upset by people I wouldn't expect... (vent)

Original post by lisam1113

Jan 25, 2011 09:29 PM

So since the day FH & I picked out wedding day FMIL has given crap 'oh you picked a monday noone will go, they'll have better plans, its a bad weekend' I just spoke with my cousin before & she was telling me my aunt was saying 'what if people have work' ... People work on Fridays, Saturdays & Sundays as well as every other day during the week.. I don't understand why it's such a problem.. We wanted to be different & also save a little money. & it's just like having a Sunday wedding.. just it's on a holiday (most) people have off

Is it really that terrible to be having the wedding on Labor Day?

lisam1113 Posted: Jan 25, 2011 10:49 PM

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Posted by abcpa2b

I'm so sorry you have to go through that. Planning a wedding is stressful enough that you don't need the extra worries. Is it possible for you could politely ask FMIL not to pass along any negative comments that people are saying? Your day is going to be beautiful

not that easy lol .. we have a10month old son where she's thrown comments at me how to raise him when I have plenty of experience with children after working in daycares babysitting & having younger cousins neices & a nephew & at first I used to bite my tongue.. but I speak my mind now.. eventually I'll just tell her some of these above comments ..

FH was shocked when I told him the other day she said Our wedding is 'on a bad weekend' wth says that about their own sons wedding?!??!

edited for spelling & Thank you I hope its beautiful

TheEyesOfMarch Posted: Jan 25, 2011 11:19 PM

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Posted by lisam1113

We even asked the RH if we were crazy for thinking that day & he said not at all & that if we don't pick that day someone else will.. he said for weekends like that weddings go from thursday till monday. I am so beyond excited about the wedding & things like this just upset me so much!! I know if they love us & wanna have a good time they'll come.. I try to bite my tongue but one day I don't think I'll be able to

I agree with this. Our friends got married this past year on the same weekend, it was a sunday 8pm wedding. Don't worry

krissy977 Posted: Jan 25, 2011 11:24 PM

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Not at all!!! My FH and I were planning for December but sooo many people complained & said it's too close to xmas & if weather was too cold & snowed, no one would come. Then we talked about November & people said not around Thanksgiving. Every month was a different story so now we planned without anyones opinion, Sat of Labor Day wknd & people are still stating we may receive a lot of 'no's' since it is a Holiday wknd & many families go away.

You're NEVER going to please everyone. Remember, it's YOUR day!! Do what makes you happy & if it saves some $$ along the way, then thats an even bigger plus!

Have fun & don't let others put a damper on this joyful time

rendel Posted: Jan 25, 2011 11:35 PM

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Someone will always have something to say, unfortunately I have learned this the hard way also!!!!!!!!!! People are down right rude and should keep their nasty comments to themselves!!!!!

anjelagain Posted: Jan 26, 2011 07:03 AM

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its become my new logo! My F is like, stop!! We booked a NYE wedding, so u can imagine the annoying complaints, we moved it to october and theyre still complaining. I barely even listen anymore lol!

wiggleit28 Posted: Jan 26, 2011 08:58 AM

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Posted by NellieBellie32

to me thats the same thing as getting married on a sunday.....its a great date

I agree! I'm getting married on a Sunday and we've heard a few grumbles from family members who have to work the next day but ya know what....people who want to come, will and those who want to be party poopers can be! Who wants a party pooper at the wedding anyway?

klosack Posted: Jan 26, 2011 09:21 AM

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Don't let anyone get you upset!

It's a holiday, so it makes sense to me. Enjoy planning and don't listen to negative ppl~

Good luck =)

flibbertigibbet Posted: Jan 26, 2011 10:16 AM

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It's always something.

It's your day. Do what you want.

And remember... no pay, no say!

Moonmist09 Posted: Jan 26, 2011 11:04 AM

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don't stress it, its like getting married on a sunday since its a holiday weekend. its not bad and your not weird for choosing that date!

Beachbum14 Posted: Jan 26, 2011 11:34 AM

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Don't worry about it. Unfortunatley, I've been finding weddings bring out the worst in some people. Probably bc they are jealous or have their own insecurities and can't be happy for other people. I am getting married on a Monday, its the fourth of july. No one has really complained ... but the ones who have given me a look or comment usually are people who are not even invited and assumed they were or who I do not care about. It was very easy for me to see that these people were just jealous!

lisam1113 Posted: Jan 26, 2011 11:44 AM

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Posted by Beachbum14

Don't worry about it. Unfortunatley, I've been finding weddings bring out the worst in some people. Probably bc they are jealous or have their own insecurities and can't be happy for other people. I am getting married on a Monday, its the fourth of july. No one has really complained ... but the ones who have given me a look or comment usually are people who are not even invited and assumed they were or who I do not care about. It was very easy for me to see that these people were just jealous!

