Very Lonely

...That is what I am going to be for a while... VERY LONELY!

Vinny is pre-med as most of you already know. He is currently finishing up his LAST class that he needs before applying to Med School, he is taking the MCAT's in April so he will be studying like crazy everyday until then. He is also taking a Kaplan review course AND interning at a Doctor's office! Between all of that and his regular job at the family biz (the Car Wash) we are not going to see each other for the next two years (JK LOL) But seriously- it's going to be hard and I'm not used to this at all

I told him that if the next time we see each other is at the Rehearsal Dinner-- I'm going to be very upset!!

I guess I just need some support-- Today for example- he left the house at 6am (car wash, Dr's office, class) and he won't get home until 9:30pm tonight. Then, when he takes the Kaplan M-Cat test he won't be getting home until 10:30 sometimes!

Anyone else going through this too? Can I have some words of wisdom, hugs or support ladies?? I'm feeling really down- at least we had a great 'last weekend together' this past weekend

Sorry for the Debbie Downer post

Honey, welcome to my world.

My FH leaves at 9:00am and gets home at 11:30pm or even later some nights.

Why do you think I have 6000 posts on here

You just have to keep thinking about the future and how awesome it is going to be when he is done and you have your Dr. McDreamy all to yourself

I know how you feel. I remember those med school days!!!! Don't worry it eventually gets better (well I will let you know once residency is over 2008 for me!!!) But hang in there. Trust me i know - FH is in MIA and I am in Philly - we only get to see eachother once every 4-6weeks

Anthony moved away and i wont move in with with till we buy our condo

Its hard but seeing each other every other weekend makes it so much more exciting. The anticipation builds up and theres a lot of going on those weekends

sweetie I wish I was you right now.. Vinny's up my butt everyday!! LOL.. don't get me wrong I love spending time with him and all.. but I do love my Alone time too!
U have us to chat with so don't worry! And think of what this means for you guys in the long run!!!!

It will all be worth it in the end, when he is a Dr. making big bucks! You have the rest of your life to spend together

Cheer up!

i know how you feel.... a lot of times, we basically don't see one another all day until about 930 or 10pm. so, when we ARE home together we spend about 30 minutes in bed talking before we go to sleep... this way we can catch up on whatever went on for each of us during the day... and sometimes we'll just make ice cream sundaes together basically, just try to enjoy the time you DO spend together... and enjoy his arms around you every night like i do (steve's... not vinnys )

also.. do other little things to fill up your alone time. go for coffee with friends, start some DIY projects, take an adult class (steve and i once took an art class together at our local middle school which was so much fun).

we're all here for you

First off I want to at the Debbie Downer joke lol I love SNL...and secondly, lots of I do know how you feel...my FH moved upstate at the end of Nov. to start a new job. He is about 1 1/2hrs away...and I hardly ever see him anymore. We use to hang out like all the time. we would go to Applebees, go shopping, catch a movie...and now, well the most I get is a hello kiss and thats it. I am not angry or anything, because its a step forward for the both of us. Being that I plan on moving upstate when we get married, its good that he aleady has a job up there...so we can be somewhat settled when I go up. But I do understand how you are feeling. Its hard to let go of someone when you use to spend all your time with him. But remember...you have us to cheer you up..and it will be over by the time you know it.

It will be all worth it in the end. FH was studying for his CPA exam and going to classes so I know how you feel. I tried to keep myself busy those days that we couldn't see each other. But it will all work out.

I think a lot of us can sympathize with you...

I am back in school getting my masters, student teaching full time and working a part-time job. FH works nights and coaches football in the fall and track in the spring. At times it gets really hard for us to fit in time to see each other. He goes into work at 6:45pm and doesn't get off until 7am the following morning - while I have student teaching till 3pm, then work from 4-10 on some nights or school until 7:30pm. We both sat down and discussed that this is how it is going to be for the next couple of months- it's horrible, but it's so we have a better future together. I decided to change my careers and he is working hard at his, so time is limited.

We're all here for you

its not the same as med school, but my dh works for the LIRR, and when we was trying to become an engineer, days were looooooong. plus trying to plan a wedding and save money. it was a 16 month process, with no guarantee that he would make it (but he did!)

so i feel your pain, and all i can say is just hang in there. you and dh will make it.

aww!! hugs!!!:

i am sorry you guys will have such bad schedules!! i know that is going to be very hard! thank God you guys live together- that really helps- even if you are two passing boats in the night- you guys will make it work!
Thank God you have Charlotte!!

awww...

we'll be two old married ladies dishing together while vinny works! i'll keep ya company!

Awwww..that stinks...FH used to travel alot when he had a job..and would be gone for 2-3 weeks a month. I would be sad when he first left, but then i'd use the time to try and focus on projects I wanted to get done around the house or catch up with my friends.

I would also enjoy having the tv remote all to myself...haha. Try and think of activities you enjoy or is there a class or something you'd like to take at night while he's gone. I take Taekwondo 3 times a week at night so i had a great group of friends I'd see that would cheer me up when FH was gone...or go to a gym or something.
Snuggling with our dog also helped!

I completely understand what you're going through as I went through this with FH several years ago and I'm still going through it now!
I remember the Kaplan days of studying and barely seeing him and we didn't live together then...now we live together and its just frustrating!

FH is a 3rd year resident in Emergency Medicine..Our schedules are complete opposite sometimes and it just plain *****!
He'll be coming home from a night shift as I'm going out the door for work. I sleep alone a lot of nights in our big comfy bed without him.
I know he's doing this for our future and hopefully when he becomes an attending, it'll be a lot better. There are times on the weekends that I'm the 3rd to 5th wheel with my friends and their DH or FH/boyfriends.
At least you have the dog
but all joking aside...I know how you feel. You can always come over and hang with me if you want!

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Posted by Soon2BeMrs

sorry to crash the 07 board.....just think hes doing it for YOUR future together...its hard now but it will all be worth it in the end. Do you work or go to school? Its gotta be harder if your home all the time and hes not there ......well were all here for you!

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Thank you.

Yeah I work like crazy too lol so it's not even like we had a lot of time to begin with-- but at least I'll be busy while he is working so hard also.