ugh there is something wrong with me

thanks for answering i was feeling so exposed bc i swore i wouldn't post this but then it was bothering me so i had to!

I see where you are coiming from. You are not being a bridezilla, it's your day and you should be able to go through the day without worrying about that. You should convince FH to talk to the parents. How old is ur FG?

Or another suggestion, you could do like the girl from bridezilla did. She told her FG,

'Move girlfriend, your in my shot' jk

You are 100% right, but I am not gonna lie, I am dying to see some pics w/the camera hog flower girl

Oh Tilde!!! I hear you. That is why I don't want kids at the wedding. Kids are attracted to the center of attention... it's like, murphy's law. Maybe you can mention to FMIL that although you love FG, maybe she can help tame her the day of the wedding.

I don't think any less of you. We only get to do these things ONCE and we deserve to have them done the way we want... whether it is with 18 kids around or no kids around. my friend got married last October and she had like 4 nieces under the age of 4. Well, during their first dance one niece was KICKING AND SCREAMING, 'I WANT AUNT KAT, I WANT AUNT KAT.' my friend was so embarassed that in the middle of her FIRST dance, she picked up her niece and had to dance with her hubby and her niece.

there is NOTHING wrong with you. Kids are always the center of attention, how often do WE get to be? Just this one occasion, and you should have it all to yourself. I have a really low tolerance for kids and only my nieces and nephews are invited to the wedding (they are the BP). It's always the little girls that are the worst in my opinion but my sisters know to control their kids - they can tell by the look on my face when they start throwing tantrums. generally they are well behaved so i'm not worried.

but you are so much nicer than me. I would have probably picked her up and walked her over to her mom and sat her down and said could you keep an eye on your daughter!! but i'm a biotch

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Posted by yelley77

Oh Tilde!!! I hear you. That is why I don't want kids at the wedding. Kids are attracted to the center of attention... it's like, murphy's law. Maybe you can mention to FMIL that although you love FG, maybe she can help tame her the day of the wedding.

I don't think any less of you. We only get to do these things ONCE and we deserve to have them done the way we want... whether it is with 18 kids around or no kids around. my friend got married last October and she had like 4 nieces under the age of 4. Well, during their first dance one niece was KICKING AND SCREAMING, 'I WANT AUNT KAT, I WANT AUNT KAT.' my friend was so embarassed that in the middle of her FIRST dance, she picked up her niece and had to dance with her hubby and her niece.

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see i could totally see her doing that BUT i want MY nieces and nephews there with me bc THEIR parents would take them outside and take care of them

for me, it wasn't worth it to have my nieces and nephews miss out on it and NOT invite all kids. . . it was a tough decision but one that was very important to me

and i DON'T want to regret it . . . i LOVED having all the kids there at my shower. . . everyone was ADORABLE besides this incident so that is what makes it so hard!

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I understand. And to each their own. You would hope that if you invite children to your special event that their parents will keep them in line. Don't let it go. Say something. Or beg FH to say something. You'll regret it if this happens on your wedding day.

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Posted by snwb08

there is NOTHING wrong with you. Kids are always the center of attention, how often do WE get to be? Just this one occasion, and you should have it all to yourself. I have a really low tolerance for kids and only my nieces and nephews are invited to the wedding (they are the BP). It's always the little girls that are the worst in my opinion but my sisters know to control their kids - they can tell by the look on my face when they start throwing tantrums. generally they are well behaved so i'm not worried.

but you are so much nicer than me. I would have probably picked her up and walked her over to her mom and sat her down and said could you keep an eye on your daughter!! but i'm a biotch

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ACTUALLY i left out the best part. Her mother was not feeling well bc the niece had a STOMACH VIRUS and was in the bathroom like THREE TIMES at the shower and the mother felt like she was getting it so SHE LEFT and she said 'oh i tried to get her to leave but she wont come with me so i am leaving her here'

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ugh. that's when i can't deal with or understand people. it's kind of like the 'no one else is as interested in your wedding as you are' idea. No one else wants to deal with your kid either!!

not going to lie Tilde - normally I would say, 'W T F? Seriously? You're a mean girl.'

BUT, I was looking at my girlfriend's wedding pics and she had only one shot of her, hubby and the whole bridal party (photog sukked-that's another story). And her hubby's niece (not in the bridal party) jumped in the picture and Kris couldn't tell her to go away b/c SIL was right there. It totally ruined her picture.

Your totally right Tilde. Someone needs to control her. Like you said, she's not your kid.

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Posted by snwb08

there is NOTHING wrong with you. Kids are always the center of attention, how often do WE get to be? Just this one occasion, and you should have it all to yourself. I have a really low tolerance for kids and only my nieces and nephews are invited to the wedding (they are the BP). It's always the little girls that are the worst in my opinion but my sisters know to control their kids - they can tell by the look on my face when they start throwing tantrums. generally they are well behaved so i'm not worried.

but you are so much nicer than me. I would have probably picked her up and walked her over to her mom and sat her down and said could you keep an eye on your daughter!! but i'm a biotch

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ACTUALLY i left out the best part. Her mother was not feeling well bc the niece had a STOMACH VIRUS and was in the bathroom like THREE TIMES at the shower and the mother felt like she was getting it so SHE LEFT and she said 'oh i tried to get her to leave but she wont come with me so i am leaving her here'

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my mother always yelled at me when i was little to leave the adults alone.

thats not right that you are the one cutting up her food and being asked to take her to the bathroom, its your party and you should enjoy it and not taking care of someone elses kid, its not right at all. Im sure the mother really enjoyed having the day off at YOUR party

And i understand what you're saying, i love kids too but what bothers me is that a parent would basically give the kid to someone else to take care of during the party and on top of that the person whose party it is...the little girl is just a kid and probably likes you alot which is really sweet, and i love playing with kids and all but the last thing you need to do at your own parties is babysit, you need to make sure this is taken care of at the wedding

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Posted by yelley77

Oh Tilde!!! I hear you. That is why I don't want kids at the wedding. Kids are attracted to the center of attention... it's like, murphy's law. Maybe you can mention to FMIL that although you love FG, maybe she can help tame her the day of the wedding.

I don't think any less of you. We only get to do these things ONCE and we deserve to have them done the way we want... whether it is with 18 kids around or no kids around. my friend got married last October and she had like 4 nieces under the age of 4. Well, during their first dance one niece was KICKING AND SCREAMING, 'I WANT AUNT KAT, I WANT AUNT KAT.' my friend was so embarassed that in the middle of her FIRST dance, she picked up her niece and had to dance with her hubby and her niece.

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see i could totally see her doing that BUT i want MY nieces and nephews there with me bc THEIR parents would take them outside and take care of them

for me, it wasn't worth it to have my nieces and nephews miss out on it and NOT invite all kids. . . it was a tough decision but one that was very important to me

and i DON'T want to regret it . . . i LOVED having all the kids there at my shower. . . everyone was ADORABLE besides this incident so that is what makes it so hard!

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I understand. And to each their own. You would hope that if you invite children to your special event that their parents will keep them in line. Don't let it go. Say something. Or beg FH to say something. You'll regret it if this happens on your wedding day.

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I have to talk to him - he said that I am disgusting

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No! you're not! guys just don't get it. btw, we can totally crop her out of those pics!