I definately agree with you on this.. I had a friend (that I now choose to not invite after many issues with her) that said to me 'wow must be cheap since its on a monday' not exactly it's pretty much like a friday or sunday wedding.. if it were just any monday & not a holiday then that would be a different story lol

But somethings that come out of peoples mouths, I am so beyond shocked that they would have the balls to say! Events like this sure do bring out some evilness in people, when it should be the total opposite!

Thank you again ladies for all you opinions. What would do with out these?!? I know I'd probably be driving myself crazy thinking its terrible.

Now they all just need to get over themselves!! lol

lisam1113 Posted: Jan 26, 2011 11:45 AM

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BTW I wish this website were like FB so I could 'like' all your comments!!!

halfbaked Posted: Jan 26, 2011 11:46 AM

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Honestly, I'm not gonna sugar coat it. It's not the ideal. A lot of people take vacations/have parties on Labor Day, so I'd send out STDs ASAP if I were you.

But the people who love you will make the effort to be there.

ETA: ITA with the previous poster who said weddings bring out the worst in people. So sad!

barbtony Posted: Jan 26, 2011 11:52 AM

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Posted by jilliibabii

ETA: ITA with the previous poster who said weddings bring out the worst in people. So sad!

This is sooooooo true. There is always going to be someone complaining about something and it usually comes from the ones you don't expect.

lisam1113 Posted: Jan 26, 2011 11:52 AM

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Posted by jilliibabii

Honestly, I'm not gonna sugar coat it. It's not the ideal. A lot of people take vacations/have parties on Labor Day, so I'd send out STDs ASAP if I were you.

But the people who love you will make the effort to be there.

ETA: ITA with the previous poster who said weddings bring out the worst in people. So sad!

Thanks. I already sent out our STD's right after Christmas. When people usually put there new calendars up & so it wouldn't get lost with christmas cards. Plus my STDS were magnets with the calendar on them so people would know & be able to stick it on their fridge.

ETA: I'm never going to please everyones needs someone will ALWAYS complain no matter who it is or what it's about longs FH & I are the ones that are happy & WE'RE the ONLY ones paying for it with no help trying to raise our son!! My parents always told me 'if you have nothing nice to say then you shouldn't say anything at all!' phew I feel better now!

Pinkchick913 Posted: Jan 26, 2011 12:07 PM

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Don't listen to anyone. I need to take my own advice but seriously all we are asking is ONE day out of the year and people can't even give us that.

I'm booked on a Friday night but my Mom is all feed your guest, a lot of them are going to be coming straight from work and so on and so on.

There's nothing wrong witha Labor Day wedding, ESPECIALLY if it's saving you guys money.

At the end of the day it's you and FH not your FMIL. :)

jovigirl414 Posted: Jan 26, 2011 09:43 PM

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Posted by FutureMrsDe

No its fine, tell her if it bothers her you can do it on a saturday and she can pay for the differnece in price!

TOTALLY AGREE! I hate when people put their two cents in without contributing a penny!

smilie Posted: Jan 26, 2011 11:48 PM

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people will always find something to b%&ch about... we are getting married the day before Easter and if one more person asks me if I know that I may go postal..... I really didn't think it was a huge deal but some people have made comments.... Don't let anyone rain on your parade- those who love you will be there, no matter what!!

HurricaneGirl Posted: Jan 27, 2011 12:36 AM

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One of the best weddings I've been to was on Labor Day!

lisam1113 Posted: Jan 27, 2011 07:48 AM

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Posted by smilie

people will always find something to b%&ch about... we are getting married the day before Easter and if one more person asks me if I know that I may go postal..... I really didn't think it was a huge deal but some people have made comments.... Don't let anyone rain on your parade- those who love you will be there, no matter what!!

I don't see that being a big deal! Everyone who gets an invite should honestly feel honored to even be invited!! I mean I can't check off FMIL but when I told my FH he was shocked & told me then she doesn't have to come IDC. Just for her saying it though I hope all or pretty much most show up to prove her wrong