the whole 'with guest' dilema

RitasEngaged Posted: Mar 09, 2009 09:52 PM

the whole 'with guest' dilema

So like what most people do we are not inviting people with guests unless they are in serious relationships or if they are married blah blah

My sister (MOH) cannot believe I am not inviting her with a guest. She is almost in tears everytime it comes up.

She is 22 has never had a relationship and dates a different guy every week and tells me she can 'find' a date for the wedding. I say oh ok like I want some random guy from your gym at my wedding. I told her if she has a BF for a while by then he can come obviously.

I told her she will be to occupied to just bring anyone and that guy will just feel awkward.

My grandma thinks I am wrong and that she is the MOH and she needs someone to 'dance with'

Am I completely wrong?

FallBride2010 Posted: Mar 09, 2009 09:57 PM

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I'm probably not normal, but I think you should make the exception. She is MOH and the wedding will be alot of money and work for her...if her having fun really depends on having a date -- let her bring one. Just tell her she better cover his plate! LOL

Most people wont agree with me, but I also think everyone should get a +1. I am struggling with this myself b/c I want to cut my list...but I feel too bad not inviting people with a date

grrulz Posted: Mar 09, 2009 09:58 PM

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no i don't think you are wrong at all!! i understand where u are coming from i am only inviting people with guest that have serious relationships!

soontobecruz Posted: Mar 09, 2009 10:12 PM

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When I was MOH in my sisters wedding I was seeing someone. I was not in a serious relationship with this guy. And I felt the same way as your sister and my sister had the same feelings as you. She did allow me to bring him it was an exeception to the rule. I was very glad she did. Now he was not some random guy from the gym and knew a few people there. I think you should make the exception if she understands and agrees that she is your MOH before she is 'His Date'. If you can come to an agreement about that I think it would be fine to have her bring someone.

FutureMrs.M Posted: Mar 09, 2009 10:16 PM

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i am doing things a little different fh bm isnt in a relationship but we are inviting him with a guest. the rest of the bp is in serious relationships so they all have guests. but we discussed this and said that if a few of the bp didnt have bf/gf we would invite them with guests. in reality it would only be one or 2 other people so in the grand scheme it didnt seem like it was worth the aggrivation

RitasEngaged Posted: Mar 09, 2009 10:17 PM

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It really isn't about her 'duties' as MOH I have a DOC it is just the point if I do it for her I do it for everyone

RitasEngaged Posted: Mar 09, 2009 10:18 PM

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My guest list is just really starting to get out of hand like really bad and I am just trying to cut people where I can

FutureMrs.M Posted: Mar 09, 2009 10:18 PM

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it is your sister and i think if you make an exception for her no one could say anything cuz that is blood

soonT0beMrsD Posted: Mar 09, 2009 10:21 PM

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the whole ' guest ' thing can really get out of hand and before you know it you have added on like 20 people or more just as ' guest 's'. im really trying to cut my list down as well and the first people to get cut are the ' guests' lol

FutureMrs.M Posted: Mar 09, 2009 10:22 PM

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i def dont think that everyone should get a +1 but the bridal party (especially a sibbling in the bp) IMO should be an exception.

grkbarbie Posted: Mar 09, 2009 10:23 PM

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i think u should worry about it when the time comes. right now shes not in a relationship and shes getting upset over not being able to bring some1.. who knows..by then she might have some1 and this fighting back and forth would be unecessary. i totally understand where ur coming from about not inviting ppl with guests. i feel the same exact way. like fhs friends that havent had a date in 7 yrs we obviously wont be inviting them with guests.. cuz thats just ridiculous if they just find some girl off of myspace to take. ya know??

RitasEngaged Posted: Mar 09, 2009 10:26 PM

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Posted by grkbarbie

i think u should worry about it when the time comes. right now shes not in a relationship and shes getting upset over not being able to bring some1.. who knows..by then she might have some1 and this fighting back and forth would be unecessary. i totally understand where ur coming from about not inviting ppl with guests. i feel the same exact way. like fhs friends that havent had a date in 7 yrs we obviously wont be inviting them with guests.. cuz thats just ridiculous if they just find some girl off of myspace to take. ya know??

ITA with you Barbs

I keep telling her that we will worry about it than. She like needs to know now. Her 2 best friends will be there and one of them the whole family thinks is her lover anyway you think she would be enough to satisfy her.

there will be like 3 slow dances the whole night so it is not like she will need a man to dance with

FallBride2010 Posted: Mar 09, 2009 10:30 PM

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Posted by RitasEngaged

It really isn't about her 'duties' as MOH I have a DOC it is just the point if I do it for her I do it for everyone

I think people need to understand that you made an exception for your sister/MOH. You dont need to make the exception for everyone:)

grkbarbie Posted: Mar 09, 2009 10:39 PM

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even if u make an exception for her... u dont need to answer to any1 and explain. who is to know u made an exception to her? if ur worried about the other guests...DONT.

RitasEngaged Posted: Mar 09, 2009 10:40 PM

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Posted by grkbarbie

even if u make an exception for her... u dont need to answer to any1 and explain. who is to know u made an exception to her? if ur worried about the other guests...DONT.

oh how I love you

KellyGirl 2010 Posted: Mar 09, 2009 10:44 PM

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this is a fight FH and I have been having. In the end, we are allowing all to bring guests ... It is what it is. I hate it too.

I had to draw the line with FH's little sister. We are allowing her to bring a friend ... now the 2 of them want to bring dates .. NO WAY!!

AHHHHH!!

RitasEngaged Posted: Mar 09, 2009 10:47 PM

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Posted by KellyGirl 2010

this is a fight FH and I have been having. In the end, we are allowing all to bring guests ... It is what it is. I hate it too.

I had to draw the line with FH's little sister. We are allowing her to bring a friend ... now the 2 of them want to bring dates .. NO WAY!!

AHHHHH!!

It really is a never ending thing

My sister MOH has a Best friend who was supposed to be my BM she dropped out but of course she is invited to the wedding

they also have a friend who wants to come to the wedding she is cool and FH likes her so we are inviting her but she has a BF does she expect him to come too????

grkbarbie Posted: Mar 09, 2009 10:50 PM

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of course the bf has to be invited.. how awkward owuld that be if he wasnt? do u guys hang out often? doe she come to ur other functions? i mean put urself in his shoes. lol

RitasEngaged Posted: Mar 09, 2009 10:52 PM

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Posted by grkbarbie

of course the bf has to be invited.. how awkward owuld that be if he wasnt? do u guys hang out often? doe she come to ur other functions? i mean put urself in his shoes. lol

I have seen this girl 3 times in my life and inviting her because she wants to be and doing it for my sister and her other friend and because we like her and FH really likes her

We have never ever met her BF