vent: i love being told waiting 1.5 years to get married is abnormal

as long as you're happy then thats all that matters.
no matter what ppl will always talk... they questioned me and said how can you get engaged after dating a guy for 4 months.
in April its going to be a year that we're together and we'll already be married. Everyone is different and no matter what the scenario, everyone will always have a comment.
WHO cares!!
I know ppl talked behind my back saying, is she getting married bcuz its right or becz she thinks shes getting old.
UMMMM im 24 last time i checked thats not old.
People are cruel.

I deal with this all the time. When we get married we will have been engaged 2 1/2 years and people just have the most obnoxious comments!
I just ignore it and move on. Everyone has there reasons and it's none of there business why we plan the way we do!!!

Wow people are assholes...

i think that the reason people think its a long time is b/c their reasoning is that you get engaged b/c that means you are getting married - so to them a long engagement doesnt really make sense, because if you aren't going to get married anytime soon why would you become engaged in the first place.....at least that is the only reasoning i can come up with.....

i do kind of agree with that because i didn't want to be engaged for say 2 years or more just because i felt like there was no reason to rush to get engaged if the engagement period was going to be dragged out BUT i also didn't want to be engaged for only 6 months because I felt like that would rush the engagment - so i guess its just a personal preference of what you feel comfortable with....

of course weddings, especially NYC weddings can be very expensive, and nowadays more and more couples are paying for their own weddings - so it takes a lot longer to save enough money to pay for the wedding which i think contributes to a lot of long engagements - i think a lot of people don't realize how expensive a wedding is.....

FH and I discussed how long we planned on being engaged for before we actually got engaged - we wanted to make sure we both had the same expectations and I told him I did not want to be engaged for 2 years or more - he agreed and we were both on the same page....im glad that he asked me lots of questions before he proposed.....he waited until he had enough money saved so that we could be able to have a wedding within 2 years. We will be engaged for a total of 1 year and 5 months. For us that was a good amount of time - but I will admit that we are both really anxious for the wedding already!

dont let people get to you - people forget that what is good for them is not good for everyone else...i dont think anything bad about people who are engaged for less time or more time than me.....i am sure there are people who think that my engagement is to long too - but i just dont give a Fcuk

you are happy - dont let fcukers rain on your parade!

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Posted by TheFutureMrsM

someone at the office just said this to me.
That is is not normal to wait a year and a half.

Also someone said it wasnt normal to book the hall a few months before i had my ring.

A ring is a symbol but not neccessary for an engagement.

and this is from someone who got engaged and married within 6 months

maybe not everyone has the money ready in 6 months
maybe i wanted to plan, and make sure everything is going to perfect

why do people get me so outraged

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I feel you pain! Same was told to me when I got engaged in 06 and I mentioned I wanted to get married in 08. I don't get it...why is it wrong for us to enjoy our engagement before starting the wedding planning process? Do they think we're gonna break up before that?lol