Okay so my FH was in Atlantic City this past weekend for his friends bachelor party. And the last stop they made was to a strip club. Now there's nothing i can do about it. It was his friends bachelor party and i certainly don't expect my FH to sit anything out. But i had a few thoughts on the topic...
-lots of people say that it's their last chance to see some boobs or naked bodies. Now correct me if i'm wrong, but didn't the guys think of this before they put the damn ring on your finger? I mean when you give the girl a ring... it sort of means that she's it, doesn't it? And that she's the last person you're ever going to sleep with? So if you want to see more boobs or a*ses... shouldn't you wait to give her the ring or at least visit the strip club before you propose to get it out of your system? I mean how romantic is it that your FH has to go to a strip club right before he marries you? Wow that says romance to me!!!
-Okay so say your FH is at a bar and him and a group of people leave. Then he realizes he has to pee and this girl in the group says oh i'm right around the corner, you can use my bathroom (i know its far fetched, but keep with me). When your FH comes out of the bathroom, she all of a sudden comes out of the room naked.... shouldn't your FH feel awkward and that he shouldn't be seeing this, much less be there? That's its very inappropriate? So why is it okay to see someone naked as long as you PAY for it?
I know i'm rambling and all, but it just aggravates me. I mean just because some people say it's acceptable to pay to see naked women, doesn't mean that it's okay. If you're single, that's one thing. But especially when you're engaged... how is it appropriate or acceptable to see other naked women!?!?!?! My FH definitely wouldn't like me showing my goods to other people, so why would it be okay for him to see someone else's goods?
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see... for me, it has nothing to do with trust. I trust my FH 100% completely. For me, it has to do with disrespect!! I find the whole thing disrespectful to the woman and to the marriage. I guess i'm just old fashioned that way.
And this is my personal opinion, but i don't want my FH coming home from a strip club in the mood thinking he's going to get sex from me. Because if he's in the mood... i'm not the one who got him in that mood, some naked girl did... not me.
See that is how I feel as well.
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I told my FH don't expect to get married if there are any other boobs or A$$ at your bachelor party other than mine.
He should have enough sense to tell his GM that it's not what he wants and out of RESPECT for him and his FUTURE WIFE don't plan on having them there.
Period. End of story.
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I agree with all who feel it's disrespectful. However, I'd rather him go to a strip club then have a stripper at a private party. Those girls are plain NASTY and do nasty nasty things.
I am definately lucky though. My FH HATES strippers and strip clubs and only went ONCE for his brothers BP. He said he couldn't stand it and went to sleep in the limo
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I guess I'm in the minority here. I have absolutely no problem with FH going to a strip club. In fact, I've gone to a few of them with him and his friends. It's really just harmless fun and if it makes him happy then who am I to complain. Plus, when he gets home he's always in the mood.
Ditto. I have no problem with them.
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Sorry to say, I'm against them too. I think they are retarded/disgusting.
I do NOT want Fh to go to one for bparty, neither does he. Hes never been to one either. My brother and his brother are in charge of his bparty, but they both know that we dont want them..Will they listen? I hope so-bc I will be pissed off!!
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I am completely against strip clubs and would expect that FH not go, even if it was at a friend's bachelor party. We've discussed this as a hypothetical situation in the past, and he understands and I believe he accepts my position on this.
I would not go to a strip club for a bachelorette party, both because I disagree with the entire concept and out of respect for FH. That's just my opinion, but I think it's disrespectful to your significant other.
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How about Porn? Is that any different?
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I'm against them as well. Luckily my FH sees them as a waste of money and pointless. Whenever his friends try to plan a guys night out, even prior to engagement, he would say he isnt going if they go to a strip club. I am so happy he sees it that way. He's told his friends that he doesnt want a stipper or to go a strip club for his bachelor party. YAY!
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How about Porn? Is that any different?
I would think that's the same sort of thing. Again, I could care less if he looks at it. I mean, I'd be pissed if all he ever did was go to strip clubs and look at porn, but every once in a while is fine.
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I guess I'm in the minority here. I have absolutely no problem with FH going to a strip club. In fact, I've gone to a few of them with him and his friends. It's really just harmless fun and if it makes him happy then who am I to complain. Plus, when he gets home he's always in the mood.
Ditto. I have no problem with them.
Same here...boys will be boys and no matter how much we complain, they aren't going to change their 'tradition'.
