urgent poll: need your advice

ok, bar exam is over and now I can get caught up on here..... ok, here is the situation..... need your help
craig, my FI has picked out a one button jacket for his groomsmen and our dads.... it is black w/ silver
my dad, when he went for his fitting, him and my mother said he looked pregnant .... and not good in this jacket... the guy in the tux store said my dad looked fine, my dad feels he looks better in a three button black jacket , same colors, craig is upset b/c he wants everyone uniform and he feels this is the only say he has in the wedding.......and he feels my mom is being controlling, thing is this...... well, I would like to know if anyone out there's father of the bride or father of the groom is wearing the same color and different jacket??? should I respect his wishes and have everyone the same....... when my father likes the other one better and b/c one of his friends son got married and the girls father wore a different tux then the ushers, so I would like to know what you guys think of this and what you are doing and what should I do?????

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Personally, I do not think that the Fathers need to wear the same exact tux as the Groom or Groomsmen. I plan on allowing my Father and FIL to wear whichever tux they feel most comfortable in. Just my opinion...but, I think sometimes the newer tuxes can look 'too young' for older gentleman. I prefer a more traditional look for the Fathers.

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possibly both the fathers could get the three buttons, and then it would still be coordinated? It won't make a bit of difference really. There are not many pictures with both FH and your dad in them, most are you and him, and he and his groomsmen. He should not sweat the small stuff!! Good luck, and hope you passed the bar!

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My father is wearing a totally different tuxedo. FH and groomsman are wearing ties and vests and my dad is wearing the classic bow tie tuxedo. My opinion is that your father should wear whatever he wants, especially if he doesnt like the way he looks in the one your FH picked out. My dad went with my mom to pick his out. It is the groomsman that should match. It is your dad and he should feel comfortable. He is the father of the bride and not a groomsman. Good luck!!!

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I have been told fathers typically do not wear the same tux as everyone esle... especially since they can be a little...ummm.. portly. They DO wear the same vest that the ushers are wearing in an appropriate color... either matching or black doesn't matter. This is waht we are doing. THey do not even have to wear the same tie as dads usually like the bow tie look. The two fathers though should be alike.

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My brother got married in May and all the ushers and fathers wore the same tux excecpt for my Step-father. He hated the way the vest looked on him and he felt very uncomfortable wearing it, so he didn't. He instead got a comberbun (sp?). I know my brother didn't really care, it mattered to him more that he felt comfortable with how he looked all day. I know for my wedding this will be the same situation and I just want my step-father to have a great time and be comfortable...so if he wants to wear something different me and my FH wont care. Good luck!

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funny, do both fathers have to be identical b /c technically they will only be in one pic together and are similar
his mom.... had me call a tux place, so I called a town and country and the guy laughed and said 95% of weddings, the dads are different... he said'the dads, well.... they want to look like dads'
so, I put craig on the phone w/ him!!! So he would believe me

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I think the fathers should not match your GMs. They are not GMs. My GMs and Dad are wearing the same style tux but different vests/ties. I think that your Dad should feel good about himself the day you get married. As long as your father is dresses with the same formality (is that a word) I think he should get the 3-button. Now if your FH was wearing the 3-button (mine is) and he wanted to be the only one that would be different. But with the situation you described I think your Dad should be allowed to wear what makes him comfortable so he doesn't feel bad that day.

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our fathers did not match the groomsmen and they did not want to.

Our groomsmen were 30+ years younger than than the fathers. Why should they match? They're not in pictures together.

My dad wore a two button tuxedo (tha he bought for the occasion) and his dad wore a one button tux that he already owned. They both wore different vests.

We let the groomsmen wear whatever tux then owned or rent a 4 button.

-seeing as how the girls had their choice of dresses (and all wore diferent ones) it was only fair to the guys.

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My father wore the same vest and tie, but that was it. He wore a jacket with tails and he even wore different pants...grey with black stripes...

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My father wore his own tux. A classic 3 button with no vest. He coordinated his accessories with my Mother's dress. As long as your Dad dosent choose something that will really stand out from the rest of the BP I wouldn't worry.

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Our fathers are wearing different tuxes from the Groomsman also. But the fathers are matching each other. Is that a possibility?