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thanks butterfly

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I agree. I remember coming here when I first joined, and we NEVER had a problem like this.
It does make me mad, that people come on here to stir trouble...well GROW UP!!!!! If you are real brides, use all the energy that cause trouble with, and apply that to your own wedding plans. Stop hurting others.

To my friends, please dont stop posting, then you have let THEM win

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I am w/ jennbaby on this one- I feel I am helpful and nice and made a lot of good friends on and offline....... I hate to think b/c I participated in one thread -- there are/were so many I dont know which you all even mean by now, that I wouldnt be welcome? for speaking my mind b/c I was hurt....

For now on I am keeping my thoughts to myself.... I will post but limited responses
such as congrats! not what I feel- ANd what happened yesterday, happens ALL THE TIME not just yesterday

Sue, You know I love you but remember when you were attacked in FM and on here and you even made up a post to this person speaking your mind?? I Just wanted to clear the air b/c God only knows how many people were FM by the person who upset me and plus you and alicia must come to lunch and take this PEEP manual, I hate to think I did all that for nothing!! Its 400 pages and took me three days to do for you both

done w/ this topic for me , just wanted to say that

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Suzanne

I really attribute a lot of the problems that are springing up to the FM nonsence. People need to stop bad mouthing people on FM. It always gets back to the person you are bashing. Allegiances shift and change. I personally try not to say things that I would embarrassed or ashamed to own up to. Not saying I am perfect. I have my off days and I am sure that I have vented and said some things that I did not mean. But that does not make it okay for someone to repeat what I tell them in confidence to someone else.

Everyone should consider the source when they hear that so and so said this and that about them. Sometimes these boards look like a game of telephone gone horribly bad!

My contribution to yesterdays witch hunt was to try to inject some humor into the situation. I don't want to judge anyone's situation or their reaction to it, but I do not think that we should seek to hold anyone up to public ridicule for something that none of us can confirm or deny.

But none of us are perfect and tempers are going to spill over. And if so many people feel so strongly that yesterdays post was wrong, they should have jumped in and said something. Nothing will change if people ignore the drama and then post that they are leaving without trying to change the tenor of the boards.

I personally am not going anywhere, because I could never leave the friends that I have made here. And I hope that Suzanne and LeeLee stick around, too

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Becky I hear what you are saying, and its not even so much the post from the other day, it just seems like everyone is out to get everyone. I think liz described it best MOB MENTALITY. and that stinks.

I was not here when the post was open or I would have posted my opinion about it. oh well, guess all is said and done and there really isnt anything that i will be able to change.

thanks becky!

Tammy,
I PROMISE i will eventually get that peep thread!!

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Becky- see I tol you yesterday you were a voice of reason

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on a side note, suzanne
I am really glad you are feeling much better

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thanks tammy!!! i cant wait to be fully recovered!! maybe ill even get to see you this weekend!!

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There are the little clicks on here, we should ALL be friends! One BIG click!

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Jen you hit the nail on the head.. i think that we should have no clicks cause i think it makes people feel bad and i dont like it when people feel bad..

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Lisa T is 100% correct but SUE, girls like you and Leelee dont' need to leave.
You don't cause the drama nor should you leave and if you understood what was happening you wouldn't be so quick to defend those.


So if I have a bad week with Ronnie I am allowed to come on here and instiagate others bc I have it bad at home.
You don't bring your home problems to work so why bring them here.
We don't have any CONTROL over what happens in your home life so why should we have to suffer!

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Jenn and Suzanne-
I hear ya on the click thing, and although I agree, we are women and don't you think that is sort of inevitable, no matter how hard we try not to? I'm definitely not in one - and it DEFINITELY hurts my feelings sometimes - but I understand why they are there...I think it's just natural that something like that happens...

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Marni ...

I am sure those will say I am in a click but I don't think I am.
I feel with alot of my comments and actions I usually stand alone!!
Hey you can be part of my 'click' if you want.
LOL!!

Its like HS..
People who are friends sorta ban together! NO? But who cares!

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T-
LOL - thanks!

I think a lot of girls think a lot of girls are in clicks on the board...but that doesn't mean those people consider themselves to be in one (ok - just confused myself there!)...

What I mean is, if there are clicks - it doesn't mean they are intentional, and in most, if not all cases, they aren't formed in a malicious manner. Some people 'get along' with some, and not with others. And you are drawn to the ones you like. I think it's natural. But I think in the process there are those who tend to feel 'invisibile' if not in one...

Did this make sense - ugh, anything I write before 12pm cannot be used against me

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I got it!!!

I wonder who's click that I am associated with!!!!

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Well, I know that no one could name a click that I'm in! I just kinda go with the flow...but there are a few women here that I like that I have met outside of the boards, and there are many that I'd love to meet...

But I have to say, that if people don't like me upon meeting me, oh well...I think I come off bubbly online sometimes, cause I use a lot of exclamation points, but in all reality, I'm actually not a bubbly person at all...nice yes, bubbly no.

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Yes Like Shamee I participated in yesterday's melee, I have been on these boards WAY too long and usually have either ignored or remained neutral on alot of issues. However, when people start mouthing off about somene's home life with no validity it is time to say enough.

We all have issues in life that test us but that does not excuse us or give us permission to treat others poorly

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Marni we need a bubble icon for you!!!

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LOL Tammy, your opinion is probably in the minority, but once again, I thank you

I think we should all try to live by these words of wisdom - DON'T POKE THE BEAR. We can probably avoid a lot of drama that way.

I vote for a clickless society

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Why can't I be the voice of REASON.

Ok stop laughing now!