This is getting VERY expensive!

I go through stages - there's moments where I think we're OK financially and other moments when I think 'OMG how are we ever gonna afford all this' and it seems that the more time goes by the bigger the bill gets I just came to the conclusion that somehow this will all get payed off and it'll be worth the extra work because this is the one day we'll look back on forever. Just try to keep that in perspective and everything will be ok.

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Posted by enjft

I did mine recently and let me tell you I am 20k over what I estimated. I dont know how we gonna make it but I sure am

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yah we are like 15,000 over ours.. and it's just crazy!

whenever we sit down and do that-- it's at least three glasses of wine and a lot of tears. so we have completely stopped ourselves from doing that-- it just freaks us out so we just save a lot and avoid that at all costs b/c it's like a panic attack waiting to happen-- don't worry somehow, you guys will do it!!!

ETA: we were supposed to be at about $60 and we are coming in at like $80-- ok, i'm going to stop thinking about this now b/c breakfast is going to come up

omg, i just told fh last nite , from this day on, u have to go to work every day ,,

he is the bread winner & if he dont work he dont get paid,, Me i have time paid to me,,

it stinks

dollar & dream baby

It is insane...we are both saving and it's over a year away...but I am still cutting corners where I can..I feel like the invitation list will be difficult, since we've already discussed it many times...and I am not getting any $3000 gown either...I think you just haveto prioritize..unfortunately it seems like to have any wedding at all in NY it's a lot of $1000s of $$$$$$

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Posted by christina&mike07

girl it hits me every single day!
I have to keep reminding myself the purpose of spending all this money.

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Ditto!!!

At first when I read the post I figured that this was just a good spot to vent your frustrations about $$$ spent on the wedding.

But now I'm wondering if so many ladies are worried about the cost and having to get 2nd or 3rd jobs and FH working double ovetime to pay for the wedding why not just go with your first thought of a Destination wedding, Smaller wedding. Or having a small wedding and a HUGE party later? I'm not tryng to tell anyone what to do, everyone has an idea of what they want their big day to look like. Just odd too complain if you're the ones that want the BIG day to be elaborate or costly. This is just my opinion you dont have to agree and Im not jumping at anyone, Just what I'm thinking at the time.

I hear ya....I'm super stressing, especially because I'm still in school, have loans for that and credit card bills It's never ending.

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Posted by prettyprincess07

At first when I read the post I figured that this was just a good spot to vent your frustrations about $$$ spent on the wedding.

But now I'm wondering if so many ladies are worried about the cost and having to get 2nd or 3rd jobs and FH working double ovetime to pay for the wedding why not just go with your first thought of a Destination wedding, Smaller wedding. Or having a small wedding and a HUGE party later? I'm not tryng to tell anyone what to do, everyone has an idea of what they want their big day to look like. Just odd too complain if you're the ones that want the BIG day to be elaborate or costly. This is just my opinion you dont have to agree and Im not jumping at anyone, Just what I'm thinking at the time.

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I understand what you mean... and trust me the thought has gone through my mind.. but my DREAM has always been to have it at Villa Lombardi's and I believe to go for your dreams.. my FH is the bread winner.. and I felt that I can't make him pay for most of this.. I need to contribute fairly too.. so I took it upon myself to work a few saturdays a month waitress big affairs to bring in some extra money to help out. I think I will feel sooo good about myself when this is all said and done that we did this on our own! In the meantime.. I know and I'll have to deal with the wedding stress.. as many people will have!
U make a good point though for people that would really really consider a destination wedding!

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Posted by chrissyandvin

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Posted by prettyprincess07

At first when I read the post I figured that this was just a good spot to vent your frustrations about $$$ spent on the wedding.

But now I'm wondering if so many ladies are worried about the cost and having to get 2nd or 3rd jobs and FH working double ovetime to pay for the wedding why not just go with your first thought of a Destination wedding, Smaller wedding. Or having a small wedding and a HUGE party later? I'm not tryng to tell anyone what to do, everyone has an idea of what they want their big day to look like. Just odd too complain if you're the ones that want the BIG day to be elaborate or costly. This is just my opinion you dont have to agree and Im not jumping at anyone, Just what I'm thinking at the time.

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I understand what you mean... and trust me the thought has gone through my mind.. but my DREAM has always been to have it at Villa Lombardi's and I believe to go for your dreams.. my FH is the bread winner.. and I felt that I can't make him pay for most of this.. I need to contribute fairly too.. so I took it upon myself to work a few saturdays a month waitress big affairs to bring in some extra money to help out. I think I will feel sooo good about myself when this is all said and done that we did this on our own! In the meantime.. I know and I'll have to deal with the wedding stress.. as many people will have!
U make a good point though for people that would really really consider a destination wedding!

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I AM SO glad this didnt get taken out of context. I cant and wont knock your hustle for getting what you want. If you've taken the steps to ensure your dream comes true, then I say go for what you want!

i totally agree! It gets out of hand! and its all for one day! one day that you dont fully get to take it all in b/c there is so much that goes on that the day flies by!

Do you know how many brides say that if they had to do it again they would do a destination wedding?!?!? i wonder why!

anyhow, we all go through these stages but the truth is, once your wedding is here, you will appreciate the areas that you didnt skimp on..

try not to let it get to you. we all work hard, so we can play hard!

seriously it makes me ill everyday of my life....i just wanna house already.......