Would you rather have a husband who worked a lot and made a lot or....

Original post by Bridex100

Apr 12, 2007 01:31 PM

Which would you rather have?

A. Husband who works a lot but makes more than enough to support you and your family. He wouldn't be able to chip in as much when it comes to picking up the kids, doing housework, etc. You could keep your career but you'd need outside help.

B. Husband who works good hours (9-5) but doesn't make as much. He wouldn't be able to support you and the kids. Both of you would have to work full-time to make ends meet but you could share the responsibilities.

cindyandkevin Posted: Apr 12, 2007 03:08 PM

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B, that's where we are now anyway.

I married DH to be happy, not necessarily to be well taken care of. What I mean is that I'd rather have him home and have us struggle together than to be comfortable financially but rarely see my husband.

BklynItaliana Posted: Apr 12, 2007 03:09 PM

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I have the best of both worlds.. during tax season fh works late and makes buku bucks but he also works from 9am-2:30 in the morning almost everyday for a good 2 monthes(he's a very moody SOB during this time) but his pay check is also very nice. and the other 10 monthes out of the year he is home regular time.. he has no problem chipping in with work that needs to be done(except cooking, but when he know's i've had a bad day he know's we order out)

ewickens Posted: Apr 12, 2007 03:15 PM

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B - it's what we have now and I love it cause I get to know my husband and love him more with each second.

AeroJenn Posted: Apr 12, 2007 03:22 PM

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B. Let me tell you, we will have an A situation for the next few years (sort of) where FH makes decent money and we have like no expenses, but he'll be gone alot -- like for months on end. I'd take the B situation anyday.... i'd rather have to struggle to pay the bills each month but at least get to spend some time together (and with our kids). Its a shame when you see families where the kids never see one of their parents

nocode Posted: Apr 12, 2007 03:22 PM

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Posted by MJDoc12

B...money is great and while i wouldn't mine having the moolah in scenario A...in the end i know i wouldn't be happy with a husband that suppport the family financially....but not emotionally.

totally agree. while itd be nice not to have to work and have tons of things id hate that to come at the expense of quality time with fh and with our family. so we'll just continue to live at out means and be content with what we have

D's Girl Posted: Apr 12, 2007 03:24 PM

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A for me

My FH owns his own Pizzeria and he comes home at like 11:00pm every night, but in the end it's not the quantity of time, it's the quality!!!

leena07 Posted: Apr 12, 2007 03:32 PM

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i would have to pick A.. i would love to be at home with my kids full time and take care of them.

the future mrs m Posted: Apr 12, 2007 03:36 PM

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B all the way.

Chanwich Posted: Apr 12, 2007 03:47 PM

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Definitely B. I like having a situation where we share ALL of the responsibilities equally. I think having a level playing field in all aspects of our lives makes for less arguments (for us at least) just because one of us doesn't have something to hang over the others head and neither one of us feels like we aren't giving enough in one area.

GinaZ Posted: Apr 12, 2007 03:52 PM

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tough question. I would probably choose A unless it meant we didn't have him on weekends. Then I would choose B.

alison1daland Posted: Apr 12, 2007 04:07 PM

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I think I would want a different choice. I see A as a 100% -0% situation financially and B as 50%-50% situation financially. I would want a different split. I would want a husband who was more of the breadwinner, but I want to bring home the bread too, at least part-time or from home or something... While still having the majority of my time to be a housewife with kids. (Def. situation B before there are kids, though). I don't want to not do my part financially, or have him feel like he has to be the only one, and i want to be able to fall back on something if something should happen to him. He also needs to not be the 100% person because he needs to have time time for family and everything...

I am pretty sure that this is how our situation will work anyway, what with our plans for the future and all...

SOTHISISLOVE53109 Posted: Apr 12, 2007 04:09 PM

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A A A A A A A A - I'M IN THAT SITUATION FOR THE PAST 7 YEARS SO I DON'T KNOW ANY DIFFERENT, I WOULD LOVE IT IF HE WERE AROUND MORE BUT HIM PROVIDING LET'S US HAVE SUCH A BETTER QUALITY OF LIVING AND I LOVE HIM TO DEATH FOR BEING SUCH A HARD WORKER AND WANTING TO PROVIDE!!!

TheFutureMrsM Posted: Apr 12, 2007 04:14 PM

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A) i choose A cause this is kinda my situation now, except i do not have a career, my job is helping him with his company.
He works alot of hours, but we live and work together so we do get to see eachother, If he is still working like this in 5 years and i needed help then we would hire a nanny/housekeeper full time or live in

Right now we just have a cleaning service every other week.

faithandkevin Posted: Apr 12, 2007 05:00 PM

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I have A but I'd rather have B. MY FH has his own business so he is always on duty. He's a workaholic! I wouldn't mind if he made less money as long as he was home.

E-n-K Posted: Apr 12, 2007 05:04 PM

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I have A but I would also prefer B. Its hard not seeing FH until I'm going to bed some nights. I miss him!!

jessamyn78 Posted: Apr 12, 2007 05:05 PM

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Definitely B. I wouldn't even give it a second thought.

vintagegirl Posted: Apr 12, 2007 05:11 PM

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EJSD2006 Posted: Apr 12, 2007 05:50 PM

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secret option C - we win the lottery and never have to work again and we can stay home and veg out all day long!

jgl Posted: Apr 12, 2007 06:17 PM

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Posted by Queensbebe

I'd have to say A, so that someone could be home with the kids. I think it would make it easier if I didn't HAVE to work!

as much as i would love to stay home and not work because my hubby makes great money or to have help around the house.. i think kids need an involved father (as much as a mother) in their lives (and I want a hubby who is going to be home with me and who i will see), not just a dad that is able to buy them PS3.

I def would say B

money isnt as important has love, happiness and togetherness!