What does everything think about your spouse...

BMD'sPeanut Posted: Jan 11, 2005 02:44 PM

What does everything think about your spouse...

going on a vacation without you?

btrflygrl Posted: Jan 11, 2005 02:46 PM

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I think it's a cool idea, but I'm not sure we could do it. I hate being away from him....SIL goes to NY for 2-3 weeks in the summer to visit her parents and sister.

wc0143 Posted: Jan 11, 2005 02:47 PM

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DH goes on a yearly golf trip with the guys ... is that what you mean?

soon2bMrs Posted: Jan 11, 2005 02:49 PM

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I think a long weekend is fine. JMO but I wouldn't want DH going away for a week or so without me. I believe vacations should be spent together.

Kriss2c Posted: Jan 11, 2005 02:50 PM

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My neighbor was just telling me that she is going away without her husband at the beginning of next month... personally, I think it's a little weird - but I guess it depends on the circumstances.

nov04LIbride Posted: Jan 11, 2005 02:50 PM

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Depends on the situation. I wouldn't want him going on a crazy vacation with the guys, but I have tons more vacation time than him and I want to go to Europe with my mom sometime this year...Also my best friend lives in Chicago and I know he wouldn't want to go stay with her, so I would do that without him...

BMD'sPeanut Posted: Jan 11, 2005 02:53 PM

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This question may be loaded with too many variables and too much circumstantial situations...

t Posted: Jan 11, 2005 02:59 PM

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My hubby doesnt believein seperate vacations even if its for a day. Except this Feb. he is going to Orlando without me and the kids, to a trade show

BMD'sPeanut Posted: Jan 11, 2005 03:00 PM

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Posted by t

My hubby doesnt believein seperate vacations even if its for a day. Except this Feb. he is going to Orlando without me and the kids, to a trade show

well business trips are a whole other ballgame...i'm just talking about a vacation...for fun/pleasure...without you...

tourist Posted: Jan 11, 2005 03:02 PM

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We liek to travel together, so I think I would be jealous! And it is money spent that we can't spend on a trip together.
He did go away for a weekend for a friend's bachelor party ( before we were married or livivng together) & may be doing the same this summer, and that's ok with me.

t Posted: Jan 11, 2005 03:04 PM

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Posted by BMD'sPeanut

Posted by t

My hubby doesnt believein seperate vacations even if its for a day. Except this Feb. he is going to Orlando without me and the kids, to a trade show

well business trips are a whole other ballgame...i'm just talking about a vacation...for fun/pleasure...without you...

It was suppose to be a family vacation and THEN he tells me it is business. I didnt know

DCSAAB06 Posted: Jan 11, 2005 03:05 PM

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Uh, not crazy about the idea but, i do trust him so I would have no reason to put up a fight.

BMD'sPeanut Posted: Jan 11, 2005 03:05 PM

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Posted by t

It was suppose to be a family vacation and THEN he tells me it is business. I didnt know

eeek!

TwoBugs Posted: Jan 11, 2005 03:07 PM

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In general, I'm perfectly fine with it. But like you said, there are a lot of variables. I'd be unhappy if it's long (a week or more) or if it involves other couples.

BMD'sPeanut Posted: Jan 11, 2005 03:07 PM

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Posted by DCSAAB06

Uh, not crazy about the idea but, i do trust him so I would have no reason to put up a fight.

Is it really a question of trust though?

I'm just thinking about the idea of traveling for fun without ones spouse...That's it...I just don't know if it's right..That's what I'm asking you guys...What do you think? I guess it's a very modern idea?

nylibride Posted: Jan 11, 2005 03:08 PM

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My girlfriends and I have a yearly 'get away' together, obviously sans fh. He has a yearly golf trip with the guys. We both really enjoy these vacations.
If trust is an issue, it's a whole 'nother ballgame.

nov04LIbride Posted: Jan 11, 2005 03:14 PM

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Posted by BMD'sPeanut

Posted by DCSAAB06

Uh, not crazy about the idea but, i do trust him so I would have no reason to put up a fight.

Is it really a question of trust though?

I'm just thinking about the idea of traveling for fun without ones spouse...That's it...I just don't know if it's right..That's what I'm asking you guys...What do you think? I guess it's a very modern idea?

A lot of my close friends are single--their vacations are really more meat markets to pick up men. I don't think it would be much fun for me anymore. A weekend getaway to a spa or something with other women who are married or in relationships, not using it to hook up, would be a different story...

FeliciaDA Posted: Jan 11, 2005 03:14 PM

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I'll be honest- I wouldn't be crazy about it. I feel as though we have so little quality time off together, and truly I enjoy vacationing with him so much more than anyone else.. I guess it would just irk me , but NO I would not be jealous. I'd merely be bummed that he's having fun and I'm at work

If it was something I just did NOT want to do (i.e., he loves to go offroading and car related junk) then I'd totally encourage him to go. If it was just a long weekend to party in the islands with the boys, that would be more irksome to me.

my SIL recently went with her friends to Disney and left her DH and 3 little boys behind... And my DH's cousin did the same and she has 4 kids under the age of 8. I'm hardly in that position , so I'm curious what I would do given those circumstances.. I'm sure its great to have time away from the kids once you have them...

Not to mention I'm curious what the MEN on a whole would think about their WOMEN going away without them , esp. after kids.

CherylBooch Posted: Jan 11, 2005 03:17 PM

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A weekend away for fun is OK in our house, but anything past 2 nights is a no-no.

To us it's just wrong that the other person is out there living it up while the other is at home. Both of us just wouldn't feel right doing it. Plus for a vacation, why would we want to spend it apart??

The Original 2nd-time-around Posted: Jan 11, 2005 03:17 PM

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I have mixed fellings on this...

I went away with my best friend about alittle over a year ago, and we had a blast. We went to Myrtle Beach, a HUGE golf town, so there were about 90% men there. I was AMAZED at the number of married men who were hitting on us (and I only know about the ones who had their rings on!) It kinda made me re-think the whole thing.
I totally trust DH, but it still makes you think...