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irisheyes23 Posted:

Wedding Party

How far in advance do you ask people to be in your wedding party?

JAAMS Posted:

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I would think well in advance of when you want to start buying the BM dresses and having the Bridal Shower, so that way they have time to plan and save for everything.

Lsorrent Posted:

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I asked my girls almost immediately after I got engaged, but that's because I'm terrible at keeping exciting secrets.

FH asked his GM's at our e-party back in February.
GR2010 Posted:

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I'm getting married 10/2/10 and I have asked everyone already...

I think at least a year out... That gives them time to come up with $$ for their dresses etc as well as be able to plan for any time off they may have to take...
kris_gets_hitched Posted:

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My parents and sister were there when we got engaged and as soon as my head stopped spinning and my heart stopped racing and FH and I had had a few minutes to ourselves, I went over to my sister and screeched 'YOU HAVE TO BE MY MAID OF HONOR!!!!!!!!!!!' and she started crying.

I asked my best friend to be my BM over the phone on her way to work a few months later. I had been holding it in and holding it in and I just couldn't take it anymore and popped.

We're only having a 4-person wedding party. He asked his brother to be his best man about a month ago and is trying to figure out who to ask as his groomsman. It's between two guy friends of his. If he can't decide, then I'm going to tell him to ask both of them.
Summertimegal424 Posted:

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i would wait till the last moments possible. i wish i waited just a few more months longer than i did, but i guess you have to learn from your mistakes right?

mbscheer Posted:

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I asked most of my girls in September and the rest of the girls in April. We picked out the dresses in May.

jcreilly Posted:

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The second we got engaged well everyone already kinda knew!

megan_gallagher Posted:

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um.. my brother and sisterinlaw were a given, same with one of FH's sisterinlaws and all 3 of his brothers. so I didn't ASK them.. it had been discussed before we were even engaged. The one of my BMs I asked 2 or 3 days after we got engaged... or maybe the day after, we were in NC staying with her and her hubby so I wanted to ask her in person and knew I prob wouldn't see them for a while. I asked my MOH the day after we came back... so 6 days after we were engaged. I never asked the kids to be in the bridal party... it was just automatic and my nephew kept asking if he was in it.. I wanted him to be, but FH was a little hesitant... until I told him that there's more of his family in the PB then mine AND its my ONLY nephew, his 2 are our RBs AND my nephew is his god son... so he finally caved and we just said YES... and then joes other sisterinlaw.. I never asked.. I don't want to or know how to... but this past saturday when we were together I basically worked it in that she's a bridesmaid.
oh and his bestman.. is his brother that's closest in age.. the 4 of them are basically grouped into 2 due to age. and 2 of them were each others BMen.. so I had asked joe to ask his brother for MONTHS and FINALLY AT the engagement party I wanted to take a pic of the 4 of us he finally pulled his brother to the side and asked him... then 2 seconds later... the picture.
Jen2525 Posted:

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i gave my bridal party cards this past valentines day......the card's said 'will you be.....' and then inside was 'my bridesmaid'. I mailed it to them and most of them all said, 'i thought it was a valentines day card at first! hahah

mbscheer Posted:

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Posted by Jen2525

i gave my bridal party cards this past valentines day......the card's said 'will you be.....' and then inside was 'my bridesmaid'. I mailed it to them and most of them all said, 'i thought it was a valentines day card at first! hahah


That is such a great idea!!!
jlt2010 Posted:

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Posted by mbscheer

Posted by Jen2525

i gave my bridal party cards this past valentines day......the card's said 'will you be.....' and then inside was 'my bridesmaid'. I mailed it to them and most of them all said, 'i thought it was a valentines day card at first! hahah


That is such a great idea!!!


that's what i did too.. i made each of them a card along with a cookie shaped like a dress. my FH is a pastry chef so he helped me with them. I took them out for a few drinks and we had tons of fun celebrating!
MarjorieFrank Posted:

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I am asking all of my girls formally over dinner this Saturday.... but they all kind of know they are BM's and have known this since before I was even engaged.

kimmaymb20 Posted:

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i havent yet but I am hoping that my two cousins who I want will be at my aunt and uncles next week so I can kinda get it out of the way. I also would love to ask my aunt and uncle if my baby cousin can be the flower girl then too.

grkbarbie Posted:

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i think they all know..but im still going to give them 'willu by my bridesmaid cards' as son as i get them shipped to my house lol

MikesBride2B Posted:

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We've asked my MOH, 2 BMs and one GM (possible BM...FH hasn't decided for sure haha)


If I wasn't completely sure that these 3 girls would never cause me drama I would have waited to see how things played out a little.
Nina1010 Posted:

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I asked my ladies over a year in advance. I want to give them enough time to consider it all... weddings can add up....all the little things.

SerenityEthereal Posted:

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I asked my best friend (who happens to be a male)to be my MOH pretty much immediately. My two sisters were a given lol. My two friends (Both named Nicole mind you! lol) And I just recently asked one of the Nicoles friend to be my 2nd MOH. I am going back and forth on some other people. I am a MOH in like two weeks at a wedding and its not that I dont want to include her in the wedding party, but FH doesn't have many close male friends ya know? He has his cousin who is his best man, his other cousin, my 2 brothers, and his friend dave (WHO I HATE!!! UGH!!!).

soontobemrsag Posted:

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i did it 4 days after on christmas day!!!!!!!!!

shelbylove918 Posted:

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I am still waiting cause the bridal party is soo huge that i was tryin to cut it down. but honestly dont think i will be able to do that.. still figuring it out. but mostly they all know who they are anyway.. its not a surprise

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