Stolen From 2010- Adultery & Cheating?

Original post by flairforfashion

Jun 17, 2008 01:54 PM

How do you ladies feel about adultery? I know we all hate it but god-forbid if this were to happen during you marriage would you forgive and forget or would it be over? Does FH feel the same as you do? I know this is a different type of question but I feel as though we play it safe on this board, I just want to know everyone's true feelings.

flairforfashion Posted: Jun 17, 2008 02:06 PM

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Posted by lanamanitta

Posted by flairforfashion

Posted by MrsShuttles

I HATE cheaters!! Don't even get me stared!! Most do not know but I was previously engaged, getting married in 06...And I called off the wedding about 7 months before cause he was cheating with a 19 year old!! ( I was 27 at the timeand he was 26).....So I feel very strongly about being faithful.....Did anyone hear Z100 this morning?? There was a lady who dated married men and was proud of it!! BEE-OTCH!!!!

I don't understand why some women LOVE married men. I have a friend who dates married men and I don't get it. I think it's terrible to even do that and question her morality but I think it's linked to self esteem issues in the end. Either way though- women who do that are BIOTCHES!

BIOTCH is too nice a word. They are filthy, self-hating whores.

Haha, you are right. It s*cks that I have a friend who does this. She knows how I feel about it. I try to open up her eyes and try to get her to feel for the Wife but still- she was always a wild one who never has been in a long term relationship. I feel bad for people like that because they never have the beauty of true love and a nice comfortable relationship.

lanamanitta Posted: Jun 17, 2008 02:07 PM

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Posted by NickandTara426

Posted by MrsShuttles

I HATE cheaters!! Don't even get me stared!! Most do not know but I was previously engaged, getting married in 06...And I called off the wedding about 7 months before cause he was cheating with a 19 year old!! ( I was 27 at the timeand he was 26).....So I feel very strongly about being faithful.....Did anyone hear Z100 this morning?? There was a lady who dated married men and was proud of it!! BEE-OTCH!!!!

I dated a guy for seven years who decided to 'come clean' the night before one of my law school finals. He not only confessed to one, but to FIVE!!! All of which I had suspected, and he told me I was crazy. Needless to say, I dumped him. I literally kicked him out as he cried on his knees. And . . . I got an A on my final. He wound up withdrawing that semester, then failing the bar exam when he took it. They get what's coming to them, trust me. (all five were in the last 6 months of the relationship . . . it's like he went crazy!)

MrsShuttles Posted: Jun 17, 2008 02:08 PM

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And the girl knew he was engaged!!!! Know how I found out?? He had a myspace (i didnt even know myspace exsisted at the time) and he was one of her friends.....I looked at her page and she had all these pics of him and her up, kissing, on his friend boat.....I emailed her and she told me everything!!

I laugh about it know cause if it wasnt for her I would be with Joey who is a much better man that my ex will ever be!!

flairforfashion Posted: Jun 17, 2008 02:09 PM

Re: Stolen From 2010- Adultery & Cheating?

Posted by lanamanitta

Posted by NickandTara426

Posted by MrsShuttles

I HATE cheaters!! Don't even get me stared!! Most do not know but I was previously engaged, getting married in 06...And I called off the wedding about 7 months before cause he was cheating with a 19 year old!! ( I was 27 at the timeand he was 26).....So I feel very strongly about being faithful.....Did anyone hear Z100 this morning?? There was a lady who dated married men and was proud of it!! BEE-OTCH!!!!

I dated a guy for seven years who decided to 'come clean' the night before one of my law school finals. He not only confessed to one, but to FIVE!!! All of which I had suspected, and he told me I was crazy. Needless to say, I dumped him. I literally kicked him out as he cried on his knees. And . . . I got an A on my final. He wound up withdrawing that semester, then failing the bar exam when he took it. They get what's coming to them, trust me. (all five were in the last 6 months of the relationship . . . it's like he went crazy!)

WOW. What goes around sure comes around! I have had some ex's that cheated and they already had some bad luck in life. Oh well!

flairforfashion Posted: Jun 17, 2008 02:10 PM

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Posted by MrsShuttles

And the girl knew he was engaged!!!! Know how I found out?? He had a myspace (i didnt even know myspace exsisted at the time) and he was one of her friends.....I looked at her page and she had all these pics of him and her up, kissing, on his friend boat.....I emailed her and she told me everything!!

I laugh about it know cause if it wasnt for her I would be with Joey who is a much better man that my ex will ever be!!

See, it's good that it worked out for you in the end- ya know? Everything happens for a reason!

NikkiR515 Posted: Jun 17, 2008 02:15 PM

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Posted by lanamanitta

Don't get me wrong . . . . I would FREAK OUT and end it. But, ask me after we have two kids and have been married 20 years. My answer, all our answers, could be different.

If he did it now, we'd never speak again. That would be that. No questions. Same if I did it. He'd absolutely die, and the pain we'd cause each other would be unbearable. But right now, it's only 'me' we have to think about . . . . .

I agree... If one he cheated tomorrow, the wedding is off for SURE! If he cheated 30 years from now when we have 3 kids and two grandkids... That is something that takes more thought. It also makes a difference on whether or not it was a one time fling or a long term affair...

