The worst thing a bride can hear 10 months before her wedding...

Original post by dfw343

May 14, 2009 12:41 PM

My Father is terminally ill with pancreatic cancer. I think he will fade fast. He basically is. He got a little sick right after I got engaged.

I waited until 39 to meet the right guy and got engaged right at 41. I was estatic to find the perfect guy who has the most adorable and loving children (I am going to be a Step Mom..how exciting!).

It is ruining the happiest moment of my life along with the worry of my Mother who this is killing. I will not be given away by my Father whom I adore and has suffered so much in his childhood (he is one of the last Holocaust survivors).

I guess I am posting this because I need prayers and I will have many questions to past brides that may be lurking or anyone who can give advice on some things I should do.

Like, how do I word my invites now, how do I add stuff to ceremony, who is proper in giving me away etc...

I just pray my Father has no pain and my Mother will live through this.

It seems like life is unfair all around...

dfw343 Posted: May 15, 2009 07:25 AM

Re: The worst thing a bride can hear 10 months before her wedding...

Thanks for all of the kind replies, ladies.
I also got a lot of great ideas to incorporate his memory at the wedding.
At first, I wanted to cancel but I was told in Jewish tradition it is bad luck to cancel a wedding.
Besides, he'd want me to still have it.
I also think that the family will need a happy occasion after a sad one.