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i think, in your original post, you bring up really good points and you are right and i think you are really in touch with your feelings which is great!!
but no matter how you or other girls feel (against it or not) all of your FH's should respect your feelings on it and act on how you feel about it accordingly. i mean, they are your feelings and no one can tell you that you are wrong to have them, they are unique to you and no one should respect them more than your FH's. so if you don't like it they should understand and if you do then that's fine too...
i definitely think the example that you brought up is true and i totally agree with it. my FH is a strange one... he (maybe most guys are like this and I'm unaware) DETESTS the idea of seeing someone that is not me naked... i mean, like he's not even acting to be sweet to me!! he looks like it physically makes him sick if someone brings it up!! it surprises me but that's who he is. even when other girls hit on him he gets like all offended--almost like a girl in a way LOL
so i'm lucky because when it comes to respect and all that jazz, he's more passionate about it than even i am! he's a rare breed i think and even though he's very traditional (which is why i think he feels the way he does) but i love him for it and in so many other ways that he is 'old fashioned' for lack of a better word-- it's really romantic aww, now talking about this makes me want to go home and give him a big hug and a kiss!!
but either way, don't even let someone tell you that your feelings are wrong! that's impossible b/c it's your emotions talking, and that goes for everyone--whether you like clubs like that or not. but i can understand your point and i agree that if you are engaged it's not appropriate.
i hope you feel better!!
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I hate strip clubs.
But he's been to them, I've been to them and we aren't going to tell each other 'Don't go to your friends bachelor/ette party.' It doesn't harm our relationship so it doesn't bother me.
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I am definately lucky though. My FH HATES strippers and strip clubs and only went ONCE for his brothers BP. He said he couldn't stand it and went to sleep in the limo
OMG LOL funniest thing i've heard in a long time!! LMAO!!!! poor baby--sleeping in the limo!!
omg thanks for posting !!! hahaha
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Woo Hoo!!!! I agree 100%!!!!!!!!
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Posted by laural2979
I guess I'm in the minority here. I have absolutely no problem with FH going to a strip club. In fact, I've gone to a few of them with him and his friends. It's really just harmless fun and if it makes him happy then who am I to complain. Plus, when he gets home he's always in the mood.
Ditto. I have no problem with them.
Same here...boys will be boys and no matter how much we complain, they aren't going to change their 'tradition'.
don't be offended by this... but that statement is BULLS*IT! I'm sorry but that old saying doesn't work anymore and that isn't a reason for them to do whatever they want and we should accept whatever behavior/actions they exhibit.
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Honestly, if every guy who got married thought he would never get to see another woman besides his wife naked, or semi-naked, there would be far fewer weddings going on...
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Posted by laural2979
I guess I'm in the minority here. I have absolutely no problem with FH going to a strip club. In fact, I've gone to a few of them with him and his friends. It's really just harmless fun and if it makes him happy then who am I to complain. Plus, when he gets home he's always in the mood.
Ditto. I have no problem with them.
Same here...boys will be boys and no matter how much we complain, they aren't going to change their 'tradition'.
don't be offended by this... but that statement is BULLS*IT! I'm sorry but that old saying doesn't work anymore and that isn't a reason for them to do whatever they want and we should accept whatever behavior/actions they exhibit.
I think the more of a big deal you make it, the more he is gonna want to go, take it easy, if you trust your FH, then there is no problem. Who are we to tell him what he can and cannot do, that is JMO
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Posted by laural2979
I guess I'm in the minority here. I have absolutely no problem with FH going to a strip club. In fact, I've gone to a few of them with him and his friends. It's really just harmless fun and if it makes him happy then who am I to complain. Plus, when he gets home he's always in the mood.
Ditto. I have no problem with them.
Same here...boys will be boys and no matter how much we complain, they aren't going to change their 'tradition'.
don't be offended by this... but that statement is BULLS*IT! I'm sorry but that old saying doesn't work anymore and that isn't a reason for them to do whatever they want and we should accept whatever behavior/actions they exhibit.
I think the more of a big deal you make it, the more he is gonna want to go, take it easy, if you trust your FH, then there is no problem. Who are we to tell him what he can and cannot do, that is JMO
I concur
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Posted by laural2979
I guess I'm in the minority here. I have absolutely no problem with FH going to a strip club. In fact, I've gone to a few of them with him and his friends. It's really just harmless fun and if it makes him happy then who am I to complain. Plus, when he gets home he's always in the mood.
Ditto. I have no problem with them.
Same here...boys will be boys and no matter how much we complain, they aren't going to change their 'tradition'.
don't be offended by this... but that statement is BULLS*IT! I'm sorry but that old saying doesn't work anymore and that isn't a reason for them to do whatever they want and we should accept whatever behavior/actions they exhibit.
I think the more of a big deal you make it, the more he is gonna want to go, take it easy, if you trust your FH, then there is no problem. Who are we to tell him what he can and cannot do, that is JMO
I'm really not making it a big deal. And its not a big deal to him. He doesn't even want to go to a strip club for his bachelor party. That's not the issue. And if you notice in my original post, i was just venting my opinions and discussing my thoughts. That's all!!!