BarbieGrl10 Posted: Jun 17, 2008 02:18 PM

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FH and I have only jokingly had this convo. I'm really not sure what I would do... I would have to be in the situation to figure it out. I honestly dont even want to think about it.

2009wedding Posted: Jun 17, 2008 02:30 PM

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I hater cheaters and liars also. I would leave my fh if he ever cheated on me. I know he would leave me if I ever cheated on him. I am big on being faithful to each other. If my fh ever cheated on I would never be able to trust him again and I would never be able to forgive him. I would never cheat on my fh cause I love him so much and he is who I want to be with for the rest of my life. I know my fh would never cheat on me cause he loves me and he wouldn't do anything to hurt me but he knows if he ever does I am gone for good.

FuTuRe MrS MaZz Posted: Jun 17, 2008 02:44 PM

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For me, it would depend on how far it went and for how long...

VickiR510 Posted: Jun 17, 2008 03:12 PM

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i think this question has many sides and factors. Was it intentional was premeditated? Was it an on-going affair or a one time thing? Is he truly sorry or is he just completely unhappy in the marriage? For me the answer to these questions would be the reason i decide to do what i do. I dont think i could ever truly trust him the way i do now. It would take forever & then some for me. Because he knows to me a relationship is based on honesty & then the other things. Its the one thing i have always said could be a deal breaker. He feels the same way. But unless it happens i guess i cant reallly ever say exactly what would happen. I pray that i will never have to deal with such a terrible sad issue & i pray it for you girls as well!

dazies1011 Posted: Jun 17, 2008 03:17 PM

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I have been there done that....my son's father did it, I took him back because we have a kid together and he did it again. I broke off the engagement, took my son, 2 yrs old at the time and moved back up to NY.
I will never go through that again and let me say after going through that I can trust but, I always know when something is going on, cheating or not.

Kristina2009 Posted: Jun 17, 2008 03:17 PM

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I see a lot of girls saying that kids and stuff would influence. I know it would not for me. I have seen someone close stay with a bad man because of her kids and a very long marriage that was once perfect. For me, memories and obligations could not shadow the betrayal. I have too much pride and have seen to much to ever do that. Even trying not to judge is sometimes hard.

meli722 Posted: Jun 17, 2008 04:08 PM

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Divorce. I have been through the whole cheating,lying etc in other relationships and i couldnt...FH and I have so much history together that I would be so devastated and surprised at him, that i wouldnt look @ him the same way anyway...so i know i couldnt stay. i most likely would maybe try to make it work depending on what it was and because we have a family together, but i would never forget and never forgive, so it would be hard to stay with him

beram63 Posted: Jun 17, 2008 04:29 PM

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this is one of those things you can't know until you've been there--tied down with 2 kids and a lifetime of shared property, etc. however, my trust would be shattered, and there would be virtually no sex after that, so i don't see how the relationship could survive.

shalice Posted: Jun 17, 2008 04:44 PM

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It all depends on the severity of the cheating…either way he is catching a beat down and she is catching a beat down – HOW U DOIN’

Lisa218 Posted: Jun 17, 2008 05:27 PM

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Fh and I both agree that it would be over. We have seen our friends go through it and we do not want that for us.

meli722 Posted: Jun 17, 2008 05:30 PM

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Posted by shalice

It all depends on the severity of the cheating…either way he is catching a beat down and she is catching a beat down – HOW U DOIN’

Se i dont know if i would get mad at the girl and go and do something to her, FH yes but not her lol...if i knew her then its different...but think about it, alot of girls dont care if you have a wife or not....if the guy is willing to do something, then why is it the girls fault?? its really the guys fault, he is the married one, he shouldnt be out there pursuing anybody.

VickiR510 Posted: Jun 17, 2008 06:27 PM

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Posted by meli722

Posted by shalice

It all depends on the severity of the cheating…either way he is catching a beat down and she is catching a beat down – HOW U DOIN’

Se i dont know if i would get mad at the girl and go and do something to her, FH yes but not her lol...if i knew her then its different...but think about it, alot of girls dont care if you have a wife or not....if the guy is willing to do something, then why is it the girls fault?? its really the guys fault, he is the married one, he shouldnt be out there pursuing anybody.

Depends on if she knew he was a married man. If she did know then she is just as bad as he is in the whole thing!

crazeee18 Posted: Jun 17, 2008 06:32 PM

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if fh ever cheated on me i would kill him ...he would be part of the next road we were digging up

meli722 Posted: Jun 17, 2008 06:35 PM

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Posted by VickiR510

Posted by meli722

Posted by shalice

It all depends on the severity of the cheating…either way he is catching a beat down and she is catching a beat down – HOW U DOIN’

Se i dont know if i would get mad at the girl and go and do something to her, FH yes but not her lol...if i knew her then its different...but think about it, alot of girls dont care if you have a wife or not....if the guy is willing to do something, then why is it the girls fault?? its really the guys fault, he is the married one, he shouldnt be out there pursuing anybody.

Depends on if she knew he was a married man. If she did know then she is just as bad as he is in the whole thing!

alot of woman know they are married and couldnt care less....i think the man is worse because HE is married, the girl is just trying to get some ..........