St. Mary's Church in Roslyn - would not let me get married there

I got a ton of recommendations to have my wedding at St. Mary's in Roslyn.

So I call them and they ask me if I am a parishoner or live in the area. I tell them no and they are like 'well you can't have your wedding here'.

*** is up with that? I almost wanted to let it rip over the phone cause I am already having a ****** day today... but I just said it wasn't worth it. I figured their next question would have been 'well are you catholic and received all the sacraments' and I would have said yes but it didn't even get that far.

So now I need more recommendations on a church to get married at. Actually it doesn't even have to be a church..... just someplace nice cause frankly at this point I don't even care if I have a catholic wedding now or not.

Thanks in advance.

Re: St. Mary's Church in Roslyn - would not let me get married there

Does it have to be on Long Island?

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Well... my FW already told me there is no way in hell I am having the wedding any closer to Queens than the Swan Club / Roslyn because all her family already has a ton of travelling coming from Riverhead/SouthHampton/Wading River.

But hey... she may to deal with it if I can only get married at the church in my neighborhood (which is actually a nice church - a shame).

So I am pretty much open to anything... but I would prefer it to be relatively close to either Harrison House in Glen Cove or the Swan Club.


Thanks.

Re: St. Mary's Church in Roslyn - would not let me get married there

Many Catholic churches have policies like that. My church (in the Bronx) has the same policy. My mom used to work at the church and said they would always have brides coming in who wanted to get married there just b/c it's the church with the longest aisle in the neighborhood.

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Well she said they get tons of requests because of 'the proximity to all the catering halls'.

I dunno... maybe i'll check out the historic chapel.

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I had this problem too. (back when we were Catholic, as I like to say. )

Some were mean, some were nicer & explained that they jsut have too many parishoners& they come first.

Our Lady of Lourdes in Massapequa Park did take us,
but for personal reasons,we decided we preffered an Episcopal church.

Aug21-04 got married there,she was the one that suggested it to me.

ETA- St.Paul the Apostle in Brookville was suggestedto me whenI was inthis situation. It hink that is near Rosyln, but I don't really know where Roslyn is.
Anyway, if I recall correctly,they were a little dificult to getin touch with but were willing to take us,only we had already found a placeby then.



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Re: St. Mary's Church in Roslyn - would not let me get married there

I called the historical chapel. I might just have my wedding there. Its available at 5pm. No pre-cana involved. $900 buks and they provide whatever clergy I want.

My only concern is the reception starts at 7pm... that might be cutting it close if the ceremony is at 5pm. I can't get it any earlier.

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Most Cathiloc churches will not let you get married there if you or your partner are not a parishioner.

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Most Cathiloc churches will not let you get married there if you or your partner are not a parishioner.

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Well I guess I was just out of the loop on this one then. I just got so many recommendations for this church... I figured it was just common practice that you can pick any church you want.

Oh well... FW is definitely not going to be happy if I tell her that my church in Queens is the only option. LOL

Knowing this... we will probably just do Historical Chapel.

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ETA- St.Paul the Apostle in Brookville was suggestedto me whenI was inthis situation. It hink that is near Rosyln, but I don't really know where Roslyn is.
Anyway, if I recall correctly,they were a little dificult to getin touch with but were willing to take us,only we had already found a placeby then.

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This is where we got married, after calling 4 other churches who turned us down. Everyone there is really nice.

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DjPiLL-

I would recommend the church where my fiance and I are getting married. It is a cute catholic church in Bayville called St. Gertrudes. It is about 6 miles from the Harrison House (that's what the church told me).

I am not a catholic but my fiance is AND they are letting us get married on Palm Sunday. I would suggest giving them a call. They are charging us $500 to do the ceremony b/c we are not parishoners. But at least they will marry us on our date, we had a hard time with churches because I am not catholic and we wanted to get married on Palm Sunday.

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Ok.... we had the SAME problem, different church. I grew up in LI, my FH is from Cleveland. I received all the sacraments through the Diocese of Rockville Centre, I NEVER thought I'd have a problem finding a church closer to my reception hall (Central Suffolk County).

Getting married in my own parish (Valley Stream) was out of the question because we have MANY OOT guests that are staying at the hotel we are having our reception at. I am not about to make my inlaws drive 50 miles to the church, only to have to drive 50 miles back.

