Re: 'What I wish I had known about marriage' By Kristin Armstrong

wow that is wonderful thank u

Re: 'What I wish I had known about marriage' By Kristin Armstrong

Very interesting. I think this is a great article and a must read for anyone about to get married.

I will be that wife moving for my husband and i plan to stay home to raise a family and I will do it for him but also for me and us. I think this was great to read to see what can happen if it's not with the right person or not what you truly want and to be prepared to have to keep yourself in tact and not give in to what you think or what others think you should be...

very interesting!

Re: 'What I wish I had known about marriage' By Kristin Armstrong

I find it interesting that so many people are upset by this article.

Does she sound a little bitter? Sure, I guess. I didn't get bitter from it, but I can see how you would.
But can you blame her?
Can you honestly say that you really think that she intentionally CHOSE to lose her identity? No. She got swept away. She got lost. I find it hard to believe that you all can't relate to the feeling of suddenly waking up one day and finding that something is not exactly how you expected it to be. There have been many points in my life where I have felt that way - we make choices, and we live with the consequences, but that doesn't mean that we realize the full meaning of our choices when we make them.

Is this cynical? No. It's true. It's honest. This is the TRUTH of what happens to many women in their marriages. They become a subsection of their husbands. Back before we women were all about being liberated and all of that, it's what was EXPECTED of women. And no matter how much you love somebody, it's hard to lose your identify as an individual.
I don't think it's cynical, just like I didn't think it was cynical when my grandmother advised me, on first getting engaged, to make sure that I always have some money that is just my own, and to make sure that I always know just as much about our finances as FH does. Is this because she thinks FH is controlling or won't let me have money when I want it? No. It's because she knows how it feels to have to ask your husband for money, and she knows how horrible it can be when your husband dies, as my grandfather did, and you're left to realize that you have spent your whole life letting him control everything - and now you have no idea how to live on your own.

Not cynical. Realistic, and good, solid advice. Does this mean that it WILL happen to you? No. It just means that it could, and you need to be careful that it doesn't.

Re: 'What I wish I had known about marriage' By Kristin Armstrong

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Posted by o17range

When I read this article, I saw it from a totally different perspective--I didn't see that much annimosity, I simply saw it as a 'reality check' to all those girls (and believe me when I say there are many) who set their sights on ONLY marrying someone rich or famous or both. Life as a professional athlete's wife DOES require extensive travel, time periods of separation, and 'outside distractions'. I think she was trying to illustrate that point.

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I agree with you! I didn't see her as bitter at all but someone who has learned a lesson about herself and life.....