Spinoff to the Denise 'EAL' Thread....

I have to ask, and maybe I'm stepping out of line here, but how come every new person that shows their face on this board is automatically pegged as an EAL?

I can imagine how as a new bride coming here to plan a wedding you can become so discouraged and not want to post considering the 'warm welcome' we all hand out.

I understand that the whole Karen situation was random and made us all freak out for half a second, but some of the girls on constant EAL alert weren't even around yet when the whole Karen thing went down.

I just think it's a shame that we jump on every newbies back that inititally comes here for the same reason we all did. I can honestly say that I'm so glad I was a part of this board before all of the EAL shiit started going down.

I know this is a topic that has been brought up before (and beaten to death) but I can honestly and knowingly say that I'm not the only one who is STILL bothered by it.

See ya'll at the shower! I'll have a comment box sitting next to me regarding your thoughts.

:shrugs: I'll throw out my two cents.

I have at times become involved in the whole 'EAL' drama...... and I am one of those you speak of who came after the Karen drama!

I guess I just don't let it bother me either way. More often than not, the accused person is in fact, an 'EEL' of sorts. Be it a vendor, or what have you.
I would hate for it to make someone NOT post here, or be afraid to. However, at the same time, I'd hate for something to actually happen to someone on their day, or have a vendor cancelled by someone else, or whatever bad things can happen.

I guess I just see both sides, yours, and the girls who spot EEL's.

If that makes any sense.

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Posted by AmandaLynn04

I'd hate for something to actually happen to someone on their day, or have a vendor cancelled by someone else, or whatever bad things can happen.

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I totally get this and after the whole Karen thing happened, I called and e-mailed my vendors to set up a password thing and they thought I was crazy! They said there is no way they take cancellations over the phone... they even said to not let the hype of LIW get to me.. I felt so dumb, but they're right...

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Posted by Randilotus

Did you see this girl?

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The Berryxcited girl? Yeah, I saw her picture... just looks like another pretty girl to me... doesn't look familiar at all. Denise (Espo) looks like a spitting image of Jessica Alba... she must be a fake too.

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Posted by AMGBride2008

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Posted by AmandaLynn04

I'd hate for something to actually happen to someone on their day, or have a vendor cancelled by someone else, or whatever bad things can happen.

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I totally get this and after the whole Karen thing happened, I called and e-mailed my vendors to set up a password thing and they thought I was crazy! They said there is no way they take cancellations over the phone... they even said to not let the hype of LIW get to me.. I felt so dumb, but they're right...

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Absolutely...... they are right. But, we're all crazy and will still think, 'OMG WHAT IF???'

I still have all my sh1t up. I don't care. If someone wants to try and pull some wacko sh1t, let 'em. I'm not afraid to go to jail on my wedding day.

There are just some girls on here, that right off the bat know who are the EALS. Like me, I automatically knew of the recent one. Some eals just make is sooooo obvious.

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Posted by AMGBride2008

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Posted by Randilotus

Did you see this girl?

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The Berryxcited girl? Yeah, I saw her picture... just looks like another pretty girl to me... doesn't look familiar at all. Denise (Espo) looks like a spitting image of Jessica Alba... she must be a fake too.

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lol i wish...but no it was a video, and i think i know which actress it was...its one thing if you have other pics up and professional ones up too but your only pic to be a professional video is weird

Ok, so I saw this quote today and went on overload. And ya know what? I don't care if this causes drama. Because I feel like it has to be said. So feel free to 'drama llama, alpaca, douchebag alert, whatever' me.

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Posted by Randilotus

Ok so when I change all my stuff, don't associate me a a fake ok. I don't want to get on here one day and read 'Randi' what a wierdo that girl is!

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Thats the kind of thing that makes me really mad.

But who are WE to decide who is real and who isn't? It's not fair that someone like Randi is afraid that us (the 08ers) are going to shun her and make her feel like she's not a real bride...

My problem is that I really love the girls who I think are kind of policing the boards (seriously, I really do - you guys crack me up) - but at the same time I get really frustrated and think it isn't fair to some of the new girls on here (like Randi - sorry to be using you as an example, but I feel bad that you're concerned about changing your info on here!).

I mean, all we can go on are assumptions about other people. We don't actually know who these people are or what their situation is. I remember one girl on here made a huge mess of the boards, but I really think she just didn't know how to communicate with everyone. I don't necessarily think she was a lurker or someone coming on here to cause harm to anyone I just don't think she could get her points across the right way (things can be interpreted so many different ways on here).

These boards are filled with people with tons of different personalities. I remember when I started posting on here I was really nervous and uncomfortable. I probably made some dumbass comments and made enemies on day one...but I can't IMAGINE how I would have felt if I was 'welcomed' by people calling me out as a fake bride.

Try to remember how you felt after getting engaged. You were excited and wanted to share with the world and you joined LIW to make a network of friends who could support you. So to have someone come out (who doesn't know you at all) and say that you aren't 'real?' And then 15 other people jump in and bully you?