I found a church I LOVED out there but got the same reception from the gentleman that answered the phone - very chilly. I hung up the phone in TEARS thinking, 'now what do we do?' Not having a church wedding was never in my plans.

Thank goodness for my dear, darling FH. He called back but spoke to the MSR. rather than the rectory secretary. Guess what? We got our church.

I later found out from my brother that he and his wife had the same problem (they live in VA, but wanted to get married in LI). After dealing with hard @ss receptionists, they wisened up and actually spoke to a priest. The priest tends to be more 'forgiving' and more lenient about the 'rules'. I recommend you do that if you truly have your heart set on a church ceremony.

Good luck to you and keep us posted!
Amy

Re: St. Mary's Church in Roslyn - would not let me get married there

My cousin and his wife had a problem because their home parish would not do a mass for their wedding. They were able to get married at St. Barnabas (I think that was the name of the church) in Bellmore, and I am fairly sure they were not members.

What town do you live in? I was able to get St. Bernard's in Levittown- even though I was not a member, the priest said, 'Well, you live here, so this is your home parish!' They were really nice there, it might be worth a try.

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I had so many problems and issues with my ceremony at my parish church, why do they want to make things difficult when you are trying to start a new family into catholism, I don't feel like they are in a position to turn anyone away

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ETA- St.Paul the Apostle in Brookville was suggestedto me whenI was inthis situation. It hink that is near Rosyln, but I don't really know where Roslyn is.
Anyway, if I recall correctly,they were a little dificult to getin touch with but were willing to take us,only we had already found a placeby then.

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This is where we got married, after calling 4 other churches who turned us down. Everyone there is really nice.

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Maybe it was you who suggested it to me sorry,that seems like ages ago I don't recall.

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Posted by LIBrideinBWI

Thank goodness for my dear, darling FH. He called back but spoke to the MSR. rather than the rectory secretary. Guess what? We got our church.

I later found out from my brother that he and his wife had the same problem (they live in VA, but wanted to get married in LI). After dealing with hard @ss receptionists, they wisened up and actually spoke to a priest. The priest tends to be more 'forgiving' and more lenient about the 'rules'. I recommend you do that if you truly have your heart set on a church ceremony.

Good luck to you and keep us posted!
Amy

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I was one of the ones who recommended St. Mary's. I got married there, but I also received all of my sacraments there, so it would never have been an issue for me.

I'm sorry you got such a negative response there. MSR Bauhoff is the sweetest, nicest man in the world. If you do decided to contact him directly, I wish you all the luck!

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ETA- St.Paul the Apostle in Brookville was suggestedto me whenI was inthis situation. It hink that is near Rosyln, but I don't really know where Roslyn is.
Anyway, if I recall correctly,they were a little dificult to getin touch with but were willing to take us,only we had already found a placeby then.

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This is where we got married, after calling 4 other churches who turned us down. Everyone there is really nice.

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Maybe it was you who suggested it to me sorry,that seems like ages ago I don't recall.

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Probably not from me, b/c I was all paranoid that they would bump my ceremony for a parishioner's at the last minute, so I was verrrrry quiet about where I was getting married!

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I AM GETTING MARRIED AT THE GARDEN CITY COMMUNITY CHURCH IN GARDEN CITY BY THE GC HOTEL. WE ARE NOT REALLY RELIGIOUS.. THE PLACE IS BEAUTIFUL IN RESIDENTIAL AREA...WHAT I LOVE ABOUT IT IS THAT ISNOT RIGHT ON STEWART AVE.. ITS PPUSHED BACK ON ROLLING GREE LAWNS.. ITS BEAUTIFUL!

Re: St. Mary's Church in Roslyn - would not let me get married there

I am getting married at St. Mary's, but have been a parishner my whole life. Although I live in the city now, my parent's still attend mass here. They have to limit who can get married there. I know St. Brigid's in Westbury and some other churches have to do the same thing.

Anyway we made a point to book our church before our reception hall. A friend of mine had a problem at St. Brigid's with this. So we made sure to visit the church and see what was available before we finalized with the reception hall. Just something else to think about.

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I disagree that its a large church. I chose it for sentimentality reasons and because it is on the small side -- only 16 pews on each side! It is very quaint and very beautiful.

I guess I can see why churches limit who can get married there, especially to 'save' room for its parishioners.