Spinoff of - TOO SLOW FOR A TUESDAY!!

Original post by diamondgrlie

Apr 27, 2004 12:41 PM

I dont know if this is enough of a 'controversy' but I am curious. Is there a major problem in the relationship that you and FH/DH seem to always go back to?

I will start. I have a two.

First, he retires from the NYPD in 20 years and after that I want out of NY but he doesnt want to leave his mommy. That will be a BIG issue in 20 years.

Second, romance... I want candle light kisses and he wants a Fredricks of Hollywood show.

Your turn... if you want of course.

boosh78201 Posted: Apr 27, 2004 01:18 PM

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bring it on -- see if i help you pack tonight

youll be too busy sitting on your *** watching tv

don424 Posted: Apr 27, 2004 01:19 PM

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damn right

boosh78201 Posted: Apr 27, 2004 01:20 PM

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spoiled brat

don424 Posted: Apr 27, 2004 01:23 PM

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har har

boosh78201 Posted: Apr 27, 2004 01:27 PM

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you know its true

nov04LIbride Posted: Apr 27, 2004 03:40 PM

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woah there....well, $ is probably the biggest issue for us. I am a saver, and whenever we get a check or tax return he wants to go away on vacation and spend it all immediately (which is fun, but I think more long-term, like saving for our house and future...). We are getting good at compromising though--weekend trips to save $ instead of flying...

Xelindrya Posted: Apr 27, 2004 05:28 PM

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Posted by tracyg

he doesn't initiate IT. He waits for me to do it, and he KNOWS i HATE to initiate. Its just not comfortable for me... don't know why.
so i try to hint around and he just doesn't GET the hints!!
so i wish he could just accept i don't like initiating, and just jump me!

AMEN SISTER!! Same here.

hrmmm
1. He works in a great job in Long Island that he loves but he's not motivated to DO anything else more. He’s got the degree, not me. But he’s happy where he is. I want to move out of state and he’s ok with that but he think he’ll just ‘get a job’. He’s just so…. blah…. about his future and that bothers me. I already make more than him. I want him to succeed not just do a job cause he can. I can NEVER quit my job because of his attitude. I want him to want more from himself professionally.

2. Blows it off when I’m angry. GOD that just rubs my buns all sorts of raw. Look at me damn it! I’m angry! Don’t just shrug it off, I want answers, I want resolution. Talk to me and find out what’s wrong, we are too old to play this silent treatment crap. If I am angry at you it’s for a reason and I hate to be angry at you so why don’t we SOLVE the problem? We don't scream at eachother. I tell him I'm angry and I tell him why and he's like 'Uh-huh'. What's that all about?

don424 Posted: Apr 27, 2004 05:40 PM

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because women get mad more than men do -- it's just easier to fight the battles that are worth fighting

JuneBride2005 Posted: Apr 27, 2004 05:47 PM

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Posted by Kathy116

#1: I'm big into communication, especially when I'm angry with him or upset.
He's an excellent communicator about everything EXCEPT when there's an issue with us (ie. I'm upset at him for something, etc).
We talked about this, because you have to discuss things...he ignores them and thinks they'll go away. Hopefully, he'll change.

same here...he just waits for our problems to disappear...hates dealing with them!

Xelindrya Posted: Apr 27, 2004 05:58 PM

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Posted by don424

because women get mad more than men do -- it's just easier to fight the battles that are worth fighting

Actually that's the thing.. we don't. He often tells people and even me that one of the best things about us we don't argue. I can COUNT the number of times I've been mad AT him on one hand. That's four years together and less than 5 times I've been mad at him. Acutally only 3 times.

That's it in 4 total years. Nothing's really worth it to fight. We really do 'get along' well together.

But it only makes me MORE angry to get the silent treatment during those rare times I am angry. Why be so thickheaded? OR does he just ENJOY sending me into rage?