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I think that you're cousin is being selfish by wanting to have her wedding around the same time as yours. She's probably not thinking about all of the other things that are associated with weddings. Maybe if you explained to her that your relatives will now have to find time for 2 weddings, 2 showers and 2 bachelorette parties, she'll get it.

I can definitely feel your pain. Two of my friends from high school decided to schedule their weddings 2 and 3 weeks after mine. To make matters worse, my MOH is a BM in both of their weddings as well!

I don't think you are being selfish. As childish as this is going to sound...'you set your wedding date first.' She really shouldn't be considering a wedding within a 2 month window before or after yours. It's only fair.

We were considering getting married in March 07 but FH's best friend is getting married in Feb 07 so we pushed it off until May.

You're a sweetheart for even considering moving your date. If you are really that open to it, flexible and willing to change your date for July, trust me you can find vendors. I have seen couples pull together fabulous weddings within 6 months and at a better price than all of us are paying booking everything so far in advance. Vendors are very eager to fill open slots and people are always canceling a few months before weddings, sweet 16's, christenings, Bar Mitzvah's. ect...

OK.. You should NOT be sacrificing YOUR date for her when she doesn't even have a ring yet.. It's YOUR date!!
Let her plan a wedding right after yours.. and see who shows up to THAT one!! Probably not nearly the amount that shows up to yours.. I would be insane if this happened to me.. You are within your rights to be upset..
For you...

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Posted by bride2b24

first of all they arent even engaged yet.....dont change your date Michelle!!!! seriously........she should not overstep you with this at all.....

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Thanks Jackie, I don't want to seem like a baby or an attention Whore with the whole it's my wedding, it's hard, b/c I don't think that they realize it... It's alot, of work, especially since we're doing alot of DIY stuff & I thought the BP would help

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absolutely! honestly i dont think anyone should be claiming a date for a wedding when they arent even engaged yet! lol......maybe once she gets into the situation she will realize.....if not have a heart to heart....

They're going to have to realize that they are going to put your family in an awkward situation by making it so close to yours. They will look like the bad guys not you.

Maybe they will pick Jan/Feb 08. Don't panic. It will work out.

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I don't think you are being selfish. As childish as this is going to sound...'you set your wedding date first.' She really shouldn't be considering a wedding within a 2 month window before or after yours. It's only fair.

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I agree with this 100%!!!

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Posted by Blu-ize

They're going to have to realize that they are going to put your family in an awkward situation by making it so close to yours. They will look like the bad guys not you.

Maybe they will pick Jan/Feb 08. Don't panic. It will work out.

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thanks,

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Posted by bride2b24

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Posted by Soon2BeMrsS

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Posted by bride2b24

first of all they arent even engaged yet.....dont change your date Michelle!!!! seriously........she should not overstep you with this at all.....

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Thanks Jackie, I don't want to seem like a baby or an attention Whore with the whole it's my wedding, it's hard, b/c I don't think that they realize it... It's alot, of work, especially since we're doing alot of DIY stuff & I thought the BP would help

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absolutely! honestly i dont think anyone should be claiming a date for a wedding when they arent even engaged yet! lol......maybe once she gets into the situation she will realize.....if not have a heart to heart....

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thanks FH & I had planned on having everything planned for our day before the was on my finger (I'm having extensive dental work done, & I requested that he wait til I was beautiful to make it offical ; when he did ask he went on & on, about how I was beautiful even w/ the whole process)

I'm thinking that's wha tI'm going to have to do... I feel like a B*tch doing it hough, b/c she wants to be married before shes any closer to 30

I'm kinda in the same situation. My FH's cousin(LuckySevens) also a LIW bride was engaged before us, and we didn't know she was getting married 7/07/07 and we chose May 6th as our date. Their families have lots of out of town guests too!! I figure that some of those guests are going to choose 1 of our weddings to go to. Being that they all have families and airfare etc, it's just not possible to make both, although some will. If we don't see them at our wedding, we'll see them at hers. Theres NO hard feelings what so ever. Keep your date!!! It'll work out.

thanks

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Posted by Soon2BeMrsS

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Posted by bride2b24

first of all they arent even engaged yet.....dont change your date Michelle!!!! seriously........she should not overstep you with this at all.....

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Thanks Jackie, I don't want to seem like a baby or an attention Whore with the whole it's my wedding, it's hard, b/c I don't think that they realize it... It's alot, of work, especially since we're doing alot of DIY stuff & I thought the BP would help

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absolutely! honestly i dont think anyone should be claiming a date for a wedding when they arent even engaged yet! lol......maybe once she gets into the situation she will realize.....if not have a heart to heart....

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I was just going to say that, see what happens after shes engaged, and then if she still wants to do it around your date, have a little talk. It isn't fair for you guys to change your date, I mean you did set it before and she knew that.

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Posted by bride2b24

first of all they arent even engaged yet.....dont change your date Michelle!!!! seriously........she should not overstep you with this at all.....

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I completely agree!