Posted by bethsiar
I notice that, but I think a LOT of it has to do with the fact that for some reason people that spend a lot of money on their weddings WON'T POST THEM! Its drives me crazy! During planning, I had an impossible time finding pictures from Oheka weddings on any websites! The same goes for Carltun and all the other 'upscale'/expensive places. So I think when I posted and when others who spend a lot actually post their weddings it gets more attention since people aren't used to seeing them. From here I can go into my whole rant about Oheka brides and who they think they are just because they spend money but I will spare you that .........
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I am guilty of the above, and would like to share the reasons why I did not post a review or post any pictures....
Sometimes in the past, when a negative review is given on a vendor, other brides who liked that vendor would come to their defense, and ultimately the bride ends up having to try and defend her experience with that vendor, and the thread would turn ugly that it ultimately got deleted by LIW.
Secondly, I did not want to defend the vendors I used, why I chose to get married at an expensive place, or the amount of money spent on vendors and the wedding.
I felt if I post a review and pictures, some people would feel like I was bragging/showing off. It's a shame because I chose a themed wedding and I got of great help, information and suggestions from girls on this board. I planned my wedding in just about 8 months and because of those girl's help, I was albe to find and have the personal details I wanted for my wedding. There are hundreds and thousands of weddings that take place in the same hall, but it's the individual personal touches that make it special and memorable for each bride.
Because of the above, I did not post a review or any pictures.......I would have loved to have shared my day with all the girls who helped me with the planning along the way, and share my ideas and projects I made with future brides. But because of the reasons above, I chose not to post. Instead, if I have something to offer a bride, I will FM them directly, and only post only if I have information share.
I just wanted to give a different point of view...
Yes, I was very fortunate to get married at Oheka, but I did have to make a few compromises.....No children at the reception, I had to stick to a minimum number, 'No Honeymoon'..... Ultimately....DH and I made the decision that by getting married there, we would receive less than half of the cost of the wedding. But, that was our decision to make.
I think it all comes down to the each couples priorities and financial status at their time of marriage. We had been together as a couple for 18 years, we already owned a house, and had established our business.... Where as other couples, are just starting out together and they chose to have a less expensive wedding, and put the money towards a deposit on a home. Other are fortunate who's families are able to pay for their wedding.....
No matter which type of budget wedding a bride chooses, expensive or inexpensive, it seems sometimes brides feel they have to defend it or justify it.... In the end what makes a wedding special and memorable, is the love, family and friends who come to witness the marriage. And what makes it memoral are the personal touches each couple makes for their wedding day.
I hope I did not offend or mean to give a speech or give a sermon....just wanted to give a different point of view from a past bride.... If I offended anyone please feel free to FM me....
Peace and Love to All
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