Who is typically Invited to the bachelorette party?

RainbowCupcake Posted: Aug 02, 2014 01:34 AM

Who is typically Invited to the bachelorette party?

Ok so just wondering. In addition to getting married in 9 months my friend is getting married in FIVE months and I'm the maid of honor. I don't mind because we have been friends for years and when she has said in the past she would be picking me lol

ANYWAYS so we have been discussing her bachelorette party and she wants to rent out a club and invite roughly 30 to 40 people. I think that's a bit excessive and told her and the wedding planner that I am on a budget and thought only the bridal party was only going to be coming. I was going to rent a limo and take her out to a strip club and have some VIP section stuff going on. She wants to invite alot of people that have been doing her alot of favors for the wedding and I think this is like a thank you invitation. I might be wrong on the guest list but I wanted to see what other people think. Thanks!

Kroedel87 Posted: Aug 02, 2014 07:21 AM

Who is typically Invited to the bachelorette party?

That sounds insane. Unless she's footing a huge chunk of the bill for this, it's absolutely crazy. You should NOT be responsible to pay for this. My thinking with bachelorette parties is that the bridal party plans it, but that anyone who attends (except for the bride) should pay an equal share of the cost.

Amanda2022 Posted: Aug 02, 2014 07:22 AM

Who is typically Invited to the bachelorette party?

Typically its the bridal party and maybe a few friends but Ive never heard of 30-40 people for a bachelorette party thats insane!

Alimm729 Posted: Aug 02, 2014 07:41 AM

Re: Who is typically Invited to the bachelorette party?

Posted by Kroedel87

That sounds insane. Unless she's footing a huge chunk of the bill for this, it's absolutely crazy. You should NOT be responsible to pay for this. My thinking with bachelorette parties is that the bridal party plans it, but that anyone who attends (except for the bride) should pay an equal share of the cost.

This. All of this.

Jsabbatino Posted: Aug 02, 2014 07:53 AM

Who is typically Invited to the bachelorette party?

All the bachelorette parties I've been to (in bridal party or not). The bridal party has planned it and I have paid/ usually the moh would send an email saying it's gonna be x amount pp

rcotter90 Posted: Aug 02, 2014 08:13 AM

Re: Who is typically Invited to the bachelorette party?

Posted by Alimm729

Posted by Kroedel87

That sounds insane. Unless she's footing a huge chunk of the bill for this, it's absolutely crazy. You should NOT be responsible to pay for this. My thinking with bachelorette parties is that the bridal party plans it, but that anyone who attends (except for the bride) should pay an equal share of the cost.

This. All of this.

Yes, 40 people is crazy! Bridal party and maybe a few other friends or family. It's not another wedding!

kfriytsz Posted: Aug 02, 2014 08:26 AM

Who is typically Invited to the bachelorette party?

Yes, everyone posted their own way. I've seen parties where everyone under the sun was invited. And maybe the MOH pays a little more at the end, but done should contribute enough to make it not so bad. I can't imagine the cost of renting out an entire club though... And what fun is a club with just 40 people in it?

Are you planning the bridal shower too?

RainbowCupcake Posted: Aug 02, 2014 09:56 AM

Re: Who is typically Invited to the bachelorette party?

Posted by kfriytsz

Yes, everyone posted their own way. I've seen parties where everyone under the sun was invited. And maybe the MOH pays a little more at the end, but done should contribute enough to make it not so bad. I can't imagine the cost of renting out an entire club though... And what fun is a club with just 40 people in it?

Are you planning the bridal shower too?

I know! The thing is is that she hired a wedding planner who is close friends with her mom (who is also coming to the bachelorette party...ugh) and she is literally planning this thing with me. That bugs me alittle because now I feel constricted on what I want to do for her because this lady wants to do this over the top party. I don't want to be a biatch but I will say something if the cost is more than I can afford. I don't know if I'm planning the bridal party. I feel her wedding planner is going to have more say about it than anything.

kfriytsz Posted: Aug 02, 2014 12:49 PM

Who is typically Invited to the bachelorette party?

She can have as much say as she wants, as long as her opinion comes with the cash to back it up. They have to understand that, while I'm sure you don't want to skip on her bachelorette party, you can't afford to rent out an entire club on your own. Just make sure you speak up for yourself, and don't let your feelings get ignored.