I'm not saying that there havent been fake brides. Sure - there have been. But all I'm saying is that for those of you who were here during the Karen thing, remeber that she was sabatoging her OWN wedding so that people on here would pay attention to her. All she wanted was attention. No malice. Just attention.

So I guess I just needed to get it out there and let people know that it's ok to come on here and post.

Just because you have only 10 posts on here and start talking negatively about a vendor doesn't mean you're fake. Just because you're indecisive about booking a hall and change your mind a few times doesn't mean you're fake. And no one has the right on here to come out and say you are. You're as welcome on these boards as anyone else. So post away and don't feel uncomfortable doing so.

Ok, that's it. Thanks.

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Posted by AMGBride2008

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Posted by Randilotus

Did you see this girl?

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The Berryxcited girl? Yeah, I saw her picture... just looks like another pretty girl to me... doesn't look familiar at all. Denise (Espo) looks like a spitting image of Jessica Alba... she must be a fake too.

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I'm not saying because she's pretty, there are plenty of pretty girls here. She was just a little weird. I responded to todays thread, because I thought she was wierd that night, didn't know others thought so too. And I have nothing against new people, hello I'm new too!

Have that many people really been attacked as being eals? I seriously only remember 2 that were called out and they rarely post anymore. Were there more I dont know about? There were a bunch of newbies who introduced themselves and they werent attacked. I wasnt attacked and I never even introduced myself.

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Posted by Randilotus
I'm not saying because she's pretty, there are plenty of pretty girls here. She was just a little weird. I responded to todays thread, because I thought she was wierd that night, didn't know others thought so too. And I have nothing against new people, hello I'm new too!

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There's nothing wrong with being pretty and weird.

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Case in point.

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Posted by beachbum05

Ok, so I saw this quote today and went on overload. And ya know what? I don't care if this causes drama. Because I feel like it has to be said. So feel free to 'drama llama, alpaca, douchebag alert, whatever' me.

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Posted by Randilotus

Ok so when I change all my stuff, don't associate me a a fake ok. I don't want to get on here one day and read 'Randi' what a wierdo that girl is!

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Thats the kind of thing that makes me really mad.

But who are WE to decide who is real and who isn't? It's not fair that someone like Randi is afraid that us (the 08ers) are going to shun her and make her feel like she's not a real bride...

My problem is that I really love the girls who I think are kind of policing the boards (seriously, I really do - you guys crack me up) - but at the same time I get really frustrated and think it isn't fair to some of the new girls on here (like Randi - sorry to be using you as an example, but I feel bad that you're concerned about changing your info on here!).

I mean, all we can go on are assumptions about other people. We don't actually know who these people are or what their situation is. I remember one girl on here made a huge mess of the boards, but I really think she just didn't know how to communicate with everyone. I don't necessarily think she was a lurker or someone coming on here to cause harm to anyone I just don't think she could get her points across the right way (things can be interpreted so many different ways on here).

These boards are filled with people with tons of different personalities. I remember when I started posting on here I was really nervous and uncomfortable. I probably made some dumbass comments and made enemies on day one...but I can't IMAGINE how I would have felt if I was 'welcomed' by people calling me out as a fake bride.

Try to remember how you felt after getting engaged. You were excited and wanted to share with the world and you joined LIW to make a network of friends who could support you. So to have someone come out (who doesn't know you at all) and say that you aren't 'real?' And then 15 other people jump in and bully you?

I'm not saying that there havent been fake brides. Sure - there have been. But all I'm saying is that for those of you who were here during the Karen thing, remeber that she was sabatoging her OWN wedding so that people on here would pay attention to her. All she wanted was attention. No malice. Just attention.

So I guess I just needed to get it out there and let people know that it's ok to come on here and post.

Just because you have only 10 posts on here and start talking negatively about a vendor doesn't mean you're fake. Just because you're indecisive about booking a hall and change your mind a few times doesn't mean you're fake. And no one has the right on here to come out and say you are. You're as welcome on these boards as anyone else. So post away and don't feel uncomfortable doing so.

Ok, that's it. Thanks.

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WELL SAID.

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Posted by AmandaLynn04

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Posted by Randilotus
I'm not saying because she's pretty, there are plenty of pretty girls here. She was just a little weird. I responded to todays thread, because I thought she was wierd that night, didn't know others thought so too. And I have nothing against new people, hello I'm new too!

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There's nothing wrong with being pretty and weird.

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Case in point.

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Posted by beachbum05

Ok, so I saw this quote today and went on overload. And ya know what? I don't care if this causes drama. Because I feel like it has to be said. So feel free to 'drama llama, alpaca, douchebag alert, whatever' me.

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Posted by Randilotus

Ok so when I change all my stuff, don't associate me a a fake ok. I don't want to get on here one day and read 'Randi' what a wierdo that girl is!

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Thats the kind of thing that makes me really mad.

But who are WE to decide who is real and who isn't? It's not fair that someone like Randi is afraid that us (the 08ers) are going to shun her and make her feel like she's not a real bride...

