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I know this might sound like the most obvious, no good advice, but have you seriously sat down and talked with him?

No drama, crying or hysterics--I mean just sat down with him and told him how you are feeling about his telephone antics? Sometimes, it's just a total misunderstanding and our guys are just tring to exert their independance in ways that might seem hurtful to us.

I don't know--I would talk with him. Tell him that I am hurting and ask him to be less secretive (even if it is only 'in your head').

Keep us posted...

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I don't know what to say to that. Well I actually do, but I don't want to offend you or have you thinking anymore about it than you already are. Maybe i should FM my advice to you, this way I don't get brawled out here.

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that sounds fckin shady.. sometimes when my FH walks into another room to make a call I follow him and im like wttf???? and ends up always being business I think we are all just paranoid sometimes.. I definatly would confront him and tel him how u feel about him doing this... You shouldnt feel jealous like that and he needs to re-assure u that everything is OK!

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Posted by gibi78

Guys you giving some good advice , there was a time i wanted to say something so badly , keep it in me because i did not want to make a huge fight about it......

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There is no reason to fight about it. Just sit down and talk about the way you are feeling. I will tell you that if he starts flipping out on you and getting defensive, I would then defend yourself to no end & def. make him show you his phone. You have every right to talk about anything with your FH and he should be there to comfort you.

Good luck

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Posted by gibi78

Guys you giving some good advice , there was a time i wanted to say something so badly , keep it in me because i did not want to make a huge fight about it......

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There is no reason to fight about it. Just sit down and talk about the way you are feeling. I will tell you that if he starts flipping out on you and getting defensive, I would then defend yourself to no end & def. make him show you his phone. You have every right to talk about anything with your FH and he should be there to comfort you.

Good luck

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Sometimes we know that something is wrong, call it womens intuition, but I have known in the past when something is not right and maybe you should now the whole truth before you deciede to marry someone. Talk 2 him see how he acts and what he says. Dont fight about it,

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Posted by gibi78

Something when we do talk about something , say the wedding we get into huge argument, and then he doesnt talk to me for the whole night, i dont want to go through that , it not fair to me

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Different ppl deal with arguments in different ways and unfortunately your FH thinks the silent treatment is acceptable. I've always felt that not speaking is so counterproductive. You need to be able to calmly discuss issues with your FH if you desire a healthy relationship. He has to be able to hear you out when there are things bothering you.
I think you should try talking to him calmly, without involving your emotions, and see what he says. You might be a little paranoid over this situation and he might have a perfectly logical explanation, therefore talking to him is the only way to find out.

Good Luck!

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If the talking doesn't work then try to get a copy of his cell phone statement or maybe try to get the phone when he's in the shower

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Remain calm if you talk to him and he gets on the defensive don't take the bait. He wants you to get riled up so that he can switch the topic and make it about you. The best way to resolve this is to keep the conversation about him and don't try to make him do anything you will defintiely be fighting and you will be the one hurt in the end. As long as you don't argue and he doesn't make you raise your voice or defend yourself you will have the upperhand fo the conversation. Once it becomes a match about who is tougher and who is right you will surely be made to feel wrong.

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Girl, I think a nice chat with your FH is in order. Do not accuse him of anything, just let him know that the extreme privacy with his cell phone (conversations, and taking it everywhere) is making you feel like he has something to hide.

On another note:
Now, this could be a long shot, but is he the type to enlist in anyone's help for a Christmas present which means he may be trying to tie up some final details........Like I said, a long shot, but a possibility.

We are here if you need us!!!

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Posted by Mikeysgirl

If the talking doesn't work then try to get a copy of his cell phone statement or maybe try to get the phone when he's in the shower

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Or when he's sleeping

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girls , i do not live with FH , we both live with our parents.....

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I dont have access to his phone , i have touched it once to see pictures and that;s it, which is weird, i not sure if any of you have looked through the phone log of ur FH cell phone.....