Tip Jar- RP from BHB

no way jose! I will take care of the tips for coat room, bar, bathroom and waitstaff! I don't want my guests paying for a thing. There isn't much you can do about valet...so I'll leave that one alone.

Just my opinion...obviously!

The bartenders get paid sh1t.

I've never been to a wedding and not seen one.


Guests are going to tip them regardless if there is a tip jar or not.

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Posted by AmandaLynn04

The bartenders get paid sh1t.

I've never been to a wedding and not seen one.


Guests are going to tip them regardless if there is a tip jar or not.

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I hear you guys...I personally just think a tip jar is not necessary at an event like this. I know certain guests will tip regardless...I just think its kinda tacky (sorry) FH and I plan on giving each bartender around $150...Plus what they make...I don't think its too shabby. I worked in catering for about 4 years too. I think most bartenders would be happy with that.

...again...just my personal opinion...its like an a$$hole...everyone has one...

lol maybe its just me but i am going to let the hall do what it normally does. . . i am not one to micromanage - so if they have one so be it
if they dont that is cool too!

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Posted by katleigh3

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Posted by AmandaLynn04

The bartenders get paid sh1t.

I've never been to a wedding and not seen one.


Guests are going to tip them regardless if there is a tip jar or not.

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I hear you guys...I personally just think a tip jar is not necessary at an event like this. I know certain guests will tip regardless...I just think its kinda tacky (sorry) FH and I plan on giving each bartender around $150...Plus what they make...I don't think its too shabby. I worked in catering for about 4 years too. I think most bartenders would be happy with that.

...again...just my personal opinion...its like an a$$hole...everyone has one...

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I am glad that you are able to understand my point!!!
P.S I have an A$$hole tooooo!

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Posted by Kimbalina

I saw a question about having out the tip jar out at the wedding reception and I never thought about. But do you think there should be a Tip jar on the bar even if you are having an open bar?

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yes. tip jars are usually out at open bars i thought. they are working for something.

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Posted by ant n tilde

lol maybe its just me but i am going to let the hall do what it normally does. . . i am not one to micromanage - so if they have one so be it
if they dont that is cool too!

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Yeah, I'm not going to go run and put one out, but, if it's there, I'm not going to take it away!!!



(As if I would notice either way....)

I've just noticed that I have seen one at other weddings.

wait are you suppose to put one there your self ... i thought the hall just had one

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Posted by Kimbalina

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Posted by katleigh3

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Posted by AmandaLynn04

The bartenders get paid sh1t.

I've never been to a wedding and not seen one.


Guests are going to tip them regardless if there is a tip jar or not.

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I hear you guys...I personally just think a tip jar is not necessary at an event like this. I know certain guests will tip regardless...I just think its kinda tacky (sorry) FH and I plan on giving each bartender around $150...Plus what they make...I don't think its too shabby. I worked in catering for about 4 years too. I think most bartenders would be happy with that.

...again...just my personal opinion...its like an a$$hole...everyone has one...

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I am glad that you are able to understand my point!!!
P.S I have an A$$hole tooooo!

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Okay...Okay...I may be out numbered on this one. Maybe I am micro managing as Tilde says...Thats what I love about this site...always gives me something to think about!

Hey Kim...I hope my post didn't come across as being rude...NOT my intention at all...and maybe I'm just paranoid...but...I was trying to be funny with the a$$hole part...but when I re-read your post...I took it as if I offended you...PLEASE know that was not my intention!!! I hate how things come across in writing sometimes...you can never detect someones tone...sorry if I offended...If I'm being paranoid...then just ignore me.

Bartenders at RHs get like $4.25 and hour. I know a ot of RHs dont allow a tip jar or even for them to place their own dollar at the bar to kick off tips, but it is how they make $.

FH is a captain at a RH and fills in sometimes as a bartender. If his manager sees a tip starting dollar on FHs bar, the manager takes it- haha

I always tip at a wedding and will be tipping the bartenders and waiters in adition to the maitre'd at my own wedding.

