vent: i love being told waiting 1.5 years to get married is abnormal

Original post by TheFutureMrsM

Dec 04, 2007 05:08 PM

someone at the office just said this to me.
That is is not normal to wait a year and a half.

Also someone said it wasnt normal to book the hall a few months before i had my ring.

A ring is a symbol but not neccessary for an engagement.

and this is from someone who got engaged and married within 6 months

maybe not everyone has the money ready in 6 months
maybe i wanted to plan, and make sure everything is going to perfect

why do people get me so outraged

beachbum05 Posted: Dec 04, 2007 07:30 PM

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Wow Nicole!

That person should probably watch what they say considering their BOSS is your FH!!!

What an idiot. Don't listen to them.

Just fire them.

MAY24BRIDE Posted: Dec 04, 2007 07:43 PM

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Posted by TheFutureMrsM

i know, we wanted a specific date. so we wanted to book early and have our first choice

I know that they had to take what they could get from the RH because they were very very booked.

I duno i just wanted first choice with all my vendors and have tons of time to plan, and time flies, im already almost at my 6 month mark.

i also got to have an engagement party because i had so much time inbetween. They didnt have one.

Maybe they're just jealous that you're getting to do things they couldn't/didn't think of doing. People a lot of times will try to make you feel bad so they can feel better.

FH and I booked our hall before he even officially proposed, lol.

MeaganAndJoeC Posted: Dec 04, 2007 07:46 PM

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Posted by bella1028

people are unbelievable....if i have learned anything while planning my wedding and being involved with other weddings whether they were/are relatives or friends, everyone has a different view of what is ideal for them...we all like different things and want different things...i just chalk comments like the one you received up to ignorance...sorry you had to hear it

I agree ... Seriously people need to SHUT UP

LeeLee111 Posted: Dec 04, 2007 07:49 PM

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People need to shutty!!! (Sorry watching King of Queens). A year and a half is completely fine.

TheFutureMrsM Posted: Dec 04, 2007 08:01 PM

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Posted by beachbum05

Wow Nicole!

That person should probably watch what they say considering their BOSS is your FH!!!

What an idiot. Don't listen to them.

Just fire them.

you know bonnie, people here dont care im lee's fiancee, its hysterical my best friend says the same thing you say.

Yesterday one of the guys was soo mean to me, he was in a bad mood.

beachbum05 Posted: Dec 04, 2007 08:10 PM

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Posted by TheFutureMrsM

you know bonnie, people here dont care im lee's fiancee, its hysterical my best friend says the same thing you say.

Yesterday one of the guys was soo mean to me, he was in a bad mood.

Stand up for yourself! Tell them to go to hell. That's what I'd say.

mfiorent Posted: Dec 04, 2007 08:24 PM

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my engagement will be exactly a year and a half lol... and i know lots of people who will be enagged for over 2 years. i would love to ask her where she got the definition of 'what is normal' in terms of engagement length ! LOL

drpepper318 Posted: Dec 04, 2007 08:28 PM

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People will always have something to say no matter what..... it's either too much time, not enough time, etc etc. Don't pay any attention!!!!

Munchkn16 Posted: Dec 04, 2007 08:39 PM

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People say all sorts of idiotic things. Try not to let it upset you. There are lots of us that are just as abnormal as you are =) FH and I will be engaged 1 year and seven months when we get married!

spanishitalian Posted: Dec 04, 2007 10:13 PM

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its no ones buisness but yours
we did exactly the same thing we booked our hall before we got engaged and im only waiting 10 months

longislandlibrarian Posted: Dec 04, 2007 10:25 PM

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09er crashing here.. but I am so sorry that you have to hear this.. but I hear things at work that ANNOY ME... but they are kind of similar.. I get...

YOU ARENT GETTING MARRIED FOR 16 MONTHS AND YOU ALREADY PICKED A HALL?

Oh my god you are looking at photographers already>? What's wrong with you?

