Wedding is off.

so sorry to hear that.
it is all for the best, you will see.

So sorry to hear this, but in a way happy that it happened before you were married.
At 21, it seems he is not mature enough to handle a committment, and better you find out now then later.
Yes, you need closure, but you can find that by moving one with you life, with your plans and not giving a darn about this immature shmuck who doesn't realize that he has lost one of the best things in his life. Don't worry that he is not communicating with you, it is for the better, lets the healing process begin.

I too had a breakup when I was 21, my fiance at the time never gave me a reason why he didn't want to get married and I still don't know why.
It hurts, it hurts for a while, but then one day you realize that you are your own person and can move on.
It took me another 20 years to find someone to share my life with, but I had a lot of fun and a lot of growing within those 20 years.

Good luck, my dear, and remember that you have friends here that will listen if you need to talk.

crasher from the newlywed board.... i just wanted to offer lots of hugs & wanted you to know u're in my thoughts & prayers because i can't even imagine what you're going through

from someone who's been through horrible breakups, i know it's hard to hear but this IS a blessing..you are an extremely beautiful & intelligent woman who deserves nothing less than a lifetime of happiness - and you will get that. I had the heartache of my life that i never thought i'd get over, and within a year - when i never thought i would - i met my amazing husband. as for the no communication....honestly, that is best. It makes it much easier to move on even if it doesn't seem like that right now... I know in the end of your post you had said you'd forgive him, take him back, etc. But like some of the other posters said, there is probably a lot more to this than just the cheating (and the cheating a lone is enough by itself..) You have to remind yourself that God reveals stuff like this to us for a reason, and that the best is yet to come no matter how hard that might be to think about. If you ever need anyone to talk too, even if it's just to vent, feel free to FM me. I wish you all the best

I'm so sorry you are going through this...I wish you the best. Keep your head up !!!

Im so sorry to hear this!!!! Good luck to you and like everyone says, you are better off without him.


Stay strong!!

i know i responded already, but a girl posted this on the newlywed board earlier... just wanted to share

I'm so sorry to hear this. I know you must be in alot of pain right now, but just know that time heals everything. And after some time, you will realize that its better this happened now and not later. I wish you all the best, and if you need anything, we're here.

I am so sorry! If you need anything or just someone to talk to, feel free to FM me!

I am so sorry that you are going through this.. My thoughts and prayers are with you right now...

I know this is hard but be glad it happened now while you weren't married as opposed to it happening when you have more time invested and the wedding has passed...

Good Luck to you!!!

I'm sorry!!

But, you sound like you have a good head on your shoulders and that you know what you want. You said you're young..it will be okay.

I'm a firm believer in 'everything happens for a reason'. At least you found out now, rather than AFTER the wedding!

Good Luck!

OMG!! I am really sorry to hear that!!!

I am so sorry for all that your going through here are 3 facts for you to focus on
1. you WILL get through this
2. Life will go on and be fabulous
3. you ARE an amazing person and a very amazing man will be very lucky to have you in the future!!! :) :)

Lots of prayers for you that your heart heals as quickly as possible!!!

Im so sorry!
Hang in there...at least you know now...and not after you are married.

OMG
I am so sorry. But, it is better off this happened before you got married. He sounds very immature and you have alot going on for you. You are young. I guess just take it as a learning experience and move on. You are beautiful and you deserve better.

i'm always so sorry to hear about situations like this. i will be praying that you will recover quickly from this set back. like another poster said, focus on today b/c that's all you have. i hope you get through today with enough smiles and laughs.

Best wishes

Oh my god I am so sorry, I feel so bad for you. Another door will open, don't you worry, you are better than all of this. Just give it time, the hurt will go away I promise

I wish you so much luck and love. You sound like a very intelligent and mature woman and even though it feels love will never come to you, believe me, it will. It took many, many years of bad luck and bad relationships for me, and finally, at 40, I've found my one true love.

Good luck to you.