Spinoff to the Denise 'EAL' Thread....

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Posted by Randilotus

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Posted by Songstress1212

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Posted by AmandaLynn04

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Posted by Randilotus
I'm not saying because she's pretty, there are plenty of pretty girls here. She was just a little weird. I responded to todays thread, because I thought she was wierd that night, didn't know others thought so too. And I have nothing against new people, hello I'm new too!

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There's nothing wrong with being pretty and weird.

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Case in point.

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I'm gonna post the pic in my profile....

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Posted by beachbum05

Ok, so I saw this quote today and went on overload. And ya know what? I don't care if this causes drama. Because I feel like it has to be said. So feel free to 'drama llama, alpaca, douchebag alert, whatever' me.

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Posted by Randilotus

Ok so when I change all my stuff, don't associate me a a fake ok. I don't want to get on here one day and read 'Randi' what a wierdo that girl is!

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Thats the kind of thing that makes me really mad.

But who are WE to decide who is real and who isn't? It's not fair that someone like Randi is afraid that us (the 08ers) are going to shun her and make her feel like she's not a real bride...

My problem is that I really love the girls who I think are kind of policing the boards (seriously, I really do - you guys crack me up) - but at the same time I get really frustrated and think it isn't fair to some of the new girls on here (like Randi - sorry to be using you as an example, but I feel bad that you're concerned about changing your info on here!).

I mean, all we can go on are assumptions about other people. We don't actually know who these people are or what their situation is. I remember one girl on here made a huge mess of the boards, but I really think she just didn't know how to communicate with everyone. I don't necessarily think she was a lurker or someone coming on here to cause harm to anyone I just don't think she could get her points across the right way (things can be interpreted so many different ways on here).

These boards are filled with people with tons of different personalities. I remember when I started posting on here I was really nervous and uncomfortable. I probably made some dumbass comments and made enemies on day one...but I can't IMAGINE how I would have felt if I was 'welcomed' by people calling me out as a fake bride.

Try to remember how you felt after getting engaged. You were excited and wanted to share with the world and you joined LIW to make a network of friends who could support you. So to have someone come out (who doesn't know you at all) and say that you aren't 'real?' And then 15 other people jump in and bully you?

I'm not saying that there havent been fake brides. Sure - there have been. But all I'm saying is that for those of you who were here during the Karen thing, remeber that she was sabatoging her OWN wedding so that people on here would pay attention to her. All she wanted was attention. No malice. Just attention.

So I guess I just needed to get it out there and let people know that it's ok to come on here and post.

Just because you have only 10 posts on here and start talking negatively about a vendor doesn't mean you're fake. Just because you're indecisive about booking a hall and change your mind a few times doesn't mean you're fake. And no one has the right on here to come out and say you are. You're as welcome on these boards as anyone else. So post away and don't feel uncomfortable doing so.

Ok, that's it. Thanks.

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Posted by o8bride

i have to agree with beachbum05.. i wish we could all just get back to a board full of wedding planning and get away from all the drama of EALs and stuff. i am pretty new here, and definitely got a very warm welcome and really like all of you girls.. but i can understand how it would feel to get shunned from day one because of all the EAL hype.. personally, i would prove myself to you all if you thought i was fake, but some girls probably wouldnt bother and would just leave us. i get a little annoyed when i see a post that seems like it came from a vendor or something, but for the most part i just assume theyre desperate and i laugh to myself lol. we should all just laugh the 'EAL's' off and get on with our wedding planning.. this is such an awesome site and i hate to see it go down the tubes on us...

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Posted by jennandrolo

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Posted by beachbum05

Ok, so I saw this quote today and went on overload. And ya know what? I don't care if this causes drama. Because I feel like it has to be said. So feel free to 'drama llama, alpaca, douchebag alert, whatever' me.

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Posted by Randilotus

Ok so when I change all my stuff, don't associate me a a fake ok. I don't want to get on here one day and read 'Randi' what a wierdo that girl is!

