my FH proposed this question to me.. i guess he is trying to see where my heart is...
get out of here!! my answer is NO NO NO NO !! i live with my parents for 25yrs of my life ... im soo good!! i guess explain to him that i dont want any potential problems etc etc
he didnt take my answer so well...
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We currently own a two-family home with my mom. It actually works out great for us and FH and my mother get along wonderfully. Sometimes I think she loves him more than me, lol.
HOWEVER, I would NOT do this with my father or his mother. They lack boundaries and sometimes forget to respect privacy. My mother is a different story.
I think it all depends on your relationship and how well the parent is with boundaries, privacy, etc.
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Not unless someone invested in a 'Wine of the Day' delivery for me.
BellaBride27
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NOOOOO WAYYYYYYYYYYYY
Panamasweet
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We live upstairs from FIL now and i hate it. We have the upstairs of their house but i still need my own space. We have no choice right now but hopefully things will change very soon becasue i am going insane
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HELL NO!!!!!!!!!!! I would rather pay for her apartment then have her live with us.
italgal
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he think its crazy if he has to pay for two places..when can just live with US!!
OOOHH HOW CONVIENENT!!
You can't put a price on your privacy. I would pay for a place for her, or provide professional care if she could not care for herself. That's goes for my Mom too!
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HELL NO!!!!!!!!!!! I would rather pay for her apartment then have her live with us.
Cosigning with stinenandy2010
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heck no... when you live with other family members and your married-its an instant invitation for them to be all in your business and give their opinions on your marrriage/relationship!!! Hell no!!!!!!!!
No way NEVER EVER EVER EVER EVER...she intrudes her opinions and judgment into our lives as it is, and she lives 650 miles away!!! If she lived with us I would be in jail for assault or murder!!!
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No, never. I love her to bits, but not a chance. I wouldn't force FH to live with my mom either!
No way NEVER EVER EVER EVER EVER...she intrudes her opinions and judgment into our lives as it is, and she lives 650 miles away!!! If she lived with us I would be in jail for assault or murder!!!
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it depends... we lived across the street from my parents for about 6 months...my parents never bothere us and respected our privacy.
if we were able to share a home (enough space where everyone has privacy) then yes I would let my inlaws or my parents move in. If they were ill, older (my parents are almost 60), retired, widowed... I would def open my home to them..
It can also help save on child care!
Idk..i guess it all depends on the situation.
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I let FBIL move in with us for a few months. This started in Aug. I thought it would be ok b/c we were like best friends and got along great.
Well was I wrong!!! He needs to be out by Dec 1 and I think I may just shoot myself!!!
This taught that no matter how wel you get along with someone living with them changes everything (FH's not included in this)
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honestly.. i would rather have oral surgery without novocaine... Im so good on that. Not a chance in hell
No way NEVER EVER EVER EVER EVER...she intrudes her opinions and judgment into our lives as it is, and she lives 650 miles away!!! If she lived with us I would be in jail for assault or murder!!!
Bee12
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Posted by Scarpak
honestly.. i would rather have oral surgery without novocaine... Im so good on that. Not a chance in hell
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We rent an apartment in FIL's home. I lived there for 2 yrs b/f we got engaged. To be honest those 2 yrs were great, respected our space, etc. In the last few months, its been a different story. Recently she has complained to FH that I dont come down & visit her when I come home from work. She is increasingly getting more needy and invasive but I honestly think she is freaking that her 'baby boy' is getting married and moving out. I'm trying to be kind and patient but am def running out of steam!!!! So to answer your ques....NEGATIVE!!! Once we are out, we are out and FMIL & FFIL can go about their own business!!! The only way either set of parents are living w/us is if its time for a nursing home (which we would never do to them).
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My first instinct is no but it depends on the situation. Like if it was a 2 or 3 family home where their are doors that could seperate and the person would have to knock to be let in then maybe.
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We rent an apartment in FIL's home. I lived there for 2 yrs b/f we got engaged. To be honest those 2 yrs were great, respected our space, etc. In the last few months, its been a different story. Recently she has complained to FH that I dont come down & visit her when I come home from work. She is increasingly getting more needy and invasive but I honestly think she is freaking that her 'baby boy' is getting married and moving out. I'm trying to be kind and patient but am def running out of steam!!!! So to answer your ques....NEGATIVE!!! Once we are out, we are out and FMIL & FFIL can go about their own business!!! The only way either set of parents are living w/us is if its time for a nursing home (which we would never do to them).
I have the same issue. FMIL complains that all i do is stay upstairs. Well when i come home im tired at times and dont feel like having a long drawn out conversation. All i want to do is change my clothes, wash my make up off and get my glass of wine and relax. I also feel like she has an opinion about EVERYTHING....what i wear, how i comb my hair, how i dress my son, if i am wearing slippers or not. I'm trying to be respectful since she is allowing us to live in her house with our children but DAMN WHERE DOES IT STOP.
When we move out i dont think i will have much to say to her