I dont think its a problem for guests to tip at a wedding if they want to. I think most people do it anyway...in our families anyway.

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Posted by meg193

Wait, I thought the 20% gratuity that is added on covered the wait staff and bartenders tips. Is that not the case?

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no- that is to pay the wait staff their $8- $10/hr. and the bartenders their $4.25/hour. I think the maitre'd may get like .25 - .50 cents per plate of that also.

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Posted by katleigh3

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Posted by Kimbalina

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Posted by katleigh3

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Posted by AmandaLynn04

The bartenders get paid sh1t.

I've never been to a wedding and not seen one.


Guests are going to tip them regardless if there is a tip jar or not.

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I hear you guys...I personally just think a tip jar is not necessary at an event like this. I know certain guests will tip regardless...I just think its kinda tacky (sorry) FH and I plan on giving each bartender around $150...Plus what they make...I don't think its too shabby. I worked in catering for about 4 years too. I think most bartenders would be happy with that.

...again...just my personal opinion...its like an a$$hole...everyone has one...

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I am glad that you are able to understand my point!!!
P.S I have an A$$hole tooooo!

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Okay...Okay...I may be out numbered on this one. Maybe I am micro managing as Tilde says...Thats what I love about this site...always gives me something to think about!

Hey Kim...I hope my post didn't come across as being rude...NOT my intention at all...and maybe I'm just paranoid...but...I was trying to be funny with the a$$hole part...but when I re-read your post...I took it as if I offended you...PLEASE know that was not my intention!!! I hate how things come across in writing sometimes...you can never detect someones tone...sorry if I offended...If I'm being paranoid...then just ignore me.

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NO WAY!!! I know that you are not being rude! I was aggreeing wit you

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Posted by katleigh3

Okay...Okay...I may be out numbered on this one. Maybe I am micro managing as Tilde says...Thats what I love about this site...always gives me something to think about!

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i am the laziest bride in the world so that is why i think this way

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Posted by ChristineAaron08

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Posted by meg193

Wait, I thought the 20% gratuity that is added on covered the wait staff and bartenders tips. Is that not the case?

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no- that is to pay the wait staff their $8- $10/hr. and the bartenders their $4.25/hour. I think the maitre'd may get like .25 - .50 cents per plate of that also.

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I had no idea that came out of the gratuity.

It shouldn't be called a gratuity then!!!

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Posted by AmandaLynn04

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Posted by ChristineAaron08

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Posted by meg193

Wait, I thought the 20% gratuity that is added on covered the wait staff and bartenders tips. Is that not the case?

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no- that is to pay the wait staff their $8- $10/hr. and the bartenders their $4.25/hour. I think the maitre'd may get like .25 - .50 cents per plate of that also.

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I had no idea that came out of the gratuity.

It shouldn't be called a gratuity then!!!

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I guess they call it gratuity b/c its like when you leave a tip/gratuity to the waiter at a restaurant

But, yup- this is why fh works 2 jobs and is pushing to get a matre'd promotion


ETA- b/c i know someone is probably wondering and fh and i were just discussing this today. Your per plate $ goes to food costs, kitchen staff, and rental of the RH.

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Posted by AmandaLynn04

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Posted by ChristineAaron08

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Posted by meg193

Wait, I thought the 20% gratuity that is added on covered the wait staff and bartenders tips. Is that not the case?

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no- that is to pay the wait staff their $8- $10/hr. and the bartenders their $4.25/hour. I think the maitre'd may get like .25 - .50 cents per plate of that also.

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I had no idea that came out of the gratuity.

It shouldn't be called a gratuity then!!!

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Yeah...its unfortunate! I worked at Miller Place Inn like 10 years ago and they tell the clients 20% gratuity is added onto the bill for the staff...however...regular waitstaff was paid $10ph...nothing extra...bartenders like $6ph...nothing extra...The Maitre'd and assistant Maitre'd received like an extra $400 and $200, respectively.