WOW!! so annoyed right now::kinda long vent

so last week i mentioned that i was in a wedding & 4 days prior to the wedding, the bride decided to flip sh!t because i have been too busy to help with stuff...

http://www.liweddings.com/chat/topic.aspx?ID=615591&Highlight=

thats the previous post...

well, her wedding, was heII....first of all, i never have liked her MOH..but i was nice to her because they were friends...well, the day of the wedding she was THEE biggest B!tch to be ever. and did my 'friend,' the bride, speak to me at all?? nope. not at all. so i was fed up with it and FH & I peaced out at like 6:00...very earlyy....i was so mad i didnt even give her the card & money i had for her...i figured she didnt deserve it..

anyways, she hasnt spoke to me since...whatever

she was supposed to be in my wedding as well, yea, not happening now.

but what REALLY irritates me is that she is a poster on the 09 board..and i was reading through some of her posts... one talks about how she almost kicked a BM out of her wedding.. that could only be me.. why didnt she do it?! i would have LOVEDD that... i wasted $40 getting my hair done...wasted money on my dressed...wasted money paying for bridal shower...wasted gas driving back and fourth to her place the weekend of the wedding...i honestly thought out kicking myself out...i wish i would have.. blahhhh

Well at least you know now...i think it may be time to end that friendship. SOrry you had to go through all that. You would think she couldve at least been civil to you at her wedding.

Yikes! That is a tricky sitaution, not to mention mean.

I just think its ridiculous to let weddings come between friends. Your friends have been your friends for years, a wedding is one day. What is more important?

Now that her wedding is over, I'd try to patch things up...unless there are other issues aside from the wedding that have impacted your friendship. If you're true friends you can work it out, but you have to both want it

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Posted by bulldoglover

ugh that really su cks. silver lining though - at least you know now that she wouldn't be a good BM for your wedding?

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exactly...

so umm..do i just say..umm yea, i dont want you in my wedding...

or do i just not involve her & she'll get the point? lol

loll

I love when people post things about other people on this site. Did she think you wouldn't see it???

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Posted by iHeartMoogle

I love when people post things about other people on this site. Did she think you wouldn't see it???

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yea i know...kinda like i just did today?! hahahahahahhahaha

Hi Nichole. Yea...its me, the bitchy bride. Someone wrote to me and said you had been writing things about my wedding and our situation we had, and thought I should take a look. So I did.

First off, I definitly told you I was going to just have you not be in it and you BEGGED me not to, apologized to me saying that you KNEW how bad of a bridesmaid you were...please done kick you out...you were so excited and sorry, yada yada yada. So if you didnt want to be in it, which I already knew because of your lack of participation, then you wouldnt have said any of that to me. I had family that would have gladly stepped in.

I asked you to be in my wedding because you became a good friend of mine, very quickly. Guess I didnt know you that well. When you are a bridesmaid in someones wedding you do stuff to prepare for the wedding with the party and the bride. I repeatedly asked you to help out, you always blew people off when you were to meet them, there was always something better to do. I understand you have a life....I hate how you are making it out like I asked you to so stuff for me everyday, all day long. I do everything you do, AND have a child. Im busy too but I always make time for the other important things and people in my life. And w wedding is VERY important, you being a bride yourself, I thought you would understand that.

The day of, I dont know why your saying I didnt speak yo you. I had general conversation with everybody....I didnt have time to stop and talk to anyone, its my wedding day! It was bam...bam...bam...here...there...ceremony...pictures...reception....this...that...you'll see. Its the busiest day of your life. If you would have stayed at the reception, we would have had some quality time together but you left within like an hour. Thats not cool. I was never ANYTHING but nice to you...ever. Anytime you ever needed something or wanted to get otgether, I was there. There's no excuse for what you did, or didnt do. All these people on here think Im a *****...why? Because I told you how bad you were hurting me because you were pretty much making a joke of my wedding day or what? Trust me, if you would have been a bridesmaid in their wedding, they would have felt the same way. And so would you have....

And I see that you dont want me in your wedding now, which is fine. I really didnt want to have to try and be there to support you when you sure as hell didnt for me. Being a bad friend is one thing, but trying to purposly do things to upset them on their wedding day is another. Its just not ok....at the reception, the other girls helped with the cake and the bridal dance....you didnt do ANY of that. I have one picture of you standing by the cake, and instead of helping like the other girls, you were standing there guarding your beer.

I saw you in wal-mart about a week after the wedding, you didnt see me right away, but when you did, you totally dodged into another isle thinking I wouldnt see you. Thats why I havent talked to you. Its not ME...its YOU. I had to have another girl on standby just in case you didnt show up that day, thats how unreliable you are, and thats bad. You didnt know I was having a rehersal dinner, you didnt know what time the ceremony was...and it was a week until the wedding! Thats just stuff you dont forget...or 'lose', when your in a wedding. Being asked to be in someones wedding is a priveledge, its the best day of their lives. My girls did a wonderful job with everything, and the ***** MOH as you say... was the best MOH a girl could ask for. She was only that way towards you because you were NEVER there. Its you that needed to get the hint. All I can say for you is at least you had the decency to show up at the ceremony.

So before you start talking bad about someone, make sure you include the whole story. Im not a bad person, you were just a horrible bridesmaid. I dont know if it was because you have never been in a wedding before or what? I was never a bridezilla....ever. I had no rules or regulations, I had you guys buy the cutest, cheapest dresses...you could do your hair/makeup however you wanted. I was pretty easy going. All I wanted was for you to be there for me and you weren't. And that was completely your fault. Not only did you never call me to see if I needed any help with the wedding, but you never called me for ANYTHING. Ever. Even if you couldnt come to help, which Im sure you could have...you could've at least called me.

No need to write back to this because I'll never be able to get back here, Im not the greatest at this. Just wanted to let you know what really went on, and all the other ladies reading this. It makes me sad that all this went down the way it did, and how your acting through all of this. I cant believe some of the things you wrote about me. I guess you really do find out who your friends are when you get married.

I didnt write that on here and not think you'd see it. Im not an idiot. I thought you would see it and get what I was saying. Its 100% true, maybe thats why it made you mad. I dont know.

So hopefully everything goes well for your wedding. I'd never wish any of this on you. Not only as your friend, but as a fellow bride. Good luck.

WOW thats all i have to say

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Posted by T E R I

WOW thats all i have to say

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I hate being involved in drama, but I love to watch it...

Oh boy!

Oh My Goodness!!!