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Thats the kind of thing that makes me really mad.

But who are WE to decide who is real and who isn't? It's not fair that someone like Randi is afraid that us (the 08ers) are going to shun her and make her feel like she's not a real bride...

My problem is that I really love the girls who I think are kind of policing the boards (seriously, I really do - you guys crack me up) - but at the same time I get really frustrated and think it isn't fair to some of the new girls on here (like Randi - sorry to be using you as an example, but I feel bad that you're concerned about changing your info on here!).

I mean, all we can go on are assumptions about other people. We don't actually know who these people are or what their situation is. I remember one girl on here made a huge mess of the boards, but I really think she just didn't know how to communicate with everyone. I don't necessarily think she was a lurker or someone coming on here to cause harm to anyone I just don't think she could get her points across the right way (things can be interpreted so many different ways on here).

These boards are filled with people with tons of different personalities. I remember when I started posting on here I was really nervous and uncomfortable. I probably made some dumbass comments and made enemies on day one...but I can't IMAGINE how I would have felt if I was 'welcomed' by people calling me out as a fake bride.

Try to remember how you felt after getting engaged. You were excited and wanted to share with the world and you joined LIW to make a network of friends who could support you. So to have someone come out (who doesn't know you at all) and say that you aren't 'real?' And then 15 other people jump in and bully you?

I'm not saying that there havent been fake brides. Sure - there have been. But all I'm saying is that for those of you who were here during the Karen thing, remeber that she was sabatoging her OWN wedding so that people on here would pay attention to her. All she wanted was attention. No malice. Just attention.

So I guess I just needed to get it out there and let people know that it's ok to come on here and post.

Just because you have only 10 posts on here and start talking negatively about a vendor doesn't mean you're fake. Just because you're indecisive about booking a hall and change your mind a few times doesn't mean you're fake. And no one has the right on here to come out and say you are. You're as welcome on these boards as anyone else. So post away and don't feel uncomfortable doing so.

Ok, that's it. Thanks.

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thats all im going to say because frankly worrying about EALs on a website is so stupid. I have better things to worry about. Im not on here to be the EAL police, Im here to post about weddings. Theres been too many posts about EALS and llama drama and too little posts about weddings.

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Posted by beachbum05

But Denise - YOU have a reason to be annoyed/suspicious. Because it is actually personally affecting YOU.

I just feel bad about people who arent harming anyone that are getting the 3rd degree.

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Posted by Bride 2 Be

i agree kim! i choose not to get involved though..to tell you the truth i can care less about 'eals' who the heck cares..are they really hurting anyone anyway?

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Posted by Songstress1212

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Posted by jennandrolo

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Posted by beachbum05

Ok, so I saw this quote today and went on overload. And ya know what? I don't care if this causes drama. Because I feel like it has to be said. So feel free to 'drama llama, alpaca, douchebag alert, whatever' me.

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Posted by Randilotus

Ok so when I change all my stuff, don't associate me a a fake ok. I don't want to get on here one day and read 'Randi' what a wierdo that girl is!

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Thats the kind of thing that makes me really mad.

But who are WE to decide who is real and who isn't? It's not fair that someone like Randi is afraid that us (the 08ers) are going to shun her and make her feel like she's not a real bride...

My problem is that I really love the girls who I think are kind of policing the boards (seriously, I really do - you guys crack me up) - but at the same time I get really frustrated and think it isn't fair to some of the new girls on here (like Randi - sorry to be using you as an example, but I feel bad that you're concerned about changing your info on here!).

I mean, all we can go on are assumptions about other people. We don't actually know who these people are or what their situation is. I remember one girl on here made a huge mess of the boards, but I really think she just didn't know how to communicate with everyone. I don't necessarily think she was a lurker or someone coming on here to cause harm to anyone I just don't think she could get her points across the right way (things can be interpreted so many different ways on here).

These boards are filled with people with tons of different personalities. I remember when I started posting on here I was really nervous and uncomfortable. I probably made some dumbass comments and made enemies on day one...but I can't IMAGINE how I would have felt if I was 'welcomed' by people calling me out as a fake bride.

