WHAT IS CHEATING? Bachelor party question for all! EDITED... Explanation on page 2!

So let's say your fi had a bachelor party in a private home with a stripper. Which of the following things would you consider crossing the line into cheating territory (if any)?:

-Letting the stripper strip him down to him underwear

-Letting the stripper pull down his underwear

-Getting down on all fours so the stripper can whip him

-Whipping the stripper

-Touching her breasts

-Letting stripper lick whipped cream off his body

-Licking whipped cream off the stripper's nipples

-Letting her dry-hump him while he lies on the floor

-Letting her put a dildo over his crotch and pretend to give him a blow job

AND NOW THE BIG QUESTION:

Would you still marry him if you found out he had done all of the above?

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O my gosh............

I am no help, I would say all of the above

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Thank you, Spitzer!

Others?

I promise to explain more once I've read people's opinions (I don't want to influence anything).

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Uch! Just the thought makes me nauseous! I can definitely think of each of those as cheating, although not to the same extent as some other things. Would I still marry him? I think I would. I would not be happy though!

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I would be TICKED OFF
I would still marry him, but have a lonnnnng talk with him

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I think most of those I would consider cheating. Why do guys think that just because it's a bachlor party they can do whatever they want? Gross!!!

I would be really upset and it would warrent a long talk but as long as he hasn't displayed this behavior in the past I would still marry him.

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IMO those are not cheating actions (for a bachelor party). I've heard of a lot worse happening at some.
If it was in front of all the guys then I think it was just dumb guy stuff. Since it was in a private home though that opens up all different possibilities and scenarios. Yes, I would still marry him. I've heard some trashy stories about Bachelorette parties too. I would never subject myself to that though

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I would say that

-Letting stripper lick whipped cream off his body (only if it is his private parts)

-Licking whipped cream off the stripper's nipples

would be cheating. It is normal for a stipper to do all that stuff to a guy-like stripping him down. But if he does something TO the stripper then that is cheating. Or if the stripper does ANYTHING to his private parts.

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Well I wasn't too concerned with the bachelor party thing until I read this. Now I can't stop thinking about it and I have a year and a half to go. I think that stuff is uncalled for and disrespectful.

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-Touching her breasts

-Licking whipped cream off the stripper's nipples

Would I still marry him...probably. But I would be FURIOUS!!!

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I have an issue with strippers anyway so to me, all of those would be horrible and FI would be out on the street with all his stuff when he got home. But my good friend is absolutely fine with letting her DH go to a strip club (he went a lot when he was stationed in the south b/c there's not much else to do) has told him that any part of the stripper that touches him will NEVER touch her. So, even according to the most lenient person I know, all of those things would be considered crossing the line.

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Oh my goodness...I think that all of those are cheating! I would be so so mad

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I'm afraid I would have to say I would consider all of that cheating in one form or another. I am by no means a prude but I would be extremely pissed off if these things occurred at my now husbands bachelor party.
He would catch holy he** from me - I don't think I could look at him the same - knowing he did these things with another woman.

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All of the above!!!!

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I would be MAJORLY PISSED if he did any of those things!!!!

I think my FH knows better - he knows I would call my cousin and he would break his legs and my 3 sisters would castrate him!

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I would say that these are not acceptable in MY book:

-Letting the stripper pull down his underwear

-Touching her breasts

-Letting stripper lick whipped cream off his body (private parts)

-Licking whipped cream off the stripper's nipples

-Letting her dry-hump him while he lies on the floor

No reason to have these things go on so I would not be happy to learn this. Our rule is do only those things which you would honestly not have a problem with me doing.

Would I still marry him - for the things listed above - bottom line - yes I would still marry him.

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OMG!!! I definitely think they are all considered cheating on different levels. I would still marry him though...shhhhhh!!!!!

He would be in some deep $h!T though!!!!!!!

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I say all of the above. We've had a discussion about strippers. I wouldn't even want one at mine, so I clearly don't want one at his.
But for those guys that do, anything more than just looking at the stripper is WRONG!

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No reason to have these things go on

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I agree with this statement.

I'm feeling sick at the moment!! Thanks girls!

I'm curious to know more about people's opinions on this subject...My FH's friends tease me to know end about what they are planning for his BP and it's really making me mad

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I agree with everyone else, some of those acts are definitely more serious as far as cheating goes, but they are all crossing the line imo. I'd be more than furious with him and his friends for allowing those acts to take place. I'd have some major trust issues which would make me question whether I should marry him, so I don't know what I'd do.