What is your worst wedding day fear?

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Posted by Espo22

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Posted by dannisayz

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Posted by Espo22

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Posted by dannisayz

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Posted by Espo22

its weird bc my 2 fears are so opposite of eachother and go back and forth fearing them, way under minimum or way over minimum

other than that stuff happens, things can be late or go wrong

as far as your ex fear, i personally wouldn't have invited them if i feared that at all. I know you said you remain good friends with them but to be in fear they might ruin your wedding then that is different and not like a real good friend who would never do such a thing. And if one says he still loves you and wants to be with you that shouldn't be a fear, just laugh in his face bc if you love fh and dont want to be with nobody else it shouldn't be a problem.

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I guess it isn't really a problem because I'm happy where I am now, but I don't think I could ever laugh in his face. He was a big part of my life for a long time and I do care for him and his feelings, just not in a romantic way anymore. I think of him as a big brother who takes care of me and I wouldn't dream of him not sharing my day with me.

I know he would never say anything on the day of, but it still lurks in the back of my head. I mean, how do you respond to someone professing their love for you when you are about to walk down the aisle?

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well not laugh in his face then but just say 'i am getting married, i cant listen to this sorry and politely excuse yourself'

i don't know, i mean ive had it happen but not about to walk down the aisle and i just dont pay attention to it, im just like OH SHUT UP but thats me. For me as long as they dont do something to make a scene and ruin the wedding i am fine, whatever they say to me wouldn't effect me probably if they said it to just me but thats bc i wouldn't even listen to what they have to say again just me

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Well, I cannot worry to much because I know how he feels . . . he regrets letting me go very much. We were together on and off for over 5 years and it wasn't until I met FH that he realized that 1. He'd lost me for good and 2. He really did want a committed relationship with me.

I love him dearly as my friend, but I know deep down it would of been a volatile relationship/marriage if I stayed.

I guess I'm not one to stomp on someones heart.

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well every relationship is different. I have an ex i was with for almost 9 years. For me its over and i moved on and dont care what he wants or how he feels now bc honestly he F*CKED UP, he should've known better and he put me through alot of bs and i mean ALOT. So for me personally thats why i dont feel bad, to me its a joke like are you serious? i gave you over 8 years to do something and fix things, i extended myself more than i should have and put up with more bs than i should have. So for me it would just be like 'no i moved on i cant even listen to this' and how i have handled the situation in the past. But for me nothing is there anymore, no love at all, no leftover feelings, no missing him so when he did do things i didnt care to hear anymore i did more than enough of that

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Posted by dannisayz

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Posted by Espo22

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Posted by dannisayz

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Posted by Espo22

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Posted by dannisayz

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Posted by Espo22

its weird bc my 2 fears are so opposite of eachother and go back and forth fearing them, way under minimum or way over minimum

other than that stuff happens, things can be late or go wrong

as far as your ex fear, i personally wouldn't have invited them if i feared that at all. I know you said you remain good friends with them but to be in fear they might ruin your wedding then that is different and not like a real good friend who would never do such a thing. And if one says he still loves you and wants to be with you that shouldn't be a fear, just laugh in his face bc if you love fh and dont want to be with nobody else it shouldn't be a problem.

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I guess it isn't really a problem because I'm happy where I am now, but I don't think I could ever laugh in his face. He was a big part of my life for a long time and I do care for him and his feelings, just not in a romantic way anymore. I think of him as a big brother who takes care of me and I wouldn't dream of him not sharing my day with me.

I know he would never say anything on the day of, but it still lurks in the back of my head. I mean, how do you respond to someone professing their love for you when you are about to walk down the aisle?

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well not laugh in his face then but just say 'i am getting married, i cant listen to this sorry and politely excuse yourself'

i don't know, i mean ive had it happen but not about to walk down the aisle and i just dont pay attention to it, im just like OH SHUT UP but thats me. For me as long as they dont do something to make a scene and ruin the wedding i am fine, whatever they say to me wouldn't effect me probably if they said it to just me but thats bc i wouldn't even listen to what they have to say again just me

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Well, I cannot worry to much because I know how he feels . . . he regrets letting me go very much. We were together on and off for over 5 years and it wasn't until I met FH that he realized that 1. He'd lost me for good and 2. He really did want a committed relationship with me.

