This is not going to be a popular post.... just to warn you...

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Posted by Goldi1021

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Posted by MayBride06

You mean my wedding isn't the center of everyone's universe?? When was someone going to tell me this??

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Well this here lady cannot wait for the PIG. Your wedding IS the center of my universe after a week of Passover fun! BRING ON THE PORK PRODUCTS!

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Even though you are driving 8 hours from Rochester to the East End for the suckling swine???

Damnit Leslie, I thought my wedding was going to be the center of your universe!!! We are having pork also you know!!

I believe all too often we sometimes do lose sight of the big picture when it comes to wedding planning. But that could be because most of the time we don't worry about the marriage or the relationship between ourselves and our significant others. I don't even think twice about it because it's not a concern at all. I know what we have is solid, and nothing can change that.

I have vented a lot on these boards this year alone but mainly because I have been let down a lot of times. Most of the time I vented to make sure I wasn't going crazy for being pissed off.

I have tried to make things very easy for my BP, pretty much handling everything MYSELF because I know the world does not revolve around our wedding, and my BP has a lot going on in their own lives. But when I get flack for asking my MOH to show up at a certain time to get ready, I'm pissed. If that makes me a bridezilla, then so be it.

This site is mainly to talk about weddings, and that's what everyone is here for. I have seen many a bride who has benefitted from NOT becoming a bridezilla because of advice and laughs that she received on here after venting. Had it not been for this site and all of the wonderful women who have given me advice and help me keep my sanity all this time, I might have gone postal long ago.

However, I will say this....as the day gets closer, you really don't sweat the small stuff at all. You realize that you will not be any less married if you don't have the slipper basket, or the perfect dress or anything else for that matter.

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Posted by BKtoLI

Damnit Leslie, I thought my wedding was going to be the center of your universe!!! We are having pork also you know!!

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I guess that means I can't wear my:

'SAVE A PIG - KEEP KOSHER!'

...t-shirt to your wedding. Dammit and I had the shoes to match too!

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Posted by Goldi1021

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Posted by BKtoLI

Damnit Leslie, I thought my wedding was going to be the center of your universe!!! We are having pork also you know!!

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I guess that means I can't wear my:

'SAVE A PIG - KEEP KOSHER!'

...t-shirt to your wedding. Dammit and I had the shoes to match too!

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Posted by MayBride06

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Posted by Goldi1021

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Posted by MayBride06

You mean my wedding isn't the center of everyone's universe?? When was someone going to tell me this??

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Well this here lady cannot wait for the PIG. Your wedding IS the center of my universe after a week of Passover fun! BRING ON THE PORK PRODUCTS!

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Even though you are driving 8 hours from Rochester to the East End for the suckling swine???

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I would walk 500 miles and
I would walk 500 more
Just to be the chick who walks
1000 miles to eat your suckling PIG!

(even if it is on a holiday weekend in G-d's country)
Take THAT Z-morning zoo!

(even if it is on a holiday weekend in G-d's country)
Take THAT Z-morning zoo!

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I feel so loved!!!!!!!!

I would walk 500 miles and
I would walk 500 more
Just to be the chick who walks
1000 miles to eat your suckling PIG!

And how sad is it that I just sang this song outloud to the tune of the song???

OK I am going to be a bridezilla!!!

WTH am I doing HOME when I am supposed to be at my BACHELORETTE PARTY??!!!

AUGHHHHHHHHHHHHHH

WOW... I have to put my 2 cents too!!!!

I am honestly tired on hearing the word Bridezilla used way too often. So... here it is!

Everybody is going to react in a different way. If nothing bothers you... great!

Nobody is going to respond like everybody else when it comes to stress, disappointment, etc. If someone is disappointed that they BP, aunt, etc. is not coming to their shower, wedding, who am I to judge them as being overreacting? I am not in their shoes and what upsets them may not upset me and vice versa. Brides have found that venting on this site keeps their sanity in check so they don't blow with some of their family members.

Of course, in the end, the big picture is that we are going to marry FH. But our path may be different how we get there. Some people have major family drama. Me... I don't. But I am not going to put down anyone who is venting. That does not make them Bridezilla either!

I tend not to say too much on these boards, I just lurk. but....

I think too many brides forget that yes your wedding day is important, but what really matters is the MARRIAGE you are entering into.

Your wedding is ONE DAY in what hopefully will be thousands and thousands days together with your DH.

Yes everyone spends a lot of money on a wedding. But that is your choice! And it is ONLY money. What is most important cannot be bought!

JMHO

I can understand how brides might 'expect' certain things of their BM's, however, when I asked my BM's (who are my 2 cousins and 2 best friends), all I really expected of them was to be by my side the day of my wedding. All 4 of them are college students and I didn't /never expected them to plan my wedding for me or spend tons of money on a bridal shower--They purchased their own dresses and shoes and my mom threw my bridal shower (knowing and understanding the circumstances) and they helped out in anyway possible. My one cousin didnt even make it to my bridal shower b/c she had a field hockey tournament. I was not upset with her at all. I only felt bad b/c I knew she would have wanted to be there. My MOH, who is my cousin, hasn't been by my side every step of the way. She is in school for her master's degree in Connecticut. It is enough just to have her by my side the day of my wedding; I don't need her to follow me to flower and photography appts. and bother her with if I am going to throw rice or rose petals.

Everyone is busy and has things going on in their own lives. I dont talk to my BM's everyday, sometimes I dont talk to them for weeks. It doesnt mean they dont want to be involved in my wedding, they are busy and so am I. But some brides are different and expect more than I do. Maybe, to alleviate any confusion, brides should tell their BM's when they ask them to be in their bridal party what they expect of them.

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Posted by tjs

feel the same way! more to life then my wedding

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I have nothing to say about this thread really but wanted to say that your baby is the cutest thing I have ever seen.

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This site is mainly to talk about weddings, and that's what everyone is here for. I have seen many a bride who has benefitted from NOT becoming a bridezilla because of advice and laughs that she received on here after venting

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precisely!
we get it out of our systems here with people who are in the same boat---with lots of adrenaline coursing thru veins! So we don't drive non-brides crazy!