XOXO

im soooo glad were sooo ever the jealousy non trusting stage...but it look slike to me like theres more to it than that..what i mean is that u guys may have some undiscussed issues here....u should really openly sit and talk about it with him........i pay for fh cell phone so i have access to everything but ironically enough i never look at it......oh and by the way if ur fh phone has a memo or anyones phone then ur phone records conversations u have with other people...u can only hear their voices......but i would check that oout too....good luck hun....

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Posted by gibi78

I dont have access to his phone , i have touched it once to see pictures and that;s it, which is weird, i not sure if any of you have looked through the phone log of ur FH cell phone.....

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I have..but then again the phone is a shared plan and I am the primary owner so I get the statements in the mail...meaning I know who he is calling and who is callin him

I agree with PP about talking this over with him, at a time when you are not arguing, when your are both not stressed, without yelling or emotional outburst, in a calm way explaining how you feel and why you feel that way. That being said, I think that it is also important to carefully think about why you feel this way. Is there anything else (even little nagging doubts that seem insignificant) that has you worried? I am a firm believer, for myself, that intuitive feelings don't come from nowhere. Even if it's not anything close to the worst case scenario, there is usually something behind me getting a certain feeling about something. Not at all implying that there's necessarily something happening with him, it could just as easily be something that you're carrying with you from a past hurt or situation. Talk it out, and if that's not a possibility, maybe take a step back and look at the big picture. Sending lots of your way. It's no fun to feel like you do. Hoping the best for you. Kathy

I think that you should definitely speak to him about your feelings in a calm way. You have a right to air your feelings, and let him know what upsets you, so that you two can work on your relationship. You shouldn't have feelings of insecurity and distrust if you are so close to marrying this man. If he didn't love you, he never would've asked you!!

Do know though, that he has a right to his own privacy, just as you do. I don't think that spying on him, sneaking a look at his cellphone, email, phone statements is ever the answer. I don't do anything that would be considered shady or unfaithful towards my FH, but I WOULD feel very violated if he distrusted me enough to spy on me like that. I would rather he talk to me about it.

You should give your feelings some credit and talk to him. Definetely don't go into it like you are accusing him of anything. I would start by saying 'there is something that has been upsetting me......I am not saying you are doing anything wrong, but it would make me feel better if....'
I find that talking to FH about my feelings calmly, rather than pointing a finger at him works best.
Good luck!

If you are getting married there should be no 'secrets' being kept from each other.... I think his behavior is fishy! If he's got nothing to hide then why is he being so secretive.....This is a total no no in my opinion. I would DEF. have a talk with him and tell him how you feel.
XOXOXO
Kitty

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Posted by TLC1018

your gut will tell you what the best thing for you is. If you really feel deep down that something is wrong, listen to yourself and maybe sit down to discuss it with him.

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agreed...listen to what your gut is telling you. Talk to FH about this. If I felt like my FH was hiding things from me, it would be a major problem. I believe you should enter marriage openly and fully able to share everything with your partner..JMO

GL