Ok so I was under the impression that the bridal party helps pay for the shower. Should they be expected to pay for the shower? Does the MOB help pay. My sister is my MOH and wants to start planing but she asked me if she should ask my bridesmaids...
Everyone tell me what they think or did please........
kimnsteve
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my mom is paying for it ...if i left it up to my friends i cant imagine what it would be like ..lol
AllyDrew1108
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I have noticed this changes with different people - my friend's uncle paid for hers, another friend's grandma paid for hers... Maybe it's because we're all Italian - and family members are always gettin' involved. Ha ha!
Smde39
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this is so helpful...
LauraD419
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My mom, my MOH (cousin) and Aunt (MOH's mom) are splitting the cost of the shower.
BunnyBears
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i have read more than once that its 'tacky' for any family member to plan the shower. that its the MOH's duty- unless that person is the sister or mom then someone else ' must ' throw it for you.
but that just does not make sense or work out !
my mom is planning and paying for mine. i can't picture anyone else doing it for me. my aunt helped pick the place i know that but i sure mom paying for all. i know many moms that do it. i cant picture my bridesmaids being able to do all something like that.. for many reasons.
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oh in the planning process, your sister should call the bms and say 'i am planning the shower. .what dates are good for you .. any ideas?'. and let them offer to help then.. your sister can also say something like i will definitely need help with 'favors, invite list and decorations' and see what the girls offer.
graezie
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usually the bridal party can help out pay... on my case, my mom is paying for the shower and my girls are paying for the bachelorette party.
Brian and Marie
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My mother paid for everything!
MeaganAndJoeC
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My mom is paying for mine with my sister MOH. Sometimes the bridal party will chip in as a gift to you .
del Rio
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My cousin is getting married in August and my aunt is throwing her a shower with the help of the BP.
I was always under the impression that the MOH coordinated everything with some help of MOB.
My MOH is my lil sister who is just starting out a great job, I dont want to burden her with this extra expense...and my mom has already helped with so much!
This has been a huge concern for me almost to the point of where I really dont want one!
JoesFutureWife
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my mom is paying for it but all of my girls are planning it with my moh and mom.
Bella77
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my sis/MOH is paying for most of it, i know my BMs are contributing where they can, but they all live elsewhere... and my mom is no financial situation to really contribute $ - but I know she might be making the favors and doing the invites. She's crafty like that
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definitely in this times--tradition can be tricky.
my shower was paid for majority wise--by my mom. she paid for the shower location---and my sister and BM paid for the decorations, invites, and favors
it came out about 70% mom---30% girls
Smde39
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thanks everyone for helping
Fall Bride 2008
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In my eyes its up to the maid of honor to decide what is to be done with the shower.
GinaZ
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I always heard that the bridesmaids pay for it...
but I guess it depends!
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Posted by Smde39
Ok so I was under the impression that the bridal party helps pay for the shower. Should they be expected to pay for the shower? Does the MOB help pay. My sister is my MOH and wants to start planing but she asked me if she should ask my bridesmaids...
Everyone tell me what they think or did please........
I've been in 4 bridal parties and each time the mother paid for the majority of the shower (location and food) and the bridesmaids chipped in for little things like decorations, favors, invites, and games. But I guess it could really go either way.
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My mom is paying for my shower and I have only been in 1 wedding so far and the mother and FMIL paid for that one....Mom mom is adament that the BP should not be responsible for paying for the shower. I totally agree...I think being a BM is a huge expense and paying for a shower on top of it all and on top of a gift is asking a lot.
msflesch
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It all depends..I think it goes on a case by case basis. Mine, my mom is paying and then the girls will pay for bach party.
LeslieMike
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I know my MOH is planning it and I really dont know who is contributing! She wont tell me anything! Though FMIL planned FH's SIL's so I dont know what will happen. All of my bridal party live OOT! I didnt think I would get one at all. My mom lives OOT too. Tough situation!
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Posted by trojo1521
I am so glad this came up. My mother and I got into an argument just yesterday about this because she said it was tacky for me to help throw my own shower. I told her to step into 2008
well even if you pay and help plan you just can't put yourself as hosting. let your guests think you didn't plan. The reason why is bc for showers where gifts are one of the only times that are asked of the guests, they say the person its for should not host it themselves bc its like they are asking for the gifts themselves. This is why its a surprise and why other people do it. Still plan on it but put your mom or moh on the invite as hosting it.