I love him dearly as my friend, but I know deep down it would of been a volatile relationship/marriage if I stayed.

I guess I'm not one to stomp on someones heart.

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well every relationship is different. I have an ex i was with for almost 9 years. For me its over and i moved on and dont care what he wants or how he feels now bc honestly he F*CKED UP, he should've known better and he put me through alot of bs and i mean ALOT. So for me personally thats why i dont feel bad, to me its a joke like are you serious? i gave you over 8 years to do something and fix things, i extended myself more than i should have and put up with more bs than i should have. So for me it would just be like 'no i moved on i cant even listen to this' and how i have handled the situation in the past. But for me nothing is there anymore, no love at all, no leftover feelings, no missing him so when he did do things i didnt care to hear anymore i did more than enough of that

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I guess I have to do the same. I've moved on a long time ago. I just have to find a kind way to tell him that he missed the boat.

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Posted by Espo22

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Posted by dannisayz

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Posted by Espo22

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Posted by dannisayz

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Posted by Espo22

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Posted by dannisayz

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Posted by Espo22

its weird bc my 2 fears are so opposite of eachother and go back and forth fearing them, way under minimum or way over minimum

other than that stuff happens, things can be late or go wrong

as far as your ex fear, i personally wouldn't have invited them if i feared that at all. I know you said you remain good friends with them but to be in fear they might ruin your wedding then that is different and not like a real good friend who would never do such a thing. And if one says he still loves you and wants to be with you that shouldn't be a fear, just laugh in his face bc if you love fh and dont want to be with nobody else it shouldn't be a problem.

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I guess it isn't really a problem because I'm happy where I am now, but I don't think I could ever laugh in his face. He was a big part of my life for a long time and I do care for him and his feelings, just not in a romantic way anymore. I think of him as a big brother who takes care of me and I wouldn't dream of him not sharing my day with me.

I know he would never say anything on the day of, but it still lurks in the back of my head. I mean, how do you respond to someone professing their love for you when you are about to walk down the aisle?

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well not laugh in his face then but just say 'i am getting married, i cant listen to this sorry and politely excuse yourself'

i don't know, i mean ive had it happen but not about to walk down the aisle and i just dont pay attention to it, im just like OH SHUT UP but thats me. For me as long as they dont do something to make a scene and ruin the wedding i am fine, whatever they say to me wouldn't effect me probably if they said it to just me but thats bc i wouldn't even listen to what they have to say again just me

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Well, I cannot worry to much because I know how he feels . . . he regrets letting me go very much. We were together on and off for over 5 years and it wasn't until I met FH that he realized that 1. He'd lost me for good and 2. He really did want a committed relationship with me.

I love him dearly as my friend, but I know deep down it would of been a volatile relationship/marriage if I stayed.

I guess I'm not one to stomp on someones heart.

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well every relationship is different. I have an ex i was with for almost 9 years. For me its over and i moved on and dont care what he wants or how he feels now bc honestly he F*CKED UP, he should've known better and he put me through alot of bs and i mean ALOT. So for me personally thats why i dont feel bad, to me its a joke like are you serious? i gave you over 8 years to do something and fix things, i extended myself more than i should have and put up with more bs than i should have. So for me it would just be like 'no i moved on i cant even listen to this' and how i have handled the situation in the past. But for me nothing is there anymore, no love at all, no leftover feelings, no missing him so when he did do things i didnt care to hear anymore i did more than enough of that

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I guess I have to do the same. I've moved on a long time ago. I just have to find a kind way to tell him that he missed the boat.

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well i think your wedding will make him realize that already. My ex deserves to be spoken to that way lol i dont know your ex and what he deserves so the situation is different.

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