Try to remember how you felt after getting engaged. You were excited and wanted to share with the world and you joined LIW to make a network of friends who could support you. So to have someone come out (who doesn't know you at all) and say that you aren't 'real?' And then 15 other people jump in and bully you?

I'm not saying that there havent been fake brides. Sure - there have been. But all I'm saying is that for those of you who were here during the Karen thing, remeber that she was sabatoging her OWN wedding so that people on here would pay attention to her. All she wanted was attention. No malice. Just attention.

So I guess I just needed to get it out there and let people know that it's ok to come on here and post.

Just because you have only 10 posts on here and start talking negatively about a vendor doesn't mean you're fake. Just because you're indecisive about booking a hall and change your mind a few times doesn't mean you're fake. And no one has the right on here to come out and say you are. You're as welcome on these boards as anyone else. So post away and don't feel uncomfortable doing so.

Ok, that's it. Thanks.

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thats all im going to say because frankly worrying about EALs on a website is so stupid. I have better things to worry about. Im not on here to be the EAL police, Im here to post about weddings. Theres been too many posts about EALS and llama drama and too little posts about weddings.

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Im gonna say it again, I only remember two cases in the past couple of months. And Im on a lot.

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Posted by Songstress1212

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Posted by Bride 2 Be

i agree kim! i choose not to get involved though..to tell you the truth i can care less about 'eals' who the heck cares..are they really hurting anyone anyway?

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I never get involved either. I did this time because it could be involved with someone in particular.

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Posted by AMGBride2008

I have to ask, and maybe I'm stepping out of line here, but how come every new person that shows their face on this board is automatically pegged as an EAL?

I can imagine how as a new bride coming here to plan a wedding you can become so discouraged and not want to post considering the 'warm welcome' we all hand out.

I understand that the whole Karen situation was random and made us all freak out for half a second, but some of the girls on constant EAL alert weren't even around yet when the whole Karen thing went down.

I just think it's a shame that we jump on every newbies back that inititally comes here for the same reason we all did. I can honestly say that I'm so glad I was a part of this board before all of the EAL shiit started going down.

I know this is a topic that has been brought up before (and beaten to death) but I can honestly and knowingly say that I'm not the only one who is STILL bothered by it.

See ya'll at the shower! I'll have a comment box sitting next to me regarding your thoughts.

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Posted by jennandrolo

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Posted by Songstress1212

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Posted by jennandrolo

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Posted by beachbum05

Ok, so I saw this quote today and went on overload. And ya know what? I don't care if this causes drama. Because I feel like it has to be said. So feel free to 'drama llama, alpaca, douchebag alert, whatever' me.

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Posted by Randilotus

Ok so when I change all my stuff, don't associate me a a fake ok. I don't want to get on here one day and read 'Randi' what a wierdo that girl is!

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Thats the kind of thing that makes me really mad.

But who are WE to decide who is real and who isn't? It's not fair that someone like Randi is afraid that us (the 08ers) are going to shun her and make her feel like she's not a real bride...

My problem is that I really love the girls who I think are kind of policing the boards (seriously, I really do - you guys crack me up) - but at the same time I get really frustrated and think it isn't fair to some of the new girls on here (like Randi - sorry to be using you as an example, but I feel bad that you're concerned about changing your info on here!).

I mean, all we can go on are assumptions about other people. We don't actually know who these people are or what their situation is. I remember one girl on here made a huge mess of the boards, but I really think she just didn't know how to communicate with everyone. I don't necessarily think she was a lurker or someone coming on here to cause harm to anyone I just don't think she could get her points across the right way (things can be interpreted so many different ways on here).

These boards are filled with people with tons of different personalities. I remember when I started posting on here I was really nervous and uncomfortable. I probably made some dumbass comments and made enemies on day one...but I can't IMAGINE how I would have felt if I was 'welcomed' by people calling me out as a fake bride.

