HEY EVERYONE THE FH AND I ARE DEBATING WHETHER WE SHOULD SEE EACH OTHER BEFORE THE WEDDING AND TAKE PICTURES OR NOT... WHAT DO U GUYS THINK (ESPECIALLY THE ONES THAT HAVE/ DID NOT DO IT)
Jenn04
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ive answered this thread 50000x in the past so heres my short response.
Yes.
- hair/makeup will be fresh for pictures - more time for pictures - married at out hall so no gap bw ceremony/CH - wouldnt want to subject our guests to a gap anyway - dont want to make everyone miss CH (FH and his family have never been to a NY wedding) - we're signing the ketubah before so we have to see eachother before anyway - better & more private 'seeing eachother for first time' pix
Was totally against this at first but we changed our mind. I agree with all of the above (except Ketubah part....dont need to do that). We are paying for 80% of this wedding and want to be at the cocktail hour to eat and greet people! Such a hard decision for us but in the end we live together and see eachother everyday.....plus we are willing to make a sacrifice to have a calmer/smoother/more enjoyable day! JMO!
Jenn04
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OK ONE MORE IMPORTANT COMMENT.
I did a poll on here asking girls who were getting married on site if they were doing pictures before the ceremony and 85% said yes!!!!!
I don't know... some girls dream about walking down the aisle. I always dreamed of seeing his expression as I walk down the aisle.
But I will say that if timing didn't work out, I'd consider photos before hand.
awgg822
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PS - I must explain though that we have plenty of time in between. So I really can't relate about needing to consider this. Best of luck with your decision! Either way, he'll be amazed and think you're the most beautiful thing.
FuTuRe MrS MaZz
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Posted by Jenn04
OK ONE MORE IMPORTANT COMMENT.
I did a poll on here asking girls who were getting married on site if they were doing pictures before the ceremony and 85% said yes!!!!!
i dunno, maybe gurls changed their minds or other gurls responded to this thread that didnt on the one u posted .... i have no idea
alissa5517
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We are seeing each other and getting all our pics out of the way. I am jewish, we always see each other before. I love the coctail hour and want to be at mine. We are setting up a moment with our photographer and videographer to get the moment we see each other on film. I love that it will be our special moment.
sophisticat13
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My fiance and I are seeing each other before the ceremony for pics. At first, I had qualms because I am very traditional but then I realized that we would miss the cocktail hour and I didn't want to!!!! This might sound terribly unromantic, but weddings cost a lot of money and we don't want to miss the best part of it....
LoriBeth2728
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I can't reply! I say NO.... but the photog has convinced me otherwise, due to lighting and nerves and such. I have to convince FH. But... practically it makes sense to see each other beforehand...
lonal
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fh and I are doing pics before. We didn't want to but there isn't a break between ceremony and reception so we didn't feel like we had a choice. We don't want to miss coctail hour for the pics.
PreshusSmurf
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Posted by FuTuRe MrS MaZz
Posted by Jenn04
OK ONE MORE IMPORTANT COMMENT.
I did a poll on here asking girls who were getting married on site if they were doing pictures before the ceremony and 85% said yes!!!!!
i dunno, maybe gurls changed their minds or other gurls responded to this thread that didnt on the one u posted .... i have no idea
The big difference between the 2 threads / polls IMHO is that this one is asking the general population of brides on this site.
The link posted is to a thread asking brides who are getting married AT the hall ONLY.
ValnChris
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I def. don't want him to see me....can't wait for that moment when he first sees me walking down the aisle towards him instead~
MrsS4
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look at the votes-- im surprised they are 50 50 and the women who agreed to see the fh before didnt win-- they are usually the majority with this question-- lol
hmm
failurebydsign
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if you are getting married at RH you should def see eachother because all your planning and all the mony spent..you are hardly going to be able to enjoy it
they are pictures..although they do serve as memories of your wedding day..thats just what they will be
when you look back about your wedding day..all you will remember is taking pictures
but if you have time between ceremony and reception then i would wait
people should ask past grooms
they will answer the question the best
my husband says that he was totally against the face that we were going to see eachother before because of the loss of impact seeing me walk down the aisle
but afterwards he sahe still felt the same way when se saw me walk down then if he would not have seen me so in the end it all worked out
jtgarsik
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in all honesty it's a completely personal choice. For me, I didn't want to see each other before and neither did dh...and i gotta tell ya - there is NOTHING like seeing ur hubby for the first time when those doors swing open and he's waiting for you at the end of that aisle
However, there are a lot of girls on here who DID see their groom beforehand, and to them it was just as special. The photos are fabulous & everything worked for them.
like i said it's entirely a personal choice really take your time & think about it and make the decision with ur FH. Don't listen to what other people have to say because this is something that you're very much gonna look back on. take ur time with it, and i'm sure whatever decision u make will work out to your liking
FutureMrs.T
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I dont think anyone should be swayed either way by what other people are doing/did.
It is a personal choice that only you and FH can make.
Dont let someone make you feel bad if you choose to do it first and make you feel like your wedding day will be less special.
jtgarsik
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Posted by FutureMrs.T
I dont think anyone should be swayed either way by what other people are doing/did.
It is a personal choice that only you and FH can make.
exactly!!
FutureMrsLV
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ugh...Im soooo torn. I REALLY want to get that wow factor walking down the isle but from what O have seen...the photographers are able to capture the'moment' better when it set up pre-ceremony. not sure what im going to do yet!!
