vent: i love being told waiting 1.5 years to get married is abnormal

TheFutureMrsM Posted: Dec 04, 2007 05:08 PM

vent: i love being told waiting 1.5 years to get married is abnormal

someone at the office just said this to me.
That is is not normal to wait a year and a half.

Also someone said it wasnt normal to book the hall a few months before i had my ring.

A ring is a symbol but not neccessary for an engagement.

and this is from someone who got engaged and married within 6 months

maybe not everyone has the money ready in 6 months
maybe i wanted to plan, and make sure everything is going to perfect

why do people get me so outraged

PauliesGirl Posted: Dec 04, 2007 05:09 PM

Re: vent: i love being told waiting 1.5 years to get married is abnormal

People need to mind their own business...Every person and situation is different...sorry that you had a stressful day!

AS Posted: Dec 04, 2007 05:10 PM

Re: vent: i love being told waiting 1.5 years to get married is abnormal

You could wait alll you want, dont listen to others. My engagement will be almost 2 years till my marriage. I will not rush anything. If my FH told me to marry him 6 months into dating , I would say HELLLL NO, lol.

bella1028 Posted: Dec 04, 2007 05:12 PM

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people are unbelievable....if i have learned anything while planning my wedding and being involved with other weddings whether they were/are relatives or friends, everyone has a different view of what is ideal for them...we all like different things and want different things...i just chalk comments like the one you received up to ignorance...sorry you had to hear it

mrsblesie2b Posted: Dec 04, 2007 05:12 PM

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my engagement will end up being 2.5 years long....its personal preferance and when you are ready

catsgirl Posted: Dec 04, 2007 05:14 PM

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she needs to worry about her own situation and not yours. i knew a girl who was engaged 6 yrs before they got married, due to college debts, on both there behalfs. and had a beautiful wedding that they dreamed of, because they waited, for there time to be right for them, tell her to stick her nose in her own a$$, and remove it from yours.

Mrs.D08 Posted: Dec 04, 2007 05:14 PM

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I've been with FH for 7 years and we have been engaged for 2 years now. I still don't officially have an engagement ring. It's just a symbol it really means nothing. People fail to understand that all couples are different and what works for one might not for the other.

TheFutureMrsM Posted: Dec 04, 2007 05:15 PM

Re: vent: i love being told waiting 1.5 years to get married is abnormal

i know, we wanted a specific date. so we wanted to book early and have our first choice

I know that they had to take what they could get from the RH because they were very very booked.

I duno i just wanted first choice with all my vendors and have tons of time to plan, and time flies, im already almost at my 6 month mark.

i also got to have an engagement party because i had so much time inbetween. They didnt have one.

Butterfly123 Posted: Dec 04, 2007 05:15 PM

Re: vent: i love being told waiting 1.5 years to get married is abnormal

Wow if thats abnormal, then what am I?!

We were engaged August of '04.

DeeluvsVinny Posted: Dec 04, 2007 05:16 PM

Re: vent: i love being told waiting 1.5 years to get married is abnormal

People are dumb.

We all have our own preferences and monetary situations and ideas.

I took a lot of flack because we got engaged after 2 months and will be engaged a year before getting married..people acutally say

'YOU ARE CRAZY!' umm thanks, but I didn't ask for your opinion.

No one but you can make your decisions...don't listen to them, they're fools.

angl2001 Posted: Dec 04, 2007 05:16 PM

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um...wow i must be really abnormal........this christmas we will be engaged 3 years lol 3 1/2 year engagment when the wedding comes.....

MJDoc12 Posted: Dec 04, 2007 05:23 PM

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ppl should just keep their MOUTHS SHUT!

ignore what other ppl say---i waited TWO YEARS to get married--and DH and i had our hall booked about 2 months before our official engagement.

ppl today don't understand how much it costs for a wedding and not everyone can just say 'oooo i wanna get married---lets have it done in 3 months!'

failurebydsign Posted: Dec 04, 2007 05:51 PM

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i did the same things..i booked everything 5 months before i had the ring..buying me that piece of metal was not important at the time..the important thing was that we wanted to get married..we decided to and planned it

$crew off people..1.5 years is plenty of time..

jgl Posted: Dec 04, 2007 05:54 PM

Re: vent: i love being told waiting 1.5 years to get married is abnormal

thats crazy!!

Personally for me i wouldnt make any plans until i had my ring (it could have been a chip - but i wanted something official) ! if he wanted to get married then i needed a ring, i couldnt imagine making wedding plans without that actual commitment. But thats my opinion and i would never tell anyone they were nuts for planning before a ring.

LauraD419 Posted: Dec 04, 2007 05:55 PM

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People are so rude. They should mind their own business.

TheFutureMrsM Posted: Dec 04, 2007 05:56 PM

Re: vent: i love being told waiting 1.5 years to get married is abnormal

Posted by jgl

thats crazy!!

Personally for me i wouldnt make any plans until i had my ring (it could have been a chip - but i wanted something official) ! if he wanted to get married then i needed a ring, i couldnt imagine making wedding plans without that actual commitment. But thats my opinion and i would never tell anyone they were nuts for planning before a ring.

I understand where you are coming from, but i had gone to the store and picked out my setting stone, etc.
He was just waiting for the right time.
He went to look at all the RH places, and we brought our families to see it before we booked.
We brought the check together to book the hall.

the ring doesnt really mean anything, but he wanted to surprise me, and that he did

jgl Posted: Dec 04, 2007 05:58 PM

Re: vent: i love being told waiting 1.5 years to get married is abnormal

Posted by TheFutureMrsM

Posted by jgl

thats crazy!!

Personally for me i wouldnt make any plans until i had my ring (it could have been a chip - but i wanted something official) ! if he wanted to get married then i needed a ring, i couldnt imagine making wedding plans without that actual commitment. But thats my opinion and i would never tell anyone they were nuts for planning before a ring.

I understand where you are coming from, but i had gone to the store and picked out my setting stone, etc.
He was just waiting for the right time.
He went to look at all the RH places, and we brought our families to see it before we booked.
We brought the check together to book the hall.

the ring doesnt really mean anything, but he wanted to surprise me, and that he did

thats absolutely fine.Everyone has differnt situations! for me i just couldnt and his parents and mine wouldnt have accepted that.

christiegl Posted: Dec 04, 2007 05:59 PM

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these people need to mind their own business!

JoesFutureWife Posted: Dec 04, 2007 06:53 PM

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dont listen to what others say...some people have nothing better to do than to spread their negativity. We're having a 19 month engagement and guess what, it's down to 6 months already. We were able to save up, enjoy our time and attention as an engaged couple without getting stressed out!!