If your FI/FH was calling a new *girl* friend that he met through his job at all hours of the day and night , would you be mad? Now, let me just say that he never told me about her and I found this out on my own. He swears up and down that all they do is talk and once in a while go to lunch and that there is absolutely nothing going on. I was just wondering if you girls think that this is acceptable behavior of your man...
Ok, this can be an innocent thing but it is still unacceptable. I always think that a 'mental affair' can be much more damaging than a physical one. JMO Hope it all works out.
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i would be upset....the way i see it if theres nothing going on then y not mention his new friend?? doesn't he discuss his day? and if he does...y leave that part out?
I can also be a jealous person at times too...not always....but sometimes u know when u just get a vibe from a grl u can't trust kinda thing
U should know ur fh well enuff...don't jump to conclusions just yet....really find out...ask him y he didn't mention her...and if he says cuz theres nothing to tell....then u decide based on how he answers based on how well u know him...go with ur gutt...
don't know if i'm giving the best advice...but this is my first reaction after reading your post.
good luck!!
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I would be most pissed that he didn't tell me. When FH meets a new guy, I usually hear his name around. 'Oh I s/w X...' etc... Having a female friend is not the issue to me, its not sharing it.
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I think I would be upset... I do admit that I would probably be very jealous. I would definitely try to find out more and maybe meet the girl too so that you can decide if it's a true friendship or something more...
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The reason why he didn't tell me is because he knows I'm a jealous person... and he said that I would've automatically assumed something is going on when there isn't. The last time he started talking to some other girl (a while back), it really upset me.
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IMO there is no need to call all hours of the day and night. What are they talking about during the night? I would definitely be pissed...
ETS: I voted yes cause I thought the poll was would you be mad, then I reread it...My vote would definitely be no!
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The calling at all hours is what bothers me, along with the having never told you part. Even if you're a jealous person, it's important that he not HIDE things.
KathleenG
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It would definitely bother me.
nylibride
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Sounds sketchy. First, I'd just be curious if it is normal behavior for him to call other friends at 'all hours.' If it is, then no big deal. If not...hmmmm. He needs to step up and just be honest about things, but trust your gut!
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Sorry, I know if my Man was doing that it is not innocent. If it was purely platonic, you would have heard about her and probably met her by this point. I know my man is strictly a man's man-meaning he doesn't have 'female friends', that means that he doesn't really chit chat with girls like a friend, if he's going to be 'Hanging out' with females and calling them on the phone for no particular reason except to shoot the breeze, it would be because he's interested in her. But I have a guy friend who has a lot of female friends and it's purely a friend relationship, he's very mellow and likes to socialize a lot, but I know his girlfriend and we have all hungout. So you really have to find out if this is strange behavior for you man. But I would definitely be suspicious.
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Yes, that would bother me big time!!!
Bride Needs Advice
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Well, he says that he started talking to her about us because we've been having problems. He says they 'clicked' and that they have a lot of stuff in common but that's it... there's nothing else going on. I don't know whether to believe him or not...
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If it was innocent he would have told you about it. And talking to this person all hours of the night is definately unacceptable. I hope it turns out to be really just a 'friend.' Sending you positive vibes.
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Well, he says that he started talking to her about us because we've been having problems. He says they 'clicked' and that they have a lot of stuff in common but that's it... there's nothing else going on. I don't know whether to believe him or not...
Oh Lord.
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I would not be happy I don't think that a man who is engaged or married should be making any new *girl* friends that he is talking to on the phone and going to lunch with If my fi was going to lunch and talking on the phone with a girl that he works with I would be very mad Also if he did not tell me that would make me think he had something to hide JMO
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Red flag! Red flag! I'd be PISSED. He started talking to her about your problems (umm..'i'll comfort you....how could she do that to you? I am better' -- I know that game, I've played it...NEVER a good sign) red flag, they 'clicked' red flag, he didn't tell you about her BIG RED FLAG!
Ahhh..good luck!
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Posted by BMD'sPeanut
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Well, he says that he started talking to her about us because we've been having problems. He says they 'clicked' and that they have a lot of stuff in common but that's it... there's nothing else going on. I don't know whether to believe him or not...
Oh Lord.
Exactly. Totally unacceptable actions and lame reasoning to boot. You deserve a better explanation that that.
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I'd have a long talk with him.... this is not right at all.
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Red flag! Red flag! I'd be PISSED. He started talking to her about your problems (umm..'i'll comfort you....how could she do that to you? I am better' -- I know that game, I've played it...NEVER a good sign) red flag, they 'clicked' red flag, he didn't tell you about her BIG RED FLAG!
