Starting the adoption process..where do I post now?

We are still going to try a few rounds of IUI's, but we are starting the adoption process because it is so time consuming..the social worker is coming out for our first visit on November 19th and she will check us out and make sure we arent killers, etc. Im nervous!
Then that should take a few months and then we have to put together more paperwork, but while that is happening, we will get referrals for children. We decided to adopt from Ethiopia..so we may have a child or children by the end of summer!!!! Im so excited!! But I dont know where I post, we are still trying IUI's, so technically we are TTC, but also adopting. Where do I fit in here?

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Both boards! Congrats and Good Luck Alicia and Rex!!!

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That is great!! Congratulations and I will keep good thoughts for you!!!!

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That is great. Stay here on TTC and parenting. We have friends that are also going thru this and are going to groups in NYC about this. They are thinking of adopting from Russia.

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WHile i am not officially TTC...please stay here and keep a written record of everythign you do!! Me and DH have both said that we would love to adopt should we not be able to conceive or even if we do have our own, we would love to bring another baby into a safe and secure household.

Just a bit of advice. DH works with a guy who has adopted two babies from Russia and they are two of the most wonderful babies in the world. It did not take as long as the American process goes, but i do know that they found the place on the internet or group i should say and they had to stay in Russia for three weeks (its the law over there) before htey could take the baby home...but they are so happy they did....

I really praise you and your husband for going this route......I've always said (from a person who does not have her father in her life but a step dad that i consider my dad) anyone can be a father biologically, but it takes a whole lot more to be a daddy! GOOD LUCK!!!

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Sept wed..that was beautiful!
I have been researching the countries for a few months now and Ethiopia is for us. Russia does sound fantastic, but I cant find a single reason to not adopt from Ethiopia, every other country I could find a flaw here or there, Ethiopia is PERFECT for us! The children there are mostly orphaned unfortunately to their parents dying. They are kept in slings for the first three years of their lives and this decreases the risk of any future attachment disorders. Fetal alcohol syndrome is unheard of there because alcohol and drugs are a luxury that most cant afford in Ethiopia. The children are absoultely GORGEOUS and range from infants to older children. They are raised in orphanages with a low ratio of caretakers to children. They are even taught English. We would go for about two weeks and bring our children home. and it is a relatively short process.The children over there literraly risk the chance of dying if they arent adopted...the country is so poor that when they grow up, they have an increased chance of infection, etc. It is so sad, I just know that country is for us. But I will keep a record..I may set up a website because our families are so excited for us and they want to watch everey stpe of the way. It is very exciting. i wish I could win the lottery so that I could adopt more children. It is so so so sad the amount of children throughout the entire world who need and deserve a family.
I think my Dr.s want to try two months of IUI's before they would recommend IVF, which we wont do because our insurance wont cover it....so Ill still TTC...wouldnt it be great if I conceived AND adopted! Instant family!

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And thank you everyone for your good thoughts!!!! I really do appreciate them!!! And good thoughts for all of us on here!!!

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Congrats!!!!!!!!!!

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Good luck! I think its so wonderful that your are doing this, please stay here on TTC and keep up posted, than when you have your child/children - then you can go over to the parenting board!
It really does take a special person to open there hearts to children - especially children from other countries. There is a special place in heaven for adoptive parents.

I will keep my fingers crossed that this process goes smoothly for you and your hubby.

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Please stay on both boards and continue sharing your stories with us!!

This is so exciting! I wish you and DH the best of luck in your processes... (IUI and adoption)

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It really does take a special person to open there hearts to children - especially children from other countries. There is a special place in heaven for adoptive parents.

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My thoughts exactly.
Alicia-- that is absolutely wonderful!! I wish you the best of luck and a smooth process along the way!

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I am so excited for you!!!! This is WONDERFUL news! I hope everything goes smoothly and you will have a child very soon!
You can post where ever you want

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wow that's so awesome! i hope the process goes smoothly for you. and please keep us updated. i'm very curious about the process as i would definitely want to adopt if i can't have my own children.

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That is wonderful. And yes you should stick around on both boards. Your experience will be sure to help someone!

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Hey Alicia...... congrats on all the progress!!!! I am happy to hear that things are working in the direction you want and hopefully the adoption process will be painless. Keep me posted as things progress and stay positive!!

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Definitely stay here with us,
you are still TTCing btw adoption and IUI.

I would definitely miss ya

best of luck!!!

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You guys are such an amazing group pf people..your posts brought tears to my eyes!!! I am glad to know that I am still welcome to post here..we will try IUI's I think for two more months, then our Drs recommend IVF, which we wont do. Our homestudy should be completed within those two months and then its on to Ethiopia!!! YIPPPEEEEE I am seraching for tapes that will teach me the language. Older chidlren are taught English, but how cool would it be if I learned their langauge, this way they would never forget it! I wish I could find someone who spoke Amharic..I would pay them to teach me. If anyone knows ANYONE..please pass their info on to me. Thanks again for being so supportive..it means the world to me!!!

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Congratulations on your decision. It's a wonderful thing to do. My FH and I are closely looking at adoption also because it is a very good chance we will never concieve on our own. I've been through 14 months of treatments already.

Can I ask what agency your looking to adopt through?