strip clubs... vent

Okay so my FH was in Atlantic City this past weekend for his friends bachelor party. And the last stop they made was to a strip club. Now there's nothing i can do about it. It was his friends bachelor party and i certainly don't expect my FH to sit anything out. But i had a few thoughts on the topic...

-lots of people say that it's their last chance to see some boobs or naked bodies. Now correct me if i'm wrong, but didn't the guys think of this before they put the damn ring on your finger? I mean when you give the girl a ring... it sort of means that she's it, doesn't it? And that she's the last person you're ever going to sleep with? So if you want to see more boobs or a*ses... shouldn't you wait to give her the ring or at least visit the strip club before you propose to get it out of your system? I mean how romantic is it that your FH has to go to a strip club right before he marries you? Wow that says romance to me!!!

-Okay so say your FH is at a bar and him and a group of people leave. Then he realizes he has to pee and this girl in the group says oh i'm right around the corner, you can use my bathroom (i know its far fetched, but keep with me). When your FH comes out of the bathroom, she all of a sudden comes out of the room naked.... shouldn't your FH feel awkward and that he shouldn't be seeing this, much less be there? That's its very inappropriate? So why is it okay to see someone naked as long as you PAY for it?

I know i'm rambling and all, but it just aggravates me. I mean just because some people say it's acceptable to pay to see naked women, doesn't mean that it's okay. If you're single, that's one thing. But especially when you're engaged... how is it appropriate or acceptable to see other naked women!?!?!?! My FH definitely wouldn't like me showing my goods to other people, so why would it be okay for him to see someone else's goods?

I'm anti-strip club as well.
In MY opinion, its male immaturity.

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Posted by Shorty McBride



I'm anti-strip club as well.
In MY opinion, its male immaturity.

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Agreed!

I know it bugs some people, but for a bachelor party, it doesn't bother me.

One of DH's friends used to go to strip clubs on a regular basis and would always try to get him to go... THAT I have a problem with.

I guess it just depends from person to person.

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Posted by Mikeysgirl

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Posted by Shorty McBride



I'm anti-strip club as well.
In MY opinion, its male immaturity.

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Agreed!

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same

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Posted by DebsNY

I know it bugs some people, but for a bachelor party, it doesn't bother me.

One of DH's friends used to go to strip clubs on a regular basis and would always try to get him to go... THAT I have a problem with.

I guess it just depends from person to person.

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I agree with you.

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Posted by afrodyt2000

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Posted by DebsNY

I know it bugs some people, but for a bachelor party, it doesn't bother me.

One of DH's friends used to go to strip clubs on a regular basis and would always try to get him to go... THAT I have a problem with.

I guess it just depends from person to person.

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I agree with you.

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I agree too- am I saying, YES, please go??? Nope, but its one night- no biggie...I am actually going to one too hehehehe...so how could I tell him he cant

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Posted by july06bride

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Posted by afrodyt2000

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Posted by DebsNY

I know it bugs some people, but for a bachelor party, it doesn't bother me.

One of DH's friends used to go to strip clubs on a regular basis and would always try to get him to go... THAT I have a problem with.

I guess it just depends from person to person.

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I agree with you.

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I agree too- am I saying, YES, please go??? Nope, but its one night- no biggie...I am actually going to one too hehehehe...so how could I tell him he cant

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Exactly, i'm not going to encourage it - but i'm not going to tell him he can't go to a b-party if they are going to a strip-club.

i didn't go to a strip club for mine, but I did for my friends... It was HYSTERICAL. I've never had so much fun! Mind you, it took a few large drinks to get me to really get into it, but we all just had a blast.

We all keep on asking who's getting married next so we have an excuse to go back

I need to take you to one of those male strip clubs SO gross!! Serioulsy, strip clubs don't bother me all that much. I don't think it's right, but for one night I guess it would be ok. Luckily FH is going to Foxwoods for his just to avoid strip clubs, but I am sure they will have a stripper knowing some of the guys he is going with

There are always two distinct opinions on this topic though- those who won't allow it and those who put up with it. I guess I am one who puts up with it

Well FH went to a bachelor party last year and i thought i was the cool girlfriend and totally fine with him going to a strip club but then i freaked out when he came home. I have been to strip clubs before with some girl and guy friends and i have seen what goes on in those places, how the girls can make most guys do certain things in their pants (and if not most guys then it was just my old loser friends) and it makes me feel kinda sick. I guess its okay to look at naked girls they just can't rub up and down on your lap, but then where do you draw the line.

Anyway, after seeing me so upset FH has agreed no more strip clubs. As an added bonus he doens't want me to go see half naked me, so we are basically on the same page.

I dont get the whole its one night its ok, its a tradition bs, it seems disrespectful to your FW (future wife) to go and look at other women and have them dance for you for money.

I just dont get it...its totally not something you have to do...

I guess I'm in the minority here. I have absolutely no problem with FH going to a strip club. In fact, I've gone to a few of them with him and his friends. It's really just harmless fun and if it makes him happy then who am I to complain. Plus, when he gets home he's always in the mood.

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Posted by mcb916

I need to take you to one of those male strip clubs SO gross!! Serioulsy, strip clubs don't bother me all that much. I don't think it's right, but for one night I guess it would be ok. Luckily FH is going to Foxwoods for his just to avoid strip clubs, but I am sure they will have a stripper knowing some of the guys he is going with

There are always two distinct opinions on this topic though- those who won't allow it and those who put up with it. I guess I am one who puts up with it

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I've actually been to a strip club. In college, my roommates and i thought it would be funny to take our 'virgin' friend to one. It was funny, but after a while, it just grossed me out and definitely don't come near me!!! But do i see the need to go back... absolutely not.

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Posted by laural2979

I guess I'm in the minority here. I have absolutely no problem with FH going to a strip club. In fact, I've gone to a few of them with him and his friends. It's really just harmless fun and if it makes him happy then who am I to complain. Plus, when he gets home he's always in the mood.

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Me too!

The way I see it is this... if FH wants to see naked woman, he will, be it at a strip club, in a magazine or watching porn on TV or the internet. It is HIS responsibility to stop it or say no when it gets to the point where he feels uncomfortable, and believe me, when guys are truly IN LOVE, they DO feel guilt. I agree, alcohol and drugs may play a part in certain guys doing things they regret later on, but they knew what they were doing by taking part of those recreational activities. 'I didn't know what I was doing' is an excuse... you didn't KNOW you were drinking yourself into oblivion? Come on!

That being said, I freely admit to encouraging my FH to attend strip clubs, and lookat/watch porn; Like Laural says, I reap the rewards when he gets home...

PS. I posted a while back about my FH not wanting a stripper at his BP b/c he didn't want to be responsible for doing something he may regret. It just goes to show me how well he knows himself (when he starts drinking and smoking he can get a little uninhibited) and how much he values our relationship.

see... for me, it has nothing to do with trust. I trust my FH 100% completely. For me, it has to do with disrespect!! I find the whole thing disrespectful to the woman and to the marriage. I guess i'm just old fashioned that way.

And this is my personal opinion, but i don't want my FH coming home from a strip club in the mood thinking he's going to get sex from me. Because if he's in the mood... i'm not the one who got him in that mood, some naked girl did... not me.

You now how I feel about it all already!

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Posted by Shorty McBride



I'm anti-strip club as well.
In MY opinion, its male immaturity.

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agreed, and my fh agrees... he outgrew that scene thank god :)

I'm anti-stripclub also, and agree 100% with the poster. What you said makes sense!!!!!