Try to remember how you felt after getting engaged. You were excited and wanted to share with the world and you joined LIW to make a network of friends who could support you. So to have someone come out (who doesn't know you at all) and say that you aren't 'real?' And then 15 other people jump in and bully you?

I'm not saying that there havent been fake brides. Sure - there have been. But all I'm saying is that for those of you who were here during the Karen thing, remeber that she was sabatoging her OWN wedding so that people on here would pay attention to her. All she wanted was attention. No malice. Just attention.

So I guess I just needed to get it out there and let people know that it's ok to come on here and post.

Just because you have only 10 posts on here and start talking negatively about a vendor doesn't mean you're fake. Just because you're indecisive about booking a hall and change your mind a few times doesn't mean you're fake. And no one has the right on here to come out and say you are. You're as welcome on these boards as anyone else. So post away and don't feel uncomfortable doing so.

Ok, that's it. Thanks.

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thats all im going to say because frankly worrying about EALs on a website is so stupid. I have better things to worry about. Im not on here to be the EAL police, Im here to post about weddings. Theres been too many posts about EALS and llama drama and too little posts about weddings.

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Im gonna say it again, I only remember two cases in the past couple of months. And Im on a lot.

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theres been quite a few...just only like 2-3 turned into big issues

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Posted by Espo22

The thread was addressed to 'ME' it had my name, it wasnt bringing attention to everyone to know hey look we have an eal and this is who it is, infact all that was said was hahahaha she hasnt come back. EVERYONE else wanted to know and thats how they knew.

People didn't have to read it or ask questions about who it was if they didn't want to know.

When ppl start im'ing other liw'ers and spreading rumors and trying to get into your personal life sorry but its different. I am kinda tired of it a this point, i was fine about it the first 2 times this happened and laughed it off and didn't care, now its getting to be too much.

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Posted by Espo22

The thread was addressed to 'ME' it had my name, it wasnt bringing attention to everyone to know hey look we have an eal and this is who it is, infact all that was said was hahahaha she hasnt come back. EVERYONE else wanted to know and thats how they knew.

People didn't have to read it or ask questions about who it was if they didn't want to know.

When ppl start im'ing other liw'ers and spreading rumors and trying to get into your personal life sorry but its different. I am kinda tired of it a this point, i was fine about it the first 2 times this happened and laughed it off and didn't care, now its getting to be too much.

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Posted by Bride 2 Be

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Posted by Espo22

The thread was addressed to 'ME' it had my name, it wasnt bringing attention to everyone to know hey look we have an eal and this is who it is, infact all that was said was hahahaha she hasnt come back. EVERYONE else wanted to know and thats how they knew.

People didn't have to read it or ask questions about who it was if they didn't want to know.

When ppl start im'ing other liw'ers and spreading rumors and trying to get into your personal life sorry but its different. I am kinda tired of it a this point, i was fine about it the first 2 times this happened and laughed it off and didn't care, now its getting to be too much.

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denise i almost hate to ask..but what happened??

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Posted by Espo22

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Posted by Bride 2 Be

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Posted by Espo22

The thread was addressed to 'ME' it had my name, it wasnt bringing attention to everyone to know hey look we have an eal and this is who it is, infact all that was said was hahahaha she hasnt come back. EVERYONE else wanted to know and thats how they knew.

People didn't have to read it or ask questions about who it was if they didn't want to know.

When ppl start im'ing other liw'ers and spreading rumors and trying to get into your personal life sorry but its different. I am kinda tired of it a this point, i was fine about it the first 2 times this happened and laughed it off and didn't care, now its getting to be too much.

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denise i almost hate to ask..but what happened??

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thats the thing ppl dont know, honestly it was a 'DENISE' hahahaha she didnt come back thread, not everybody look we have an eal. We wouldve never said who it was if we werent asked constantly about who it was. It has to do with the whole IM thing, and the same day this girl is posting she ALSO im'ed me but STILL hasn't answered my emails

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