have already been there.

I wanted something unique and my own and I'm sure thats what EVERY bride wants. I keep calling my venue 'My Mansion'. Because it is MINE for a whole day! :D

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I'm actually stoked that you wrote that! I've been feeling less than comfortable with the boards lately because of that reason! When someone lists the reasons they HATE the place and its basically a rip off but its the place you know you're meant to get married in, it leaves a bad taste in your mouth!

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Posted by NIKOLE

I'm actually stoked that you wrote that! I've been feeling less than comfortable with the boards lately because of that reason! When someone lists the reasons they HATE the place and its basically a rip off but its the place you know you're meant to get married in, it leaves a bad taste in your mouth!

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Exactly. Theres a tactful way to list the reasons why you didn't like a certain venue. One venue I saw ... I loved the set up.. but their christmas decor left little to be desired. SANTA CLAUSES EVERYWHERE!!!! And I'm TERRIFIED of Santa. Weird... I know. It just didn't fit with my vision. Another venue I saw .. was just... a horrifying experience. Aside from the fact that I thought the fact that the door to the kitchen was ON the dance floor... the BM was just ... blah. She rubbed me the wrong way.


I also just went and read the post JESMO was referring too. I've never even heard of Ariana Waterfall until I came on these boards... so I have NO idea what its like. However.. even if it IS 'old and rundown'... she could have simply said 'Its not my taste' or 'It doesn't fit with my vision'


Tact makes ALL the difference in the world!

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Posted by katielynn

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Posted by NIKOLE



Tact makes ALL the difference in the world!

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EXACTLY!!! I actually told my sister on Wednesday, I HAVE to be done with those boards, they're getting me angry.