My problem is that I really love the girls who I think are kind of policing the boards (seriously, I really do - you guys crack me up) - but at the same time I get really frustrated and think it isn't fair to some of the new girls on here (like Randi - sorry to be using you as an example, but I feel bad that you're concerned about changing your info on here!).

I mean, all we can go on are assumptions about other people. We don't actually know who these people are or what their situation is. I remember one girl on here made a huge mess of the boards, but I really think she just didn't know how to communicate with everyone. I don't necessarily think she was a lurker or someone coming on here to cause harm to anyone I just don't think she could get her points across the right way (things can be interpreted so many different ways on here).

These boards are filled with people with tons of different personalities. I remember when I started posting on here I was really nervous and uncomfortable. I probably made some dumbass comments and made enemies on day one...but I can't IMAGINE how I would have felt if I was 'welcomed' by people calling me out as a fake bride.

Try to remember how you felt after getting engaged. You were excited and wanted to share with the world and you joined LIW to make a network of friends who could support you. So to have someone come out (who doesn't know you at all) and say that you aren't 'real?' And then 15 other people jump in and bully you?

I'm not saying that there havent been fake brides. Sure - there have been. But all I'm saying is that for those of you who were here during the Karen thing, remeber that she was sabatoging her OWN wedding so that people on here would pay attention to her. All she wanted was attention. No malice. Just attention.

So I guess I just needed to get it out there and let people know that it's ok to come on here and post.

Just because you have only 10 posts on here and start talking negatively about a vendor doesn't mean you're fake. Just because you're indecisive about booking a hall and change your mind a few times doesn't mean you're fake. And no one has the right on here to come out and say you are. You're as welcome on these boards as anyone else. So post away and don't feel uncomfortable doing so.

Ok, that's it. Thanks.

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Oh I'm not offended at all! I was just saying that I never even thought about posting all my info. There are some scary people out there! But I really like all of you

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Posted by beachbum05

Ok, so I saw this quote today and went on overload. And ya know what? I don't care if this causes drama. Because I feel like it has to be said. So feel free to 'drama llama, alpaca, douchebag alert, whatever' me.

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Posted by Randilotus

Ok so when I change all my stuff, don't associate me a a fake ok. I don't want to get on here one day and read 'Randi' what a wierdo that girl is!

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Thats the kind of thing that makes me really mad.

But who are WE to decide who is real and who isn't? It's not fair that someone like Randi is afraid that us (the 08ers) are going to shun her and make her feel like she's not a real bride...

My problem is that I really love the girls who I think are kind of policing the boards (seriously, I really do - you guys crack me up) - but at the same time I get really frustrated and think it isn't fair to some of the new girls on here (like Randi - sorry to be using you as an example, but I feel bad that you're concerned about changing your info on here!).

I mean, all we can go on are assumptions about other people. We don't actually know who these people are or what their situation is. I remember one girl on here made a huge mess of the boards, but I really think she just didn't know how to communicate with everyone. I don't necessarily think she was a lurker or someone coming on here to cause harm to anyone I just don't think she could get her points across the right way (things can be interpreted so many different ways on here).

These boards are filled with people with tons of different personalities. I remember when I started posting on here I was really nervous and uncomfortable. I probably made some dumbass comments and made enemies on day one...but I can't IMAGINE how I would have felt if I was 'welcomed' by people calling me out as a fake bride.

Try to remember how you felt after getting engaged. You were excited and wanted to share with the world and you joined LIW to make a network of friends who could support you. So to have someone come out (who doesn't know you at all) and say that you aren't 'real?' And then 15 other people jump in and bully you?

I'm not saying that there havent been fake brides. Sure - there have been. But all I'm saying is that for those of you who were here during the Karen thing, remeber that she was sabatoging her OWN wedding so that people on here would pay attention to her. All she wanted was attention. No malice. Just attention.

So I guess I just needed to get it out there and let people know that it's ok to come on here and post.

Just because you have only 10 posts on here and start talking negatively about a vendor doesn't mean you're fake. Just because you're indecisive about booking a hall and change your mind a few times doesn't mean you're fake. And no one has the right on here to come out and say you are. You're as welcome on these boards as anyone else. So post away and don't feel uncomfortable doing so.

Ok, that's it. Thanks.

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i agree, and i welcome everyone and never accused anyone of being fake...I also hate it that ppl are suspicious right away if your new and feel bad for them. I also dont care if a fake bride or not even fake bride but more like the karen situation posts on here, or even karen herself if she posted, shes not harming anyone personally. But when its getting into my personal life i cant ignore it. This is like the 3rd time too that this is happening to me on here that got personal

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Posted by Songstress1212

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Posted by AmandaLynn04

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Posted by Randilotus
I'm not saying because she's pretty, there are plenty of pretty girls here. She was just a little weird. I responded to todays thread, because I thought she was wierd that night, didn't know others thought so too. And I have nothing against new people, hello I'm new too!

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There's nothing wrong with being pretty and weird.

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Case in point.

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I'm gonna post the pic in my profile....