ugh there is something wrong with me

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Posted by ant n tilde

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Posted by yelley77

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Posted by ant n tilde

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Posted by yelley77

Oh Tilde!!! I hear you. That is why I don't want kids at the wedding. Kids are attracted to the center of attention... it's like, murphy's law. Maybe you can mention to FMIL that although you love FG, maybe she can help tame her the day of the wedding.

I don't think any less of you. We only get to do these things ONCE and we deserve to have them done the way we want... whether it is with 18 kids around or no kids around. my friend got married last October and she had like 4 nieces under the age of 4. Well, during their first dance one niece was KICKING AND SCREAMING, 'I WANT AUNT KAT, I WANT AUNT KAT.' my friend was so embarassed that in the middle of her FIRST dance, she picked up her niece and had to dance with her hubby and her niece.

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see i could totally see her doing that BUT i want MY nieces and nephews there with me bc THEIR parents would take them outside and take care of them

for me, it wasn't worth it to have my nieces and nephews miss out on it and NOT invite all kids. . . it was a tough decision but one that was very important to me

and i DON'T want to regret it . . . i LOVED having all the kids there at my shower. . . everyone was ADORABLE besides this incident so that is what makes it so hard!

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I understand. And to each their own. You would hope that if you invite children to your special event that their parents will keep them in line. Don't let it go. Say something. Or beg FH to say something. You'll regret it if this happens on your wedding day.

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I have to talk to him - he said that I am disgusting

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FH said that? what did u say??

wow thanks girls i totally thought i would get flamed for this!

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Posted by ant n tilde

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Posted by yelley77

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Posted by ant n tilde

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Posted by yelley77

Oh Tilde!!! I hear you. That is why I don't want kids at the wedding. Kids are attracted to the center of attention... it's like, murphy's law. Maybe you can mention to FMIL that although you love FG, maybe she can help tame her the day of the wedding.

I don't think any less of you. We only get to do these things ONCE and we deserve to have them done the way we want... whether it is with 18 kids around or no kids around. my friend got married last October and she had like 4 nieces under the age of 4. Well, during their first dance one niece was KICKING AND SCREAMING, 'I WANT AUNT KAT, I WANT AUNT KAT.' my friend was so embarassed that in the middle of her FIRST dance, she picked up her niece and had to dance with her hubby and her niece.

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see i could totally see her doing that BUT i want MY nieces and nephews there with me bc THEIR parents would take them outside and take care of them

for me, it wasn't worth it to have my nieces and nephews miss out on it and NOT invite all kids. . . it was a tough decision but one that was very important to me

and i DON'T want to regret it . . . i LOVED having all the kids there at my shower. . . everyone was ADORABLE besides this incident so that is what makes it so hard!

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I understand. And to each their own. You would hope that if you invite children to your special event that their parents will keep them in line. Don't let it go. Say something. Or beg FH to say something. You'll regret it if this happens on your wedding day.

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I have to talk to him - he said that I am disgusting

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We both know that you aren't. Did you talk to him calmly? Explain to him that this is what the wedding is going to be like. guys don't get it though... little girls don't want to be around the groom, they want to be around the pretty bride, with the pretty dress, who everyone is talking to...

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Posted by ant n tilde

I have to talk to him - he said that I am disgusting

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Tilde, you need to step up to him on this one. Give him a piece of your mind. You barely ask him to do anything.

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Posted by ant n tilde

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Posted by yelley77

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Posted by ant n tilde

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Posted by yelley77

Oh Tilde!!! I hear you. That is why I don't want kids at the wedding. Kids are attracted to the center of attention... it's like, murphy's law. Maybe you can mention to FMIL that although you love FG, maybe she can help tame her the day of the wedding.

I don't think any less of you. We only get to do these things ONCE and we deserve to have them done the way we want... whether it is with 18 kids around or no kids around. my friend got married last October and she had like 4 nieces under the age of 4. Well, during their first dance one niece was KICKING AND SCREAMING, 'I WANT AUNT KAT, I WANT AUNT KAT.' my friend was so embarassed that in the middle of her FIRST dance, she picked up her niece and had to dance with her hubby and her niece.

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see i could totally see her doing that BUT i want MY nieces and nephews there with me bc THEIR parents would take them outside and take care of them

for me, it wasn't worth it to have my nieces and nephews miss out on it and NOT invite all kids. . . it was a tough decision but one that was very important to me

and i DON'T want to regret it . . . i LOVED having all the kids there at my shower. . . everyone was ADORABLE besides this incident so that is what makes it so hard!

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I understand. And to each their own. You would hope that if you invite children to your special event that their parents will keep them in line. Don't let it go. Say something. Or beg FH to say something. You'll regret it if this happens on your wedding day.

