Who needs Etiquette? What are you doing that's 'against' the rules?

Original post by marc_rai

Feb 01, 2005 08:50 PM

So I know there's a lot of dos and don'ts that we're supposed to follow, but is anyone saying. DAMN the rules, I'm doing this my way!
Okay, I'll go first:

Etiquette says: Send each adult over 18 a separate invitation.

Rai says: Damn that rule! If you're over 18 and live at home you're not getting a separate invite.

lilacwine Posted: Feb 02, 2005 08:18 AM

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Posted by marc_rai

Etiquette says: Send each adult over 18 a separate invitation.

Rai says: Damn that rule! If you're over 18 and live at home you're not getting a separate invite.

I wrote mine last week and it annoyed me to no end that in two cases, I wrote the same address three times!

Mine -- if FH doesn't give me their addresses, they're not invited.

icequeen4700 Posted: Feb 02, 2005 08:36 AM

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i am not sending invites for kids over 18 at home
no kids, unless i say so
i am using my married monogram on my invites!
i love breaking the rules

JBKempf Posted: Feb 02, 2005 08:41 AM

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I'm doing almost all the same things you girls are doing.

1) One invite per household...Otherwise one house would get like 5 invites.

2) No guests unless a serious relationship

3) FH is seeing me before ceremony so we can enjoy our cocktail hour

4) No calligraphy. I'm using clear labels and a nice cursive font from my wonderful dell

Donna&Joe708 Posted: Feb 02, 2005 09:17 AM

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Posted by FTRBRIDE

Etiquette says: invite all children or none.

FH and I say: screw that, we're only inviting the children that we WANT at the wedding

I feel better now

Same for us!

Also, there is a significant gap between the church and the cocktail hour and quite frankly, I don't care! We need the time to take pictures so that we can enjoy the wedding that we are paying a lot of money for!

melissaandsean Posted: Feb 02, 2005 09:19 AM

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Posted by CubanBride

I guess I am an etiqutte follower...lol.

I am doing all the things you all have stated you're not.

heehee. me too.

leighdvm Posted: Feb 02, 2005 09:30 AM

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Posted by Donna&Joe708

Posted by FTRBRIDE

Etiquette says: invite all children or none.

FH and I say: screw that, we're only inviting the children that we WANT at the wedding

I feel better now

Same for us!

Also, there is a significant gap between the church and the cocktail hour and quite frankly, I don't care! We need the time to take pictures so that we can enjoy the wedding that we are paying a lot of money for!

Amen, sista!!

I'm having pics done before the cocktail hour so I can be there! I'm not missing the food -- plus, I'll say all my 'hellos' then.

eogara Posted: Feb 02, 2005 09:34 AM

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Apparently having a DJ at a formal wedding is one of mine

We're seeing each other before the ceremony to take pics

We're getting married at the hall by an interfaith minister... who's a woman

No singles are getting 'and Guest'. Those with girlfriends or boyfriends are invited with that significant other named.

Not inviting OOT guests to RD

Still considering not doing RD invites

I'm sure there are more...

gina&ken Posted: Feb 02, 2005 09:34 AM

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Posted by Donna&Joe708

Also, there is a significant gap between the church and the cocktail hour and quite frankly, I don't care! We need the time to take pictures so that we can enjoy the wedding that we are paying a lot of money for!

exactly what i was going to say

and i read that you are not supposed to put 'and guest' on invitations, you are supposed to find out the guest's name - forget it, i don't have time for that!

rugs88 Posted: Feb 02, 2005 09:34 AM

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Etiquette says: You are supposed to be married before you have a baby

Michelle says: Why wait! Our son can be the ringbearer!!!!

rugs88 Posted: Feb 02, 2005 09:36 AM

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Posted by eogara

Apparently having a DJ at a formal wedding is one of mine

We're seeing each other before the ceremony to take pics

We're getting married at the hall by an interfaith minister... who's a woman

No singles are getting 'and Guest'. Those with girlfriends or boyfriends are invited with that significant other named.

Not inviting OOT guests to RD

Still considering not doing RD invites

I'm sure there are more...

Lots of people see each other before the ceremony nowadays...it's a growing trend!!!

rugs88 Posted: Feb 02, 2005 09:39 AM

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Posted by Tjay

I am definitely the #1 rule breaker.
Our champagne toast will also be a jello shot toast, not inviting single men/women with guests just for the hell of it. To expensive. Only getting invited with a guest if you are in a serious relationship, married or engaged and NO KIDS ALLOWED, except the 3 in the wedding party. I am sure there are more....

I love the jello shot toast!!! that is great!!

Summer05 Posted: Feb 02, 2005 09:43 AM

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1) One invite per household

2) No guests unless a serious relationship

3)Printing envelopes on my printer

QueensBride Posted: Feb 02, 2005 09:43 AM

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Posted by FTRBRIDE

Etiquette says: invite all children or none.

FH and I say: screw that, we're only inviting the children that we WANT at the wedding

I feel better now

I am doing the same but FI doesn't agree with it

marc_rai Posted: Feb 02, 2005 10:34 AM

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Posted by CubanBride

I guess I am an etiqutte follower...lol.

I am doing all the things you all have stated you're not.

BOOOO!! You need to be a rebel!! Are you sure that you are not breaking ANY rules??? Not even a teeny tiny one?

marc_rai Posted: Feb 02, 2005 10:40 AM

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Posted by eogara

Apparently having a DJ at a formal wedding is one of mine

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I'm doing this too. Almost 3 months after I booked the DJ, my father asked me when I was going to start looking for bands!! ***??? My dad was the one that helped me find the DJ that I am using! My Dad thought that I was going to have the DJ play for a little while and then have a band. I had to explain to him that I planned to have the DJ play ALL night. I'm not paying $1500 for him to play for like 1 hour. Plus I don't have extra $ for a band. My reception is only 4 hours, when did he think all this was gonna happen? Parents are strange!

SomethingBlu Posted: Feb 02, 2005 11:04 AM

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Posted by gNi1125

1. Not everyone over 18 is getting a seperate invite.

2. Also not inviting 'guest' for singles not in serious relationship/ or at least that I don't know.

3. There's a 3 hr. gap between church and CH(only time available)...but I'm not changing the church. FH has his heart set on it.

Wow this thread is liberating. Thanks

Me too! Church ends at 4pm, CH starts at 7pm...oh well!

And to add to number 1, not everyone that lives in different houses will get a separate invite! Fi's family moves too damn much, one family in particular (one aunt) has 8 kids plus their spouses...so we're sending one invite to the aunt's house and writing '8' people on it - let them decide who's going...bad, but I don't care!

CubanBride Posted: Feb 02, 2005 11:08 AM

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Posted by marc_rai

Posted by CubanBride

I guess I am an etiqutte follower...lol.

I am doing all the things you all have stated you're not.

BOOOO!! You need to be a rebel!! Are you sure that you are not breaking ANY rules??? Not even a teeny tiny one?

Nah. We like the 'rules'. Although I think some people are confusing etiquette with tradition.

If you mean if I am going agains't certain traditions, then sure. I am walking down the aisle alone. We are getting married at the hall instead of a church.

Katherine121 Posted: Feb 02, 2005 11:18 AM

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1. Singles 'with guest' are in in significant relationships or engaged.

2. Printed envelopes instead of calligraphy.

3. No children AT wedding or IN wedding.