It's like MIND YOUR OWN BUSINESS!

Try not to let it bother you... as much as that's easier said than done.. I know

the future mrs m Posted: Dec 05, 2007 07:21 AM

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please! fh and i officially started dating last dec. at christmas time he told me at tavern on the green he was marrying me. on july 1st he proposed. our wedding is on april 5th 2008!

ppl were shocked but not negative at all.
they need to mind their business.

jonsgirl04 Posted: Dec 05, 2007 07:40 AM

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Yeah same thing happended to me. My engagement is for 2.5 years, and everyone was like thats so long, why so far away?? I just told them we wanted to enjoy our engagement! ANd Wanted to save money. I actually had someone say a year is plenty of time, anything longer is ridiculous! I felt like saying DO you want to pay for my Damn wedding? SOme people are just rude!

Dougs Girl Posted: Dec 05, 2007 09:21 AM

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People are just stupid and say inappropriate things that make no sense. Pay no attention!!!

futuremrsfab Posted: Dec 05, 2007 09:28 AM

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ugggh why do people always feel the need to comment- who cares how long you waited to get married- does she honestly think because she got married in 6 months and you waiting 1 1/2 years that her marriage will be any better than yours? i'm with bonnie- tell her to go to hell

Mizzdimple Posted: Dec 05, 2007 09:41 AM

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What is normal anyway!

SparkyandAng Posted: Dec 05, 2007 09:44 AM

Re: vent: i love being told waiting 1.5 years to get married is abnormal

Posted by TheFutureMrsM

someone at the office just said this to me.
That is is not normal to wait a year and a half.

Also someone said it wasnt normal to book the hall a few months before i had my ring.

A ring is a symbol but not neccessary for an engagement.

and this is from someone who got engaged and married within 6 months

maybe not everyone has the money ready in 6 months
maybe i wanted to plan, and make sure everything is going to perfect

why do people get me so outraged

I say she's totally jealous and feels like she missed out on the planning part!

bluegreen08 Posted: Jan 17, 2008 10:25 AM

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We have a 15 month engagement and as of today we have 7 months to go! We didn't get the 'OMG why are you waiting so long' comments, if anything, a few of my law school classmates were surprised we're getting married so 'soon' (ie: this August)

We've been engaged 8 months, and together 5.5 years so it's not THAT soon people...

I also think people don't really understand what it's like to plan a wedding these days, especially a NY wedding. Non-NYers have asked me if I started looking at dresses yet (ordered mine in Sept) or if we picked a place yet, etc or if we started planning period! they dont realize what goes into it... or how much they cost...

As for the planning before you have a ring, we booked our hall ~ 3-4 days before we were officially engaged. It's a really long story but in summary: I knew the ring was coming and that FH had ordered it but it was taking longer to come in than we expected. I had the choice of getting 'engaged' without a ring, or waiting a little longer. I decided to wait a few more days because I knew I'd be fielding Qs about a ring and it was still impt to me to make it 'official.' (although since we knew we were getting engaged and were already planning, we were probably already 'engaged' just not by title) FH talked me into telling my parents we had gone 'ring shopping' so they could start scoping out halls for us since we're OOT and were coming into NY a week later and wanted to check out a few halls then. We were very set on a particular date, and when my parents found an amazing hall that was everything we wanted and a great price we ended up telling them to book. I'm risk averse and didn't want to risk losing our hall. It worked for us, but the rest of you prob think it's crazy

we each have our own circumstances. if we were having a longer engagement we wouldnt have had to worry about things booking up as fast, but if we waited another year it would have been the summer i take the bar exam and i ruled that out

fujamaga Posted: Jan 17, 2008 10:29 AM

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You should definitely NOT listen to other ppl. I might not be the best example, but we've been engaged for 5 years, and when we get married we'll have been together for exactly 10 years. Everyone has their reason for waiting, and for your co-worker who got married so quickly - lets see how long they stay together (not to be mean or anything... )