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I have to talk to him - he said that I am disgusting

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maybe explain it to him differently, if you say bc you dont have any pictures by yourself hes gonna take it the wrong way....explain to him that you wanted to sit down and enjoy a meal and you couldn't, tell him that you wanted to spend more time with your bp and your mom and other adults those who helped plan your shower and those who came to share in your special day and that its hard to do when you have a kid with you at all times.

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Posted by ant n tilde

BTW i was going back and forth on the day of the wedding prep.

and everyone was saying to have ALL the girls at my house in the morning to get THOSE pictures out of the way

but thank goodness i didnt tell them anything yet bc i am just going to have my side with me getting ready - i would probably be taking care of kids the morning of the wedding!!!

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DO NOT take care of any kids the day of your wedding, you have worked so hard and have planned for how long now, seriously just enjoy your day. You need someone to really take charge of the situation, if you are the type of person who doesn't like to say things then have another person such as maybe your mother, MOH, or anyone who doesnt mind telling people straight up that listen tilde needs to get ready she cant sit here and take care of kids, this is her day lets let her enjoy it and relax and give her some space.

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Posted by Espo22

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Posted by ant n tilde

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Posted by yelley77

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Posted by ant n tilde

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Posted by yelley77

Oh Tilde!!! I hear you. That is why I don't want kids at the wedding. Kids are attracted to the center of attention... it's like, murphy's law. Maybe you can mention to FMIL that although you love FG, maybe she can help tame her the day of the wedding.

I don't think any less of you. We only get to do these things ONCE and we deserve to have them done the way we want... whether it is with 18 kids around or no kids around. my friend got married last October and she had like 4 nieces under the age of 4. Well, during their first dance one niece was KICKING AND SCREAMING, 'I WANT AUNT KAT, I WANT AUNT KAT.' my friend was so embarassed that in the middle of her FIRST dance, she picked up her niece and had to dance with her hubby and her niece.

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see i could totally see her doing that BUT i want MY nieces and nephews there with me bc THEIR parents would take them outside and take care of them

for me, it wasn't worth it to have my nieces and nephews miss out on it and NOT invite all kids. . . it was a tough decision but one that was very important to me

and i DON'T want to regret it . . . i LOVED having all the kids there at my shower. . . everyone was ADORABLE besides this incident so that is what makes it so hard!

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I understand. And to each their own. You would hope that if you invite children to your special event that their parents will keep them in line. Don't let it go. Say something. Or beg FH to say something. You'll regret it if this happens on your wedding day.

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I have to talk to him - he said that I am disgusting

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maybe explain it to him differently, if you say bc you dont have any pictures by yourself hes gonna take it the wrong way....explain to him that you wanted to sit down and enjoy a meal and you couldn't, tell him that you wanted to spend more time with your bp and your mom and other adults those who helped plan your shower and those who came to share in your special day and that its hard to do when you have a kid with you at all times.

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I agree, Denise. Maybe he thinks it's just about the pictures. Which, even though that has something to do with it, is not the entire reason. you want to enjoy yourself, the food, your guests, etc.

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Posted by yelley77

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maybe explain it to him differently, if you say bc you dont have any pictures by yourself hes gonna take it the wrong way....explain to him that you wanted to sit down and enjoy a meal and you couldn't, tell him that you wanted to spend more time with your bp and your mom and other adults those who helped plan your shower and those who came to share in your special day and that its hard to do when you have a kid with you at all times.

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I agree, Denise. Maybe he thinks it's just about the pictures. Which, even though that has something to do with it, is not the entire reason. you want to enjoy yourself, the food, your guests, etc.

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yeah you're right the pictures thing too is definitely something, i mean for the shower its one thing but imagine for the wedding. I guess guys wouldn't get the pictures part lol

Or, you can make sure to let the photographer know about your concerns and tell him that if you give him the word, he has to tell her that it is an 'adult only picture' and he'll take one of her after. sometimes kids are better at listening to people they don't know. especially if you tell them they are important.

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Posted by ant n tilde
i dont really know who to tell

like this is the same girl that her mother thinks that she is wearing a BRIDAL tiara on my wedding day. . .so with THAT FMIL is on my side and she said she will help me get the point across to FSIL

B U T

with this, its a touchy subject - that is her granddaughter and i do not want to offend anyone.

FH is usually great at talking to his family for me BUT he totally doesnt get this so even though he said he would - i doubt it

my best friend is a teacher tho maybe she can scare her away from me LOL

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day of - tell her to go do stuff for you. Like if you're taking pics or whatnot and she's hanging all over you, tell her you left your magic shoes under one of the tables and she has to go find them for you.

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Posted by ant n tilde

does this picture come up?

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yes!

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Posted by ant n tilde

does this picture come up?

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yep. i see the culprit...