FH and I just booked our hall yesterday. And today we found out there will be another wedding there at the same time. That's not great, but whatever. But then I realized there's only one bridal suite--and it's on the floor where my wedding will be (the other wedding is downstairs). BUT the hall says since they booked before us, they get the bridal suite.
They'll set up a bridal suite for me, too. I'm not sure it will be as nice since it seems like they're just going to throw it together. But the bigger issue is that it seems like there's going to be another bride and her bridal party getting ready and hanging around in the suite on our floor during our wedding! We're using the entire floor except for that. And the people at the hall don't seem to get it that I really don't want some other bride and groom wandering around in my wedding. Am I totally overreacting? Is this a big deal or not?
laudipop
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Okay, so the update is that they've agreed to give me the bridal suite. Even though the banquet manager said the other bride had it in her contract, the owner says that she doesn't have it in her contract and probably doesn't want it anyway. So now I feel terrible for this other bride! And if they 'find something else' for her, as they told me they would, she'll probably end up being on my floor anyway, so the main problem really isn't solved.
I'm having my ceremony there before the reception and the other bride isn't. So I mostly need the bridal suite to get ready in pre-ceremony. By the time she would need it (when she arrives from the church), I'll already be in the ceremony room getting married. Do you think there's any way we could share it?
nferrandi
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I wouldn't suggest sharing the bridal suite. There's going to be so much going on with both of you that you will probably wind up really aggrivated with the situation. Let the hall deal with the other bride and where she can set up. I do know that if I was that other bride and wasn't getting something I was promised, which noone seems to be sure of one way or the other, I'd be pretty pissed.
laudipop
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I agree; I'd be pissed, too.
The way they handled this whole thing, not being entirely honest with either of us brides, has gotten FH and I really worried. We're going to stop the check and think on it for a few days.
Thanks, everyone, for all your help!
violet
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I agree to stop the check. You're probably paying as much as the other couple, and they're going to be the ones getting the bridal suite? You shouldn't be treated any less because another couple booked before you. They should have told you this before you booked, you shouldn't have had to ask them.
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talk to a manager and let them know your feelings about having another couple using part of your floor - but be prepared to walk and find somewhere else if they dont want to work with you - explain that they really should have told you that before you signed the contract good luck
