ummmmm..email from moh...VENT*update

runnerbride1023 Posted: Mar 11, 2010 10:22 AM

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Posted by latinaj

i dont understand why i cant just tell this woman that i really want the spotlight for one flipping day

GRRRRRRR

trust me girls i know i should have more balls and cojones (the spanish is coming out..i'm pissed) and tell her to f off

but at the same time this is my BFFL, my homeslice, one of the girls that knows EVERYTHING Abt me, maybe the only girl actually

ugh

Reply to her email and say that you wouldn't want her to be forced to share the spotlight on her 30th bday (since it only happens once ) and you insist celebrating a different weekend.

lbkate Posted: Mar 11, 2010 10:23 AM

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I would just sit and have a talk with her. Even try to say like...
'hey...thanks for trying to cut cost, but I would really rather it be just me and my girls'...Don't let her know you are angry with her REDICULOUS request, just make it like...thanks for the offer, but no thanks

BLBride Posted: Mar 11, 2010 10:24 AM

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I agree - this would really bother me. Knowing me I would have a hard time keeping my mouth shut but I agrew with the others that its the right way to go. Another thing worth mentioning to her if you don't speak about is that for your b-party you were really hoping just to have people you are really close with there, since its a one time thing (i.e. she should not invite her college friends)

cateydee Posted: Mar 11, 2010 10:27 AM

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i wouldnt ignore it cuz that is just too ballsy for her to assume that. if they are complaining about the cost of the bach party, its your MOHs job to be creative in thinking up something that they can celebrate YOU and maybe that's not so expensive. that 30th bday combo will not fly!!!

grkbarbie Posted: Mar 11, 2010 10:31 AM

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telll her to go fk herself and that your INTERNET FRIENDS who care about your wedding more than SHE DOES will all go out for your bach party

Soon2bShea Posted: Mar 11, 2010 10:39 AM

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omggggggg i would definitely write her back and say that you only wanted it to be the bridal party and not a huge thing...make up something like that lol

wowwww

Lucky2010 Posted: Mar 11, 2010 10:41 AM

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Definitely big no no! No combined celebrations!! One of my BMs asked if she could bring her friend to my wedding as her guest because it's the girls birthday. Uhhh excuse me, no!

And I find that offensive. Is she trying to say no one will come if it's just your bach party??

BriansWifey Posted: Mar 11, 2010 10:43 AM

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ummmm thats kinda messed up. its YOUR bach party not HER 30th BDAY party..........
i would tell her to celebrate her bday and then let know what the bach party plans are, or maybe u should start planning ur party instead.... just a thought.

latinaj Posted: Mar 11, 2010 10:46 AM

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i'm sad now

Becca2010 Posted: Mar 11, 2010 10:49 AM

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That's absolutely insane! The only feasible way to combine a bachelorette party and a birthday is if it's YOUR BIRTHDAY!!! not someone elses!!!! ARGGGGG!!

Yes, she only turns 30 once, but she'll also turn 31 once, 32, 33 and so on! YOU will have ONE wedding. One and only ONE! There won't be another one to celebrate next year!!

Ignore the email, but if she asks you about it, tell her you think you have the right to be selfish about this ONE thing. You'd like to spend your bparty with your closest friends and that's IT! Not MOH's college friends.

RGEC47 Posted: Mar 11, 2010 10:49 AM

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Posted by latinaj

i'm sad now

No, no, no!! Don't be sad!!!! If she is as good of a friend as you hope she is, then by just being honest with her should be enough. tell her the truth, that this is your wedding and your B-party and you want the spotlight on you. Then you guys can go out for her 30th and the spotlight will be on her.

20mrsc10 Posted: Mar 11, 2010 12:09 PM

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um your bparty is about you, not her..tell her they can't be the same weekend, end of story

i can't believe she would suggest that!!

marinai7 Posted: Mar 11, 2010 12:42 PM

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Wow, that is pretty selfish of her to combine her 30th with your Bachelorette party. I'm sorry that you are dealing with this.

little j Posted: Mar 11, 2010 01:13 PM

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is she bitter or upset that she is losing her friend getting married? idk. but this doesnt sound right. she should be wanting to CELEBRATE YOUUUUUU...not combine parties and invite her friends

that is just rude

little j Posted: Mar 11, 2010 01:15 PM

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Posted by Becca2010

That's absolutely insane! The only feasible way to combine a bachelorette party and a birthday is if it's YOUR BIRTHDAY!!! not someone elses!!!! ARGGGGG!!

Yes, she only turns 30 once, but she'll also turn 31 once, 32, 33 and so on! YOU will have ONE wedding. One and only ONE! There won't be another one to celebrate next year!!

Ignore the email, but if she asks you about it, tell her you think you have the right to be selfish about this ONE thing. You'd like to spend your bparty with your closest friends and that's IT! Not MOH's college friends.

agreed! and if she has $ to go away for her bday, she has a few $ to celebrate with you/

plus you dont need to do anything crazy expensive...she can find something more affordable for the girls. but that is her job. w t hhhh

Soon2bMrsH Posted: Mar 11, 2010 01:24 PM

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why would she think this is appropriate??

i would try to find some way to tell her you dont want that. if you ignore it, she may end up going through with the plans, and thats not fair to you at all.

i really wonder where people get the nerve to do stupid things. like why would she think that you would want to spend your bach party with her college friends? it makes no sense? and if your friends are complaining about money, then they might not even go, and then it will be you and your moh and her friends celebrating her 30th bday, and not your bach party.

stinenandy2010 Posted: Mar 11, 2010 01:29 PM

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I would just tell her that you would prefer to have your own bparty with your own bridal party and friends. You don't need to do anything crazy moneywise, you could just take a train into the city and bar hop. As long as your with your friends you will have a great time!

latinaj Posted: Mar 11, 2010 02:09 PM

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*update*

fh thinks i'm being dramatic and that i should just go w/the flow bc at least now we're going to do something instead of nothing

i'm giong to talk to my other bms see what their thoughts are

of course he doesnt understand ...

he's got 19 guys going to vegas....by the way did i mention that they are 100% paying his costs???

he clearly has